Saturday, February 27, 2010

Product Review: Simply Serra

Giveaway Closed--Prize Claimed


Item: Flowers, tutus, snuglies, and headbands
Company: Simply Serra
Website: Simply Serra etsy shop
Contact: Serra

Do you love to doll your little girl up? I do. Are you crafty--or do you want to be? Simply Serra has lots of cute supplies for adorning your little girl at fabulous prices. Here is some info about Serra:

"I sell new and recycled flowers along with other random creations (baby snugglies, portrait tutus, and the portrait tutu instructions). Recycled flowers meaning they have been taken from previous floral arrangements for a whole new life for which one would create. This also means a lot of flowers in my shop are unique and a one-time show and those usually don't last long. My flowers have seen so many beautiful worlds having been made into clips for headbands, beanies, clothing, even wedding gowns and extravagant hair pieces. There are endless possibilities with these beauties!"

I think something notable about this shop is as I type this, she has had 508 ratings and 100% of them are positive. That is a good record!

Serra provided me with some flowers, and I made some cute little creations with them.

Aren't these going to be so cute for each girl for Independence Day?!?! I made them using white, red, and blue daisies.


How about this? I love the mixing of the colors.


Another favorite.



 These are just some samples of what you can do with these flowers--and they are so easy to make.

Not crafty? Don't want to be? There are other things for you.


How about an Urban Rosette. You have probably seen these around--they are very hot right now:


I know most of us love these crocheted headbands:




And I think this is my favorite. Look at the darling tutu for a newborn! AND if you are a crafty type, you can buy the pattern instead of the tutu and make one for your friends for gifts! These go on like a headband, so you don't need to disturb the baby to put it on.


Do you have a little boy? Don't worry. There is something for him, too. Serra has plush, minky snugglies to cuddle up with:

Lot's of fun things at Serra's shop! Some additional info, if you sign up for Serra's newsletter, she sends out great promotions and deals through that. Sign up at her etsy shop.

And, of course, Serra is doing a giveaway! This week, Serra is giving away 8 assorted crocheted headbands!

Serra is also doing a great discount. She is offering free shipping on orders over $15 for US residents and $30 for non US residents. When you order and use promo code BABYWISE when you checkout and she will refund shipping via paypal. Another option is you can send her a convo via etsy with your order and she will customize it for you.

Ready to enter to win those headbands?!?! Once again, we will have SEVEN chances (giveaway closed) to win! (please see rules below)

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Visit http://www.etsy.com/shop/simplyserra, look around, come back and comment telling us what your favorite thing that Serra sells.

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Giveaway closed--prize claimed.

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The Winner Is....

Eric and Darcy! Congratulations Eric and Darcy!

Please email me at valplowman@gmail.com to claim your prize. You have one week.

Thanks everyone!

Stay tuned for the next giveaway...

Friday, February 26, 2010

Giveaway--last day to enter!

Just a nice friendly reminder that today is the last day to enter the giveaway. It closes at 11:59 MST. See this post for details. Do not enter on this post--enter on the giveaway post. Any attempted entries on this post will not count.

Potty/Poop Training Tip: Give Fair Warning


We are now having success with pooping in the potty for Kaitlyn (2.5). The thing that ended up working is really what worked with Brayden, too, so I thought I had better post about it!

Brayden and Kaitlyn are two different people, and I learned quickly after Kaitlyn was born that they are often opposites in every way. They get along really well, but what worked for one doesn't usually work for the other. Therefore, I hadn't tried this tip with Kaitlyn even though it worked well with Brayden. Since it worked for both of them, my guess is it would be useful for almost any child.

Ready for this super secret? It is really simple. It goes something like this:

Mom: You are getting to be a big boy/girl now. It is time for you to stop pooping in a diaper and start pooping in a potty.
Child: Oh (or some other response that makes you sure the child isn't really grasping what you are saying)
Mom: In ____weeks (whatever time you want. I would do 2-4 weeks), you are going to start wearing underwear for _____ (naps, day, night...whatever you are shooting for). That will be after _____(insert event here. With Brayden, I used his birthday. With Kaitlyn, I used Valentines Day).

Over the next couple of weeks, remind your child often of the upcoming event.

When the day comes, follow through. Put on the underwear.

There you have it. That is my amazing tip.

IT WORKS?
It did for my children. My best guess currently is that it worked because it gave them time to think about it.

"Okay. I am not going to poop in diapers. I am going to poop in the potty." They then have time to think about the process when they poop/pee. How does it work? What are the cues?

Of course, your child must be old enough to understand what is going on. Brayden was three and Kaitlyn is 2.5. Keep that in mind.

OUR STORY
With Brayden, I was changing his diaper one day in early May and just decided I was done with diapers. I told him when he was three he wasn't going to wear them anymore. The morning of his birthday, he woke up, went over to his drawer, and pulled out some underwear. I was nervous because his birthday party was that day and I didn't want lots of accidents, but I had laid down the law and he was complying so we ran with it. He had a couple accidents in the morning, but then never looked back so far as pee goes. After a couple of weeks, he had pooping down, too.

Kaitlyn is a bit different, of course. She went to pee trained around 18 months old. She has always been great with it, but has had a hard time pooping in the potty. She asks me to teach her how, and try as I may, it just isn't something you can teach :). Each day, we put her in a diaper for naps and that is where she pooped.

After trying lots of things, I decided to give the fair warning like I did with Brayden. I gave her two weeks warning. Valentines Day came and no more diapers for nap. She did awesome! No accidents and she pooped in the potty! She still did it at nap time. I put her little potty in her room and she called me after she pooped. By the next Saturday, she went to the bathroom to poop all on her own.

I don't want to completely rejoice yet. I think there is a great chance we will have set backs in the future. It seems to happen. Who knows. But we are on the right path for sure and I am so excited about it!

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Thursday, February 25, 2010

Just When You Got It...Everything Changes

The final chapter in The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems is titled "Just When You Think You've Got It...Everything Changes!" Isn't that so true in parenting? "After all, this is the only job on earth in which not only do the requirements keep changing, but so does the "the product" " (page 366).

Oh, this is so true. From the very beginning, one of the most difficult things to pinpoint is waketime length. It changes constantly with those little newborns. By the time you figure it out, it is different tomorrow! As they get older, it does settle down and stay consistent for longer periods. But in doing my weekly summaries with McKenna, I have noticed it does change little by little over time. I guess you just get better at recognizing their individual sleep cues and don't even think so much about exact waketime length anymore.

How about sleeping? You spend several months working on sleeping skills, and around 3 or so months, things seem to really click for most babies. Then the rolling starts. Then the sitting up, the crawling, the talking...these disruptions bring along with them complete havoc to all you have worked for!

Or your baby finally starts to sleep through the night and you go on vacations, your baby gets sick, or she gets some new teeth in...setting you back several weeks.

