Saturday, March 12, 2011

Book Giveaway: It Gets Easier and Other Lies We Tell New Mothers

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It Gets Easier! . . . And Other Lies We Tell New Mothers: A Fun, Practical Guide to Becoming a Mom

It Gets Easier and Other Lies We Tell New Mothers is a fun and funny book geared toward new moms to tell them what having a baby is really like. There are tips on labor, recovery, feeding, body changes, scheduling, working, and more!

Author Claudine Wolk is a Babywise Mom, so you will find lots of tips you agree with in here. Of course, like most any book, there will be things you will do differently, but the book has great tips for new moms and is a light, easy and honest read. This book could be a perfect gift for you to give friends if you are unsure if they would be interested in Babywise or not.

A little about Claudine. Claudine Wolk is a mother of three, wife of one, and author of It Gets Easier and Other Lies We Tell New Mothers, a book for new moms.  When faced with motherhood for the first time, she completely freaked out (it was so hard) and decided to write a book so that other new moms would not freak out like she did. She enjoys long walks on the beach, bubble baths with a good book, and men who aren’t afraid to cry.

To give you a taste of her writing, Claudine has written an article for you:

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Can a Healthy Marriage Is an Important Part of Parenting?

Your marriage can be put on the backburner and may not even reside on the stovetop after the birth of a baby. I like to remind new moms that they make a vow to their spouse, not their kids!  I also tell new moms that one of the best ways to be a good mom is to stay happily married.  That may be easier said than done.  Here are a few ideas to try.

·         Put your spouse first.  Now obviously, I would never suggest to ignore the needs of your infant over the needs of your spouse, but does a child need to sleep between the two of you, every night, for the first three years of his life?  Ah, No!  Keep in mind that sometimes your bed is for doing adult things with your spouse – treat it with the respect it deserves and save some alone time in it for your spouse!  PS.  If he says he doesn’t mind, he’s lying!

·         Recognize each other’s need for time away from the family.  Everybody gets burnt out by doing the same job over and over – even parents.  Use the tag-team strategy and insist that you each take time away from the family to re-group.  The benefits of this time away will be felt by the entire family, but especially in the marriage.

·         Keep laughing – Sometimes being a parent can be so stressful, we forget to take things a bit lighter and laugh at the absurdity of it all.  You’ve heard that laughter is good for an illness - it’s also the key to  a happy marriage. Rent funny movies, watch funny reruns of Seinfield and The Office to get some well-needed and shared laughs.

·         Get Out Alone Without The Kids – Remember all those folks who sat as witnesses to your wedding and promised that they would support you in your marriage?  Well, now is the time for those folks to ante up.  Call them and collect on that promise so that you and your spouse can get out alone together.  One of the first ways that a marriage falls apart is by focusing on all the wrong stuff – the house, the kids, the bills, extended family (yes, I said it!) and work.  Putting your marriage on a pedestal means staying connected.  Find a local watering hole and sit down together without distractions and enjoy each other over a glass of wine.  Talk about your kids (yes, that is ok), talk about your work, talk about your dreams – plug into each other, I’ll bet there is still a lot you have to learn about one another.

Remember that being happily married gives your kids two happy parents.  It also gives your kids an example of a happy marriage and teaches them how to be a good spouse.  Making time for each other and your marriage can be the best parenting technique available.  Does anyone else have ideas for ways to put your spouse first?

You can read more from Claudine at http://Help4NewMoms.com/wordpress

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Now, time to enter to win a copy of her book for yourself!

For Your First Entry:

Become a follower of this blog. Then leave a comment. If you are already a follower (the thing where your cute face pops up with all the other cute faces of people following), comment telling me so.

Sample Entry
I am a follower!



For Your Second Entry:

"Like" this blog on Facebook. Once you have done so, come back and leave a comment saying you did so.

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I "like" Chronicles on Facebook!



For Your Third Entry:

Go to Claudine's blog: http://help4newmoms.com/wordpress/. Watch the video of Claudine on ABC, then come back and comment on something you agreed with that she talked about.

Sample Entry
I like it!



For Your Fourth Entry:
Share what the biggest shock to you was when you were a new mother.


