Friday, March 26, 2010

Reader Discipline Questions

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Public Behavior
  • elle said...
    i went out last weekend wif my girlfriends. each of us bringing our chlid. my daughter is 14 months old and is a very active child. she cudnt even sit still, not for one seconds. since we were having drinks, i put her in her high chair and she started making noises wanting to go down. there she were climbing and walking aroud wif me eyeeing her. somehow my friend commented and it sounds like my child is not well behaved since she is roaming around compared to her son who is 2 yrs old and another one 15 months who is happily playing wif the toys and sitting on the high chair. well, i though eahc child is different. since mine is only 14 month old and she has just start walking, i dont think that just because of her roaming around and cudnt keep still on the high chair, that was considered as not behaved. any comments?
    Plowmanators said...
    Elle, This is hard to say. In many ways it is normal, especially for a new walker. All new walkers want to do is walk. Either way, walking around in a restaurant is not something I would allow long-term. This may have been a situation where it was an exception to do this. My son was also very active as a baby (and still is). I wouldn't ever let him get down in a restaurant no matter how much he wanted to. Now at 3, he never asks. So just remember that what you do now teaches him what he can do later in life, and while a 14 month old might be cute to other patrons, a wandering three year old will not quite draw the same reaction.
    elle said...
    so what do i do if i put my 15 months old on the high chair, n yet after a few minutes she gets bored and cries because she wanna goes down and walked around? suhd i just let her cry or put her down? i usually give her food to enjoy while we eat or sometimes toys for her to play wif but later i found out she just love throwing the toys and seeing me pick it up. im a first time mother and i believe i have yet, lots more to learn.thanx.
    Plowmanators said...
    This would be something I would practice at home, not the restaurant. You have to remember others; you don't want to ruin their restaurant experience to train your daughter. Work with her at home. Put her in the high chair with food. At this age, she should be eating with the family for most meals (maybe not dinner if you eat "late"). Give her finger foods. Once she is done with that, give her toys and books to play with. Rotate them. Don't play the pick up a million times game with her. Have practice sessions with her in the high chair where she has to sit for X number of minutes. Start with 5 and set a time. Give her the food or toys. She can get out only when the timer goes off, not with the amount of crying she does. It will take some time and practice, but you can get her there. Good luck!
Punishment
  • ProudMum said...
    Whenever u discussed about discipline and tantrums and obedience, u never mention of punsishment. Does babywise says that not to punsih at all ?
    July 25, 2008 10:33 AM
     
    Plowmanators said...
    Proudmum,Your baby is too young for punishment. There are "punishments" mentioned in Babywise, but they are in the forms of removing baby from the situation, for older babies some isolation, etc. Most discipline as younger ages are really redirection. But at 5 months your baby is not in need of any punishment. Just direction.
    July 28, 2008 11:31 AM
     
    ProudMum said...
    Hello Val, Ofcourse five months is not for punishment. I was just asking in general that how Babywise or toddlerwise philosophy deals with punishments.
    July 29, 2008 3:22 AM
     
    Plowmanators said...
    Proudmum, Always good to look to the future. There are several posts on this blog about discipline. If you go to the blog index and look under discipline, you will see several posts that discuss babywise, toddlerwise, and childwise strategies.
    July 30, 2008 3:12 PM
Self Control

 
Toddlers
  • Christie said...
    my daughter is now 14 months and for the past month she has not been listening as well, when I lay her down for a nap she screams and when I pick her up she stops, and she now hates playpen time,something she used to love. I love Babywise and up until now she has been like clockwork with the program. Now that she is walking, should I move to roomtime instead of playpen time? Her naps have been short to none at all for the past month. Thanks for your advice!!
    September 11, 2008 11:34 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    Christie, I would do roomtime now. Also, go to the blog index and look through posts under "Discipline" and "Naps" and "Sleep Problems."
    September 15, 2008 6:48 PM
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twinmommy said...

Twin question about room time. My twins are 17 months old and they share a room. I usually give them independent playtime in separate pack-n-plays with both in the same room. Any advice for moving from the pack-n-play to roomtime. I know I can't leave them together yet. Val and twin Moms I'd love to hear your suggestions.

Plowmanators said...

This would be a great "help a reader out" question. I will post that for you today.

Laura Bailey said...

To Christie: I believe in training a child to sleep on their own and not throw a fit about going to bed. But, I wondered if there was any chance that your daughter is teething. I suppose you would know the signs by now. But, my daughter is turning one in three days and she's getting her eye teeth in right now. Whenever she teeths she tends to get very unsettled and has a hard time going to sleep and wakes up early from all her naps and from her nighttime sleep. I always take this into consideration and give her a little extra help. Right now while she's getting her eye teeth she is having a very hard time. They seem to be the most difficult for her and she's waking early from every nap and very unsettled at night. I don't know if this is a consideration in your case, but since it's where I'm at right now, I thought I'd throw it out there incase it helps. Good luck!

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