And swaddling? Forget swaddling. You finally get the swaddle down perfectly and either A) the weather changes requiring a new blanket or B)your baby grows ten times stronger and breaks out of it with ease.

How about dressing your baby? You get just the right balance of clothing on him and the seasons change.

Introducing solids adds additional time to feedings. As soon as you both get in a groove, she starts blowing raspberries at meals.

You then have this sweet little thing who will sit and play on her own, perfectly content. Then she learns how to crawl and wants to explore the whole house.

The toddler years are a roller coaster with food. As soon as you tell your friend what a great eater you have, she will go on a hunger strike. Did you think corn was her favorite vegetable? Surely you were mistaken. She HATES corn.

Just when your life settles down, your preschooler gets a new mission. He must define all boundaries all over again. What can he get away with? How good are his negotiating skills?

You get my point.

Hogg points out that parenting is like climbing a mountain. You work really hard up steep portions. Then you get to plateaus that are relatively easy (this is the moment you will think, "man, I am a good parent. Things are so easy)--but you will soon come to another steep portion--and this part will be much harder to climb. If you want to make it to the top, you must press forward and keep going.

This idea is so true. Babies are hard, yes. But your only worries are eating and sleeping. You don't have to worry about teaching letters, numbers, manners, and morals! Older children bring along eating and sleeping worries...and just add many more things to the list for you to worry about.

With this post, I don't want to discourage you. I am hoping you read this in good humor. Let's laugh at ourselves and our situations. It is inevitable; the difficult moments will come. I have always been one to say that during difficult times you can either laugh or cry. Laughing is more fun--and it makes the whole thing more bearable.

I also hope that as you read this you will see that difficult times are normal. Perfectly normal. You will experience sleep difficulties. You will have food issues. You will have discipline problems. You just will. Over and over. It is part of the package. Expect and accept it. These things don't mean you are a bad parent or your child is a bad child. It just means you are moving ahead.

The view from the top is beautiful, and you will have a much healthier (though worn out) heart and body when you get there. Keep trudging! You can do it!


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Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Great News For Polls

Well, it took me a full hour, but I got the poll results index done! Now you can search for previous polls with much more ease. See the index here.

Poll Results: If your baby had eczema, which lotion-type item worked best?

Aquaphor: 67 votes (26%)
Aveeno: 56 votes (21%)
Burt's Bees: 11 votes (4%)
Calforina Baby: 15 votes (5%)
Cerave: 7 votes (2%)
Deramed: 0 votes (0%)
Eucerin: 26 votes (10%)
Prescription: 17 votes (6%)
Other: 57 votes (22%)

Total of 256 votes

If you choose "other," please leave a comment sharing what you used! Thanks!

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Reminder: You can leave comments on poll results posts if you would like to add to the poll after it has closed. This would be helpful for those who have more than one child, those whose children have reached certain ages after a poll closed, and those who didn't visit the blog while that poll was open. To find closed polls, click on the poll results link above.

Lifetime Goals

Okay. Did you do your homework? Do you have your goals written down? Here is our list (in no particular order--and I think some things are kind of redundant):

I want my children to be able to....
  • Take care of themselves physically.
    • eat right
    • cook good meals
    • clean themselves
    • exercise
    • laundry
  • Take care of their house
    • Clean
    • Fix things when broken
    • Shop for things (groceries, find deals, etc.)
    • Take care of yard
  • Garden
  • Sew (this will be on level of interest, but I want basic skills to be known)
  • Appropriate car maintenance (again, on level of interest with basic skills know)
  • Fix things that are broken so they don't buy things over and over
    • repair clothes
    • fix cars
  • Take care of family
    • nurture
    • take care of children
    • teach children
  • Be able to earn an income
  • Be wise with money
    • save money
    • invest wisely
    • avoid debt
  • Do something musically
  • Be involved in something physical (sports, dance, etc.)
  • Have interpersonal skills
  • Have a personal testimony of the gospel
    • pray
    • recognize the spirit
    • study scriptures
  • Know how to find answers on their own to questions they have
    • research skills
    • discernment
    • prayer
  • Be kind to others and be service-oriented
  • Be able to schedule appointments
  • Talk to adults and authority figures comfortably
  • Call businesses/classifies/strangers
  • Buy things wisely

So...what is on your list? Please share!

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

McKenna Baby Summary: Week 47

Remember last week how no news was good news? Well, this week I have lots of news, and not all good.

NURSING
We are still nursing 4 times a day and all is well with supply, but not all is well with nursing.

I started to suspect a yeast infection in one breast early in the week. I then waited (like a fool) four days before calling the doctor about it. By the time I did call, I knew it was a yeast infection because not only did I have the burning fire inside my breast, but I had potholes all over my nipple that were bleeding and a rash all around the areola. Yes, I am dumb. I should have called sooner. I am now on dyflucan and using Newman's Nipple Cream (which has saved my life). It is mildly better. Instead of curling my toes and grinding my teeth in pain, I just squeeze my stomach and close my eyes in pain when she nurses. It is slight, but an improvement just the same. Good thing because I couldn't have lasted to 12 months old like that.

Ah. But that isn't all. At the beginning of this, McKenna started trying out biting me. So not only does she suck hard, but thought it would interesting to bite. I told her not to, and she would just lightly do it and wait for my reaction. It didn't cause pain (happily) but still not something I wanted to deal with. I started ignoring her because she was obviously wanting a reaction from me. After a couple days of ignoring that, she stopped.

At the height of the bleeding, McKenna stopped nursing from that side. It probably tasted gross. I didn't mind because, man, it was painful. So I pumped to make sure supply could somewhat stay up. She did that for about a day. Once she started nursing again, things have been fine so far as supply goes.

DROPPING THIRD NAP
The third nap is still dropped.

CHURCH DISRUPTION
Our church schedule was different this week. Instead of 1, we had it at 10 AM. 10 AM is nice so far as the rest of the family goes, but for McKenna, that is a rough time. She and I spent most of the time sitting in the mother's lounge. I didn't bring any toys or anything in there and she just at on my lap. I tried to rock her to sleep, but she wouldn't do it. She was happy to sit on my lap and look at me :) At least I was able to listen to speakers still.

When we got home, it was about noon. I decided to put her down for a short nap before lunch. She normally eats at 12:30. I let her sleep until 1:15 then got her up, fed her, and she played for a short time before going down for her second nap. I can't remember exactly, but I think she went down about 2:30. The rest of the day was normal.

OUR SCHEDULE
8:20 AM--wake, nurse, solids (prunes or peaches/apricots and oatmeal). This is when we do a bath and independent playtime. We then do sibling playtime.
10:15 AM--nap.
12:30 PM--wake, nurse, solids (green veggie and applesauce. Sometimes mix with blueberries or cherries). She then "helps" me put Brayden in rest time (which just means telling him to go) and Kaitlyn down for her nap. This is then free play with me in the same room.
2:20 PM--nap
4:30 PM--wake, nurse, solids (yellow veggie and bananas or pears). Then time with Daddy.
5:30ish PM--dinner with family. Finger foods and what we are having. Then time with family.
7:15-7:30 PM--nurse, PJs, story, prayers, bed.