Sample Entry

I was shocked that my baby didn't want to sleep. Who doesn't want to sleep?


For Your Fifth Entry:

Follow me on Twitter. Once you have done so, come back and comment and include your Twitter ID. Already do? Comment saying so.


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I follow on Twitter! @valplowman


For Your Sixth Entry:
Free entry just for reading entry six...so long as you comment.


Sample Entry

Follow Claudine on Twitter: http://twitter.com/help4newmoms. Once you have done so, come back and comment and include your Twitter ID. Already do? Comment saying so.


Sample Entry
I follow on Twitter! @valplowman


For Your Seventh Entry:
Answer Claudine's question from her post above: Does anyone else have ideas for ways to put your spouse first? Leave a comment with your answer.


Sample Entry
Listen to your spouse and don't just talk about what you did all day (whether you are the one home or the one at work).

Entry Rules
  • Open to US and Canadian residents only.
  • You must leave a comment in order to have an entry.
  • You must leave a separate comment for each entry. This is not so I can get lots of comments--it is because it makes it a million times easier to choose a winner. It takes less time, and less time is good. Plus, it makes sure I don't miss an entry.
  • You don't have to do all seven entries...for example, if you just want to follow this blog, you can just do entry one.
  • One entry per comment.
  • Up to seven entries per person.
  • You must fulfill the rules of each entry for each entry to count. If I see the entry is not valid (did not meet entry requirements), I will disqualify your entry. Trust me, I check.
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  • Once the winner is announced, you will have one week to contact me or another winner will be chosen. Be sure to check back. The only thing worse than not winning is to win but not realize it in time!

173 comments:

Kelly said...

I'm a follower!

Kristi said...

I follow this blog!

Elizabeth B said...

I follow you via GFC

Elizabeth B said...

My biggest shock as a new Mom was how difficult it was to get a baby into a routine. (Especially a sleep routine) I was so naive! It takes a lot of consistency and perseverance. But it's worth it!

Elizabeth B said...

I follow you on Twitter!
@elannbe

Elizabeth B said...

Really? Well, I like entry 6!

Elizabeth B said...

I like your suggestion for putting your spouse first; listening to them! Communication is so important, but even more so after the baby arrives. We try to sit down and chat for a half hour or so right after work, before the baby wakes up.

Heather said...

I'm a follower!

Heather said...

I follow you on Twitter! @schmittybitty

Heather said...

My biggest shock as a new mother was the FATIGUE, both mental and physical. I knew it was going to be a huge change to my life, but I was not prepared to literally be too tired to move at times. It was definitely an adjustment to this new frenetic pace, but now I just roll with the punches as best I can. Now, someone tell me why we're trying for #2?? :-)

Heather said...

I read entry #6!!

Rebecca Samson said...

I am a proud follower!

Ashlee said...

I'm a follower via Google.

Ashlee said...

I like Chronicles on FB

Ashlee said...

I think the biggest shock to me was how long it would take to feed a newborn b/c they were sleepy.. and then how quick it got at week 7!

Ashlee said...

This comment is for entry #6.

Tracy said...

I subscribe to the blog!

Tracy said...

I like you on facebook!

Tracy said...

I follow you on Twitter!

Tracy said...

I need help putting my spouse first!!! I think the baby has taken over our lives! Any ideas are helpful!!!

Tracy said...

I think the biggest difference is my time!!! I have no time to do anything. And figuring out how to shower with a baby. Sometimes it doesn't happen.

Muffy said...

I'm a follower!

Muffy said...

I like Chronicles on Facebook!

C. said...

I am a follower.

C. said...

I like you on Facebook.

C. said...

Free sixth entry!

C. said...

It's not exciting, but keeping date night regular is a must!!

The Aussie Mommy said...

I follow your blog!

The Aussie Mommy said...

The biggest shock was the adrenaline rush I had to be up so much in the night! This girl loves her sleep! And I STILL SURVIVED!!

The Aussie Mommy said...

The biggest shock was the adrenaline rush I had to be up so much in the night! This girl loves her sleep! And I STILL SURVIVED!!

The Aussie Mommy said...

I read entry 6! :)