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Monday, February 22, 2010

Consequences

I think the most powerful discipline tool you have as a parent is consequences. If X, then Y. It sounds simple enough, right? Well, we all know raising children isn't ever that simple, so let's try to elaborate. There are two types of consequences:

NATURAL
Natural consequences are something that happens naturally when you do something. Maybe your child is bugging the cat over and over even after being told not to and the cat scratches him. The pain from the scratch is the natural consequence [kind of off topic here, but I once had a vet tell me to never scold the child for doing something to a dog, like hitting, in front of the dog if the dog retaliated. You don't have to let the dog retalitate--I would address that. Also address your child, but not in front of the dog. Okay, back to the topic at hand]. Natural consequences are pretty easy because you don't have to do anything. They naturally happen.

FUZZY LINE
Here is the fuzzy line of consequences. There are consequences that happen pretty automatically and can be considered natural, except they are controlled by people. Looking ahead, say your child was late for school because he wouldn't get out of bed. The school docks his grade unless it is an excused tardy. You, the parent, have the power to offer the excuse. This is a situation when consequences get difficult. You want your child to have good grades. Think of the importance of the grades on his life! But you also don't want to bail him out for being a slacker.
This is a situation I believe you have him accept the consequences for his actions. I am sure some will disagree, but I think most experts agree with me on this. I would have him take the grade hit. He didn't get out of bed and he needs to face all of the consequences that brings wit it.

It is harder than you might think to allow your child to face consequences. Our world is gaining more and more people unwilling to accept the consequences of their actions. Nothing is ever their fault. Even something like running out of money in the checking account isn't their fault. It must be someone else's. The bank didn't tell them. So-and-so took a long time to cash a check so they thought they had more money than they did. We are constantly looking for bail outs. Most of these people were raised by parents who felt bad for the child and removed these natural consequences in life.

LOGICAL
I use logical consequences more than any other tool in disciplining. They work well for my brain; I am very logical. Don't pick up your toys? Lose them. Can't get along with your sibling? Then you don't get to play with your sibling. Didn't eat your dinner? Don't expect an early breakfast. Did you turn on the TV without asking? I guess you lost TV for the week then. Did you mis-use a toy? Then you don't get to play with it. Did you color on the table on purpose? No more coloring today.

I think logical consequences can sound harsh. The parent sounds compassion-less and strictly judgmental. I honestly see people in chat groups that say they don't let their child experience consequences as they come. They shield them. They protect them. They are only children after all!

Low Stakes
I like the thought from the book Parenting With Love and Logic. The book says you need to teach consequences while the stakes are low. So your 2 year old is absolutely devastated that she can't color any more today (yes, real life example from two days ago). She has the perfect little sad face and the tears fall just right. Her big eyes are brimming. Her lip pouts. She hugs you in despair.

You think, "oh, she is repentant. I am going to forgive her and give back these crayons." How likely do you think she is going to be to color on that table again? Very. I would bet she colors on the table again that same night.

Let's say instead you think, "Oh good. She is experiencing the pain of a consequence. From my perspective, losing crayons is not a big deal in her life. I am going to let her ride this out." Perhaps by starting on this path now, you are better equipped to avoid her losing her license for traffic violations. She will not always be able to turn on the charm and cry her way out of situations in life. At some point, someone somewhere is going to call her out and force her to face the choice she made. If it isn't you, it will be friends, school, bosses, law enforcement, the bank...someone will do it. It is an easier lesson to learn on crayons than on a mortgage.

But let's take this up a level. I think most of you are desirous of more for your children than avoiding getting into financial or legal trouble. As Walter Williams recently put it, "Laws Are a Poor Substitute for common Decency, Moral Values." Just because something is "legal" doesn't make it right morally. We want to teach our children to understand that actions have consequences while they are young so they can learn to apply this understanding in their lives morally. Then they can be internally driven to do what is right rather than simply trying to stay within the bounds of the law.

Logical consequences are hard. They take consistency and resolve. They require that you listen to more crying and whining than you would otherwise. Keep the end goal in mind. You are the parent. It is your job to teach the effects of choices and consequences. Yours. The world will hand the consequences out. It is your job to prepare your child while the stakes are low. And in the end, you want your child choosing the right even if there are no obvious consequences attached to doing something wrong.

Another example of low stakes found in Love and Logic is the idea of getting hurt. They basically say (if I remember right) that you should allow your young toddler to get hurt while the stakes are low. Now, this doesn't mean you hand her a knife or put her up at the top of the stairs and say "jump!" You still need to make her environment safe. But it means you don't hover. You allow her to trip and fall. You allow her to go walk on the rocks and discover they are pokey.

My caveat with this idea is I think you first need to educate the child, and you also need to allow things age appropriately. You tell your child the rocks are pokey and it will hurt her feet to walk on them--and this is assuming she is old enough to understand. You don't put your toddling 12 month old down on the ground and tell her to avoid the rocks.

Their point here was that sometime, this child is going to take a physical risk. It will be best if he did it while the stakes were low. He can understand what pain feels like and that he isn't superman after all in a low-stakes situation. If he goes through his toddler years being protected from every fall, then as his physical abilities improve, and therefore his ability to take higher risks improve, he has a greater chance of getting hurt, and hurt seriously. You can't hover forever. Someday, he will be somewhere without you.

I remember this thought being powerful to me with Brayden. I was the hovering mom trying to make sure he never felt pain. I caught him before he hit the floor. I finally let go and allowed him to do age-appropriate things where he might get hurt. With Kaitlyn, I was awesome at this from the beginning. I have been the same. To this day, Brayden handles physical pain with the least amount of dignity than all my kids :).

Remember Context
While applying logical consequences, remember context. When your child is sick, teething, tired, or hungry, have extra patience for your child. Logical consequences are a just action. As the parent, you need to be sure you apply mercy here, also. Use your best judgment to know how much to ignore during these tired and sore times for your child.

CONCLUSION
Don't underestimate the power of consequences. I really think if you can apply and allow consequences appropriately, you don't have to do much else in the form of correction. While I don't love everything in Love and Logic, I think it is great for getting you in the mindset of applying logical consequences. In fact, I should probably read it again. It has been a few years. There is also some discussion of consequences in On Becoming Preschool Wise.

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Saturday, February 20, 2010

Product Review: Ultra Personalized Baby Blanket

Giveaway Closed--Prize Claimed


Item: Ultra Personalized Baby Blanket
Company: Fill In The Blankie
Website: fillintheblankie.com

I am sentimental. Very sentimental. I have a hard time throwing away a ticket stub to a movie I didn't like, so when I saw these blankets from Fill In The Blankie, of course I was hooked.
 
When Brayden was a baby, we got a cute little blanket with his name...but it was nothing like this. At Fill In The Blankie, you can have up to 200 characters on your blanket. That is a lot. Another unique thing about these blankets is that they are very soft. This is luxury for your baby :) When McKenna got her blankie, I kid you not, she rubbed her cheek on it over and over again and then cuddled it.
 
It is kind of hard (but fun) to choose what you want. They have 39 blanket styles and colors with 27 fonts and 18 thread colors. Each blanket is made from 100% woven cotten and trimmed with two inches of satine (this is where the embroidery goes). Prices start at $39.00
 
For our blanket, we did McKenna's full name, her date of birth, time of birth, weight, length, place of birth, and "adored by Daddy, Mommy, Brayden, and Kaitlyn." How sweet!
 
Wouldn't you love one for your little one?
 
Here's the great news. Fill In The Blankie is doing not only a giveaway but also a discount! Wahoo!
 
The winner of the giveaway will win one free blankie! It is quite a generous offer. You will receive a virtual giftcard of $100 so you can get whatever you want!
 
If you aren't the winner, you can still get a 20% discount by using promotional code BWISE.
 
Ready to hear how to enter? Here we go (remember--ONE entry per comment. If you want multiple entries, you must leave multiple comments). This week, you have SEVEN chances to enter!:  GIVEAWAY CLOSED
 
For Your First Entry:
Become a follower of this blog. Then leave a comment. If you are already a follower, comment telling me so.
 
Sample Entry
Hi! I am now a follower!

For Your Second Entry:
Visit fillintheblakie.com, look around, come back and comment telling us which blanket you will get if you win.

Sample Entry
If I win, I am getting the Sheety Blanket in Chocolate Balloons.

For Your Third Entry:
Tell us what type of info you will put on your blankie if you win. Not your actual personal information, just the general idea.

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If I win, I will list the baby's siblings, parents, grandparents, and great grandparents for a family tree record (isn't that a cute idea? I just thought of that).

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Follow this blog via Facebook. Then comment. Already do? Leave a comment saying so.

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For Your Fifth Entry:
Blog about the giveaway! You need to have a blog in order to blog about it. Once you have posted your blog, leave a comment with a link to the blog.

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I blogged it! valscreations.blogspot.com

For Your Sixth Entry:
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For Your Seventh Entry:
Tweet about it! Then leave a comment saying you did so. (HINT: You can click on the share button at the bottom of the post and choose Twitter. It will automatically set you up with the tweet!).

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ENTRY INFO
  • You must leave a comment in order to have an entry.
  • You must leave a separate comment for each entry. This is not so I can get lots of comments--it is because it makes it a million times easier to choose a winner. It takes less time, and less time is good.
  • You don't have to do all seven entries...for example, if you just want to tweet about it but don't want to enter through the other methods, you can just do entry seven.
  • One entry per comment.
  • Up to seven entries per person.
  • You must fulfill the rules of each entry for each entry to count.
  • Entries will be accepted until 11:59 PM Friday, February 26 Mountain Standard Time.
  • The winner will be randomly selected at random.org
  • The winner will be announced Saturday, February 27.
  • If you would like, you can add your email address to your entry. If you are the winner, I will email you to let you know. You do not need to add your email address in order to win. I understand not everyone wants to share their email addresses with the world. I will announce the winner on the blog, so you can check the blog to find out if you won.
  • Once the winner is announced, you will have one week to contact me or another winner will be chosen.
Good luck!

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Friday, February 19, 2010

Reader Nap Questions

Cat Naps:

Dropping Naps:
  • Beth said...

    Hi!My daughter is just over 5 months old and still taking 4 naps a day. She has always had trouble with the 45 minute intruder, although we did have great naps between 9 and 16 weeks. Then at the 4 month mark, we were back to waking 45 mins to 1 hour into every nap. We are currently on a combination 3 to 3 1/2 hour schedule, but I'm thinking she should maybe move to 4 hours so we can cut out a nap. The only problem is that she won't stay awake for longer than 1 1/2 hours - and her naps are not 2 1/2 hours long. Since her naps during the day aren't very good, she gets extremely cranky between her 530pm and 8pm feedings if I try to push to keep her awake. She was STTN (from 9pm until 7am), but recently started waking at 530am fussing. Any ideas on what I should be doing? Thank you!
    May 3, 2008 11:30 AM

    Plowmanators said...
    You likely need to drop that 4th nap. There is a section in BW on baby suddenly waking in the night. It is often caused by too many naps in the day. Keep in mind that it can be a weaning process (see Dropping a Nap: A Weaning Process: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/dropping-nap-weaning-process.html ). See also the other nap dropping posts.
    May 4, 2008 4:10 PM
  • heather said...

    My baby is 7 months old. She is still taking 3 naps a day. At what point do you think I should move her to two naps a day? Her 3 naps are usually around 1.15 or 1.30 a piece, except the third can be shorter depending on our day. I think according to BW, she should only be taking two naps a day by now, but she hasn't always fit the book's time table. How do you know when they're ready to make the switch?
    May 18, 2008 7:44 AM

    Plowmanators said...
    Heather, Each book gives a different time table for when to drop that 3rd nap. By 6 months, Babywise says most babies can drop that third nap. Babywise II says a 6 month old will need 2 naps and a catnap (short nap). I have found Babywise II to be more accurate for my children.Both Babywise II and Toddlerwise say that by 8 months, most babies will be able to drop that 3rd nap (catnap). Remember, you are the parent. If you have a big sleeper and she is still sleeping well at night, you don't need to eliminate that nap. At nearly 10 months old, Kaitlyn still needed it some nights. It wasn't fully dropped until 11 months.

    See these posts:
    Dropping a Nap: A Weaning Process: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/dropping-nap-weaning-process.html
    Dropping Naps: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/dropping-naps.html
    Dropping the 3rd Nap (evening): http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/dropping-3rd-nap-evening.html
    In Action: Dropping the Third Nap: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/in-action-dropping-3rd-nap.html
    May 19, 2008 10:38 AM
  • heather said...
    My 7 1/2 month old refused to go down for her third nap today. Normally she goes down perfectly with little to no crying. After an hour of trying, I decided that she just wasn't going to sleep. We got up and she played and was happy as she could be. She got cranky before bedtime, of course, so we put her down about 45 minutes early. Could she be ready to drop that nap? I read your posts on dropping naps and I really think she may be like your Kaitlyn and it will just depend on the day for awhile. Her other naps were 1.30 and 1.15. Is that enough sleep? Any thoughts?
    May 22, 2008 8:49 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    Heather, She is definitely in a normal age range for dropping that nap. I think taking it as a weaning process makes it much easier on the whole family, rather than dropping it cold turkey like I did with Brayden. Remember when dropping it that she will need an earlier bedtime than usual. Kaitlyn now has her normal bedtime, but it took her about a month to get to the normal bedtime after dropping the third nap all together.
    May 23, 2008 4:53 PM
  • The Lewis Farm said...
    I have a question on morning naps. First off, I have to extend a sincere, very deep from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU for this blog. It has been helpful more than I could ever explain to you. You are heaven-sent! My 5 month old has had moderate success dropping his 4th nap (late morning) about 4wks ago. When he was doing 4 naps, his 2 morning naps were each 1hr long. {I realize this is shorter than recommended, but he sleeps 11-12hrs at night, so I'm willing to work with that.} 50% of the time, he has one successful 2hr nap. The other 50%, he only naps an hour. My options are: 1. I put him down for a second morning nap (about an hour long). 2. I let him fuss it out until he falls back to sleep. I've tried the 2nd option with varying success. He is obviously still tired b/c his eyes are closed and he sounds tired while fussing, but he will fuss for an hour sometimes if I let him. There are no external noise factors, I've ruled out all other possible issues. Your advice is appreciated. Again, thanks so much for this blog. ~Kelly
    October 18, 2008 11:25 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    Kelly, you are welcome! Thanks for the thanks. I would actually recommend you try working with waketime lengths rather than trying to drop a nap in the morning. The 4th nap that is dropped is the evening nap (between the 4ish and 7ish feedings). Babies can handle a longer waketime in the evening than in the morning. I would try perhaps lengthening waketime by about 5 minutes at a time to see if that helps.
    October 22, 2008 12:04 PM
  • Amanda said...
    Good morning! I read your blog faitfully and thank God for a wiser woman to learn from in this regard. I have a 15 month old who is starting to struggle with both naps. If she takes a morning nap, then she cries for a long time in the afternoon and sometimes doesn't ever go to sleep. (I usually go and get her up after crying for an hour. :(What should I do? Drop the morning nap altogether?Thank you!- Amanda
    January 24, 2009 8:37 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    Amanda,It is possible she is ready to drop the morning nap. She is definitely in the age range. See these posts to help you decide:Dropping Naps: A Quick Reference : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/11/dropping-naps-quick-reference.html Dropping the Morning Nap (from 2 to 1 naps): Transition Time : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/10/dropping-morning-nap-from-2-to-1-naps.html
    January 29, 2009 11:24 AM
Nap Disruptions:
  • Amanda said...
    I have a question about my 9 month old (just 9 months on July 31.) She sleeps from 8pm - 8am and takes a great morning nap (10am - 11:45), and used to go down for an afternoon nap at 2pm. But, now she's rolling around and trying to crawl and seems to not be tired at 2pm. Should I just do CIO and treat this as a symptom of learning a new skill? Or, move her naptime to later in the afternoon???Sorry this is kind of unrelated to your post. Thank you!
    August 5, 2008 3:36 PM

    Plowmanators said...
    Amanda,I would first give it some time to see if it is the new skill. It is highly likely that is the reason for it. After some time if things don't change, I would start messing with waketime length.

    August 5, 2008 11:12 PM
  • ProudMum said...
    My baby is five months 3 weeks. For morning nap I put her down after 1 hour and after 15,20 mins she went to sleep on her own. she wakes up after 1 hour , I wait for 15 mins (she plays)then I pick her up and after 2.5 hrs from first feed I feed her but when I put her down after 1 hour , she cries and cries and cries and sleep approx after 2 hrs. I dont understand where is problem. This second waketime , she gets overtired? or she wanna sleep for one more hour?she is almost doing same daily.
    August 6, 2008 7:33 AM

    ProudMum said...
    She is again waking up at night. So I added solids 2 times, plus 5 feedings. but she is still waking up at night takes feed and then sleep. from previous 2.5 months she was sleeping whole night.
    August 6, 2008 7:39 AM

    Plowmanators said...
    Proudmum, That is a bit unusual. Does she cry before naps usually (all naps in general). If she is at the point where she doesn't cry, it would be odd for her to cry at 5 months old. Do you put her down 1 hour after she wakes, or one hour after you feed? If it is one hour after you feed, she could be overly tired. It is also possible she needs a slightly longer waketime. I would first try a shorter waketime. If that doesn't work, try longer but not much. She could be going through a growth spurt. You could try feeding her 6 times in the day. She isn't going to be proficient enough with solids yet to compensate for a growth spurt.
    August 6, 2008 10:30 PM
  • ProudMum said...
    our neighbourhood is quite noisy, lots of dogs and cats, children play on road. plus so much heavy rain is usual in UK. My baby pays attention to each and every sound and sometimes she wakes up and sometimes difficult to sleep. we even have double glazed windows. any tips,tricks or suggestions that she can sleep and avoid noise.
    August 15, 2008 3:57 AM
    Krystal said...
    Proudmum,You could try putting a fan in her room (if you are concerned she might get cold, just point the fan away from her) so that she has some white noise. That helps w/ my daughter.
    August 16, 2008 10:22 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    Yep, I would suggest something similar. You can also buy machines made simply for white noise. That is what I would do in your situation
    August 17, 2008 11:11 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    BTW--Thanks Krystal!
    August 17, 2008 11:11 PM
  • Todd and Noelle said... This is unrelated to this post, but could you tell me what might be approximate nap times when a baby is down to just 2 naps and doesn't seem to need such exact "X amounts of wake time"? Is 9 and 1 pretty typical? Or is it more common to have more wake time during middle of the day, with nap times say at 9 and 2?? Maybe the times are pretty different based on the individual child, but I was curious. Thanks! My son is 10 1/2 months now. August 19, 2008 10:49 AM

    Plowmanators said... Noelle, that is going to depend on the child. Right now Kaitlyn naps at 9:50 and 2:00. So it depends on your baby's waketime, but 9 and 1 are definite possibilities.
    August 19, 2008 9:12 PM
  • ProudMum said...
    Things really clicked when my baby hits six months, she is eating well 3 times with no probs, napping was too fine until 2,3 days now. Is it stupid question? My baby is waking up from nap very early just because she has poo,which she never did before. is it something to do with solids?will she be back to normal?many a times I read word My 'LO' what does it mean?
    August 23, 2008 9:27 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    ProudMum,I am glad you have had some improvement. One thing to consider is a 6 month growth spurt. See this post: 5-8 Month Sleep Disruptions : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/05/6-month-sleep-disruptions.html
    If it is because of the pooping (which is possible), she should change at some point, but it could go on for a while and you can't do anything about it. LO=little one. This refers to your child.
    August 28, 2008 7:32 AM
    Krystal said...
    proudmum,LO means Little One :) That is just a way to refer to the baby w/o saying their name. My daughter wakes up when she poops too, and (depending on how much time in her nap she has left) I change her and put her right back to bed. If she only has like 10 min. left in her nap I just let her stay up and put her down for her next nap 10 min. early. If she has like an hour left, I definently put her back to bed after I take care of her diaper. :)
    August 24, 2008 9:47 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    Thanks Krystal, good tip!
    August 28, 2008 7:34 AM
  • Emily said... My 7 month DD has a sleep problem that I just discovered! I'm a stay at home Mom so she's usually sleeping at home. She used to nap at my parents or inlaws with no problem. However, ever since she learned to pull herself up in the crib (about 2 weeks ago) she will only sleep in our crib. At my parents she just stands up crying. She knows how to get down b/c I've seen her do it then switch sides to stand up on. I've tried leaving her, going in and laying her down, I even bring a teddy bear that we put in our cib at home when she sleeps. Do you have any tips I can try? Thanks
    August 22, 2008 3:13 PM

    Plowmanators said... Emily, I can think of a few possibilities. One would be some form of separation anxiety at the homes of others. Another strong possibility is that she doesn't have varied sleeping locations and so it is hard for her to settle in other locations. Do you ever put her in a different room at home in a pack and play or something? This is something that will either pass with time or you will have to work on slowly.
    August 28, 2008 10:04 AM
  • ProudMum said...
    Hello,My baby is now 11 months old since one month she is master in crawling. since 6 months she is sleeping through night with not a single waking.but from 2 weeks she is waking up between 11 to 12 , and cry , I goto her room I found her sitting in cot, then I lay her down and she goes back to sleep and wake up on her usual time. This is for sure that this is not due to hunger. I dont know whats going on. PLease help me
    January 16, 2009 2:56 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    Proudmum,I would wonder if she is sick or teething or if there is some noise waking her. It is also possible that she is getting up and working on her crawling skills and then needing help getting settled back down to go to sleep. At 11 months, to suddenly start waking and then go back to sleep so easily, there is something that is bothering her and waking her. You will have to really pay attention and see if you can figure out what it is.
    January 22, 2009 1:41 PM
Short Naps:
  • Todd and Noelle said...
    I have another nap question, as well:My 5 month old son has been having a LOT of nap problems for about a month. I try putting him down earlier (shorter waketimes) and that does seem to help him fall asleep quicker and easier, but it does not prevent him from waking 45 minutes later, often crying. I have tried CIO in the middle of naps, but usually after 30 minutes of that I figure he is not going back to sleep. I have let him go almost an hour a couple of different times, but he still never went back to sleep. What would you suggest at this point? Letting him CIO for a certain length of time? Getting him up but not feeding him until I typically would, which would put him down for a nap again pretty quickly after that next feeding? Feeding him when I get him up although I don't really think he is hungry? This is happening every day to every nap, so he is basically taking 4 or 5 35-45 minutes naps, no good ones. Thanks or your help!~Noelle
    March 21, 2008 3:53 PM
    IzzysMama said...
    Im having the same problems right now and the same questions! Finally the last nap of the day today I got 2.5hrs!! Im curious to hear other people's thoughts on this. Let me know if you figure something out. :)
    March 21, 2008 9:07 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    Noelle,One possibility would be to try to drop that 4th nap...but that could be really hard if other sleep isn't going well.Another possibility is that you are just going through a phase. I don't think I would just do CIO for a certain amount of time because be will quickly figure out that you will be there soon. I think in your situation I would either try to get him to fall asleep in a swing or something or just get him up. Some moms have found success getting baby up, playing for a bit, then putting baby back down for a second nap in the napping period. I would feed as soon as your cycle allows (e.g. 2.5 hours or 3 hours). Good luck!
    March 22, 2008 10:53 PM
    Todd and Noelle said...
    Thank you!~Noelle
    March 24, 2008 8:08 PM
  • ProudMum said...
    since 1 month i am having nap problems , well she was not good at but was no bad. now she is waking after 30 mins and not sleep. sometimes she takes only 45 minutes. very very occasionally she takes 2 hrs with awakening then i goto her swing then she sleeps. she is 4 months. i tried feeding , it didnt help. she sleeps in her swing during daytime and in her cot in my bedroom at nighttime. since 1 month she is giving me problem at night bed time as well. her usual bedtime is 8:30 but she resisted it and not sleeping and waking at 5am. then I realized she might be now not need last fourth nap. if she dropped her nap, what bedtime should it be?at nighttime when she wakes up she is able to sooth herself,but at 6:30 waking or 5am waking she is not able to soothe herself and wakes may be because of light.Before one month she was able to sooth herself at night time bedtime as well by thumbsucking as well.Now everything is messed up, she even now me to sit near her swing and move that swing fast to sleep her up. I am tired and desperate some solution. waiting for ur reply. thanx. I tried CIO sometimes it works , sometimes its not.I even have started 2 weeks ago baby rice but no solution, she is still teasing me. so during daytime i am feeding her every 2 hrs or 2.5 hrs breastfeeding.
    June 26, 2008 5:31 AM
    ProudMum said...
    could you please remove my name starting from 'R' in ur reply to mine first comment to this blog thanx.this is always tricky for me that how to put baby in crib after feeding when he is asleep, because whenever I do that she always woke up and I have to do it again and again. e.g now a days she woke up early in morning, she sucks for 5 mins and then sleep but when I put her to cot , she woke up. is there any special trick or tip to know when baby is in deep sleep and she wont know where she is going. her cot is near to foot of my bed, I took her to my bed then I stand up and then put her to cot. as u mention many times that u feed and put baby afterwards, I wonder is it really so easy?
    June 26, 2008 9:48 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    Proudmum,I am not sure what you mean about removing your name? If it is on another post, you will have to tell me which post it is. There are far too many comments for me to be able to keep track of who posts where and when their first posts were :)My kids dropped their fourth naps at 4 months. See the sample schedules post to see what our schedule was like: Sample Schedules : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/03/sample-schedules.html I didn't ever feed to sleep then put to bed many times. For the dreamfeed, my daughter would often fall asleep at the end, but I fought her to stay awake for a full feeding. In the night, it was the same. But many times she woke up when I put her in bed, then she went back to sleep. You don't really want to nurse to sleep. If they are asleep, you don't necessarily have to wake them, but you also don't need to make that your goal.
    June 26, 2008 11:18 PM
  • New Mama said...
    My 5 month old (just turning) is struggling with short naps. She goes down for her naps (and nighttime) beautifully. I read a story, put on a lullaby CD and put her to bed and she falls to sleep on her own. She sleeps for 30-45 minutes. It doesn't matter if I cut down her awake time or extend it, still just 30-45 minutes. I am pretty sure the problem is the pacifier. She of course wakes up looking for it (she does this about 3 and sometimes 4 times in the night). At night, she always goes back to bed. During naptime, she does not go back to sleep after 45 minutes. I tried to let her CIO yesterday for one of the naps and she went crazy (kind of like your son). There was no calming her. How does this CIO thing work...how much am I supposed to let her cry...all the way to the next feeding? I see I have to figure out if she can see me or not to calm her...seems harsh for her not to see me all of a sudden when I've been there for 5 months. Appreciate any suggestions anyone may have.
    July 30, 2008 12:53 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    If you want to keep the paci in her life, I would go in when she wakes and reinsert it one time. The problem I see is that she is used to the pacifier to soothe her. She should be close to the age where she can reinsert it herself (usually 6-8 months old). See this post: Pacifiers : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/04/pacifiers.html If you decide to ditch the pacifier, see this post: CIO Bootcamp: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/11/cio-bootcamp.html
    August 3, 2008 3:02 PM
  • Moo said...
    Hi! Thank you sooo much for your blog!! I have a question that has probably already been asked a hundred times, but i still need some clarification. I have a 5 1/2 month old son who, for the past 2 months or so, has been waking 30-40 minutes into his naps. It started off as one early waking every now and then, but now it's every single nap. I've tried treating it as a feeding problem but he seems to eat no matter what time it is, i've tried letting him cio (he cries until his next feed time), i've tried earlier and later waketimes, keeping a log, trying to help him through the transition time, burping him, a different bed, checking my milk supply,and a long list more, to no avail. After reading about your daughter (who sounds very similar in temperament to my son) and putting her in the swing, i borrowed one and transferred him to it when he woke. He slept until i got him up. Prior to his short naps he was on a perfect 3 hour schedule of 1.5 hours waketime and 1.5 hours sleep. I'm confused as to whether you continued to put your daughter in the swing until one day she started sleeping through, or whether you had to do some sleep troubleshooting. If he's just going to cry until i get him for feedtime (i've tried letting him cry longer, but goes over his feedtime which probably isn't helping) how can i help him cio to learn to go back to sleep? I did cio with him in his first weeks and he is now a fantastic 'getting to sleep' napper. He still sleeps all through the night. Do you have any other advice? i don't want the swing to become a sleep prop but for the past 8 weeks his routine has gone out the window since the 30 minute naps and subsequent 'snowball' of fatigue makes his whole routine 1.5 hours long (1 hour waketime is all he can take, and 30 minutes sleep). Thanks, i'm all out of ideas!!!
    August 19, 2008 8:56 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    I would be wary of the swing at this point. Since he slept well, then started waking at this age, I would say there is some reason he is waking. It isn't a self-soothing issue. It could be teething...see the troubleshooting naps post. There are so many possibilities, but I would say there is a real reason for the early waking. See also this post:5-8 Month Sleep Disruptions : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/05/6-month-sleep-disruptions.html Naps: Troubleshooting: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/12/naps-troubleshooting.html
    August 19, 2008 9:32 PM
  • Kate said...
    Hello, My daughter is ten weeks old, and she has been waking after 45-60 min. of napping for the past several weeks. We have tried CIO for the past 2 weeks, and now she is at the point where she sleeps 45-60 min., cries 30 min., and then fusses/goes back to sleep off and on for the remainder of the nap. I have her on a 4-hour schedule, so she does this once in the morning, once in the afternoon, and she takes a 45-min. nap in the evening. She takes 8 oz. at a feeding, so I can't imagine it's hunger. Is there ANYTHING I can do to get her through that 45 min. mark, or do I need to give it more time than the past 2 weeks with CIO since she is gradually improving? At the beginning of the 2 weeks, she would cry the entire time from the time she woke up until the next feeding where now she will doze in and out until I get her. Also, if she DOES fall back asleep, should I still go get her at the four hour mark or just let her go until she wakes up? She is sleeping 12 hours at night, and I'm having to wake her in the morning, should I let her go longer, or could that be too much? Thanks so much for your help!
    August 24, 2008 9:30 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    Kate, be sure to see the naps troubleshooting post and the 45 minute intruder post Naps: Troubleshooting: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/12/naps-troubleshooting.html 45 Minute Intruder: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/45-minute-intruder.html

    Those can help you figure out reasons for waking, but other than that just continue pressing on.

    I would wake her up at the 4 hour mark to be sure she gets the feedings in that she needs each day.
    August 28, 2008 8:03 AM
  • ProudMum said... Hello,After 2 weeeks of great napping , she again have started again waking up just after 35 mins, she does not cry at all ,niether in start,nor in between. i am writing down all notes. i am putting down at same time after 1 hour, she still plays in bed and after 40 mins she sleeps,normally she takes 15 mins to sleep. I cut down all reasons, but didnt find anything, she makes it routine from 4 days. and result is she is cranky. if she is hungry or pain , she must cry isnt it?
    August 26, 2008 3:22 AM

    Plowmanators said... Proudmum, it sounds like she is ready for a longer waketime. Try extending it by 5 minutes. See if that helps for a day. If not, try 10 minutes, etc.
    August 28, 2008 9:24 PM
  • Katiejojohnson said...
    Hello. I want to thank you for this blog. All of the sleep books are sometimes very general and don't seem to always address specific questions. This blog has helped me a lot. I'm currently having a problem with my 14-week-old's naps. She sleeps great at night (from 8:30pm until 7:00 am) Today one nap was 1 hour 15 minutes and 4 naps were 30 minutes long. As I look over her sleep log for the past 10 days, I see that usually each day she has one nap that is around 1 to 2 hours and the other naps are all 1/2 hour or 45 minutes in duration. I have tried to put her to sleep 15 minutes earlier than her sleepy cues generally start--they generally start around 1.5 hours after she wakes up. This hasn't worked for me because when I try to put her to bed 15 minutes earlier..she fusses for those 15 minutes so it cancels itself out. I feel like she's probably getting enough total sleep each day (added up, it seems to range from 13.5-15 hours or so) but I am exhausted because I feel like I am constantly either feeding her or trying to put her down with not enough fun time. I try to feed her every 2.5 hours but typically she would prefer every 2 hours. I try to stretch it out a bit by entertaining her. She spits up a lot but her doctor does not recommend medication because she is a "happy spitter" for the most part and doesn't seem to have the pain usually associated with acid reflux. Because of this, we burp her and keep her upright for about 1/2 hour after she is done breastfeeding. We are going back and forth with swaddling. She does seem to like sucking on her fist to soothe but she also startles so it's sortof a catch 22. If we swaddle her she seems to sleep more soundly but if she wakes up, I think she can't soothe herself back to sleep unless her hands are out. In general, she has a very good disposition but I do think that she does get tired toward the end of the day. She fusses during her "soothing periods" before bed/nap time. We do try to put her down in her crib while she is awake for the most part but we try to get her as drowsy as possible by rocking her. We used to rock her completely to sleep but that started becoming increasingly difficult so we started putting her down about 2 weeks ago and she's done pretty well with it. Sometimes she fusses for up to 10 minutes or not at all before falling asleep. I have tried letting her cry for 20 minutes when she wakes up after only 1/2 hour but it has only worked once. The fussing that she does when she wakes up seems more intense than the fussing that she does before she goes to sleep. She seems to work herself up a bit and seems angry when I finally go to get her. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you. -Katie from Madison.
    October 18, 2008 7:51 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    Katie, I actually think 13.5 hours is probably too short for a 14 week old. She might be able to drop the fourth nap at this age. It might help with naps.You can swaddle with one arm out. We did that with Kaitlyn.I would consider perhaps a second opinion on the reflux. Kaitlyn was a happy spitter (with reflux), but still had medication. Even if they don't fuss about it, if it is reflux it is causing damage to the esophogus. That could easily be the reason she isn't sleeping well. Do you have her on an incline for sleep?Another thought is that rocking to really drowsy might be interfereing with her sleep. She might not be able to soothe herself through a transition so she wakes up instead. If she has only been going to sleep on her own for two weeks, it is normal to not make it through a nap on her own (even though she isn't really completely on her own yet). There are a lot of possibilities here. I would address the reflux first. Then just try one thing at a time. I would say the self-soothing should come after you are sure what is going on with reflux.
    October 22, 2008 12:17 PM
  • jencwu said...
    I think I finally problem solved my 15-week-old's nap problems. I used to put him down for his naps when he stared yawning, but then he would usually just cry throughout most if not all of his nap time. The last couple of weeks I have started waiting until he starts to fuss a little. That seems to have done the trick--when I put him down now he will fuss for a couple of mins then fall asleep without the wailing he used to do.However, now he is waking early. He usually wakes up about 30 mins before his next scheduled feeding (I'm still feeding about every 3 hrs), no matter what time he fell asleep. I've read through your troubleshooting naps post and can't seem to find any reason for this. When this happens I first try to give him the paci (he only gets it in his carseat and when waking early) and sometimes that will get him to sleep. Other times he just keeps spitting it out and crying so I turn on his mobile to keep him happy but resting in crib until feeding time. I know he has no problem going 3+ hrs. Any thoughts as to what's going on and how to fix it? (by the way I'd much rather have him wake early than not fall asleep at all like he used to!!)
    November 3, 2008 4:40 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    Jen, hopefully you have solved this by now, but I wanted to mention that age is close to a growth spurt, so he could be waking out of hunger. He also could be waking just because he hasn't quite got it all pefected yet (the self-soothing).
    December 5, 2008 2:44 PM
  • apolena said...
    Dear friend, my 10 months old baby daughter AndÄ›lka doesn´t nap well. This problem lasts from the beginning. She sleeps well in the night, but the naps! We started to try Babywise three months ago. We set the times of her naps - 10a.m. and 3:30p.m. She naps better in the afternoon, she falls asleep within 15 minutes and sometimes wakes up in the middle, cries, calms down, sleeps another 45 minutes or more. But in the morning! 3 days ago she didn´t sleep at all. Today she was crying, so I went in after 30 minutes (she wasn´t crying all 30 minutes though) and held her for a while as suggested in the book. She calmed down, I put her down, she cried a lot but fell asleep after 20 minutes. She slept 20 minutes then, after this half an hour crying and sleeping and crying and sleeping. Then it was her lunch time.Is there any hope it will improve? My husband suggests to drop the morning nap but I think she´s too young. She seems to be chronically overtired.THreee months is a long time. Something improved though. Please say there is still hope she willl nap well.Shall I do something differently, or just perservere?Thanks,Apolena
    December 4, 2008 4:54 AM
    Plowmanators said...
    Apolena,There is a chance her waketime is too long in the morning--but that is up to you to determine. See these posts for help on that:Optimal Waketime Lengths : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/07/optimal-waketime-lengths.html and Waketime: Length, Extending, and Calculating: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/waketime-length-extending-and.html

    I agree with you; she is too young to drop the morning nap. At the youngest she should be 14 months. I would also suggest the possibility that she might need a little bit longer of a waketime. If you think that is it, try adding only 5 minutes at a time and see if that helps.
    December 5, 2008 2:47 PM
  • Luba said...

    Hi, I am so happy I found your blog! Today I was a bit desperate and started looking around. You sum BW so well - it got a bit confusing for me, as a first time mother.May I ask you on your experience on day time naps? Our boy is 7.5 weeks old, very healthy, 5 kg, exclusive breast milk, very little reflux - 1 in 3 days or so. Eats every 3-4 hrs a day, 3-5 hrs at night. Strict routine during the day: eat, awake for 40 min, settle for nap right after. Bath at 6pm, eat at 7pm, "night feeds" at 11, 2, 5, sometimes he wakes up at 6, sometimes at 8. We never really enforced it, but reading your blog I am wondering... He is definitely a spirited baby - stayed on a very good routine till 3 weeks. He always slept in the day and had no problem at night. After his first growth spurt, he stopped sleeping in the day, unless he is in sling. Now he does not sleep for longer than 20 min at a time, even in sling. Last 3 nights he woke up in the night from 1 to 5, nothing we could do to get him to sleep. We first start by letting him self-sooth, he is good at sucking hands, if he starts crying, we pick him up, calm down and put down, after consistent cry (never past 5 min, I admit) - Dad carries him in sling. But he is wide awake!!Today I just got so desperate, I left him to sleep on his own in the day, he woke up every 15 min, sobbing, fell asleep. At least he "stayed in bed" for 1.2hrs. Do you have any suggestions for day times? I think they are affecting his nights. He does not do dummy - does not like it at all, just his hands.Thank you in advance for your time!
    December 13, 2008 11:14 AM

    Plowmanators said...
    Luba, I would see the CIO Bootcamp post. It sounds like he needs to learn to self-soothe, and you all need to learn how to best help him do this. See this for help: CIO Bootcamp: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/11/cio-bootcamp.html
    December 22, 2008 3:07 PM
  • LEM said...
    I need some nap suggestions again. My 8 month old sleeps great at night. I always have to wake him to start his day after 11.5 hours of sleep. But naps are a different story. He goes to sleep just fine within a minute or two after 2hr 15min of waketime. He has been at this wake time for at least a month or so and it was working beautifully. Now, for maybe about 2 weeks, he has consistently been waking about 30 minutes early from his first nap. He doesn't cry but his awake and fussing. Since he gets up early from his first nap I put him down early for his second nap (to keep the 2hr 15 min waketime) and again, he wakes 30 minutes early. He is averaging about 1hr 15 min of sleep for his first nap and about 1hr 45 min for his second. Does this sound OK or is there a suggestion you have for why he wakes early from his first nap?
    January 12, 2009 4:03 PM
    Plowmanators said...
    LEM, His nap lengths are fine according to BW. Since he is waking from that first nap fussy, he might not be having a long enough nap. See this post for ideas for waking early in that age range:5-8 Month Sleep Disruptions : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/05/6-month-sleep-disruptions.html
    January 20, 2009 10:04 AM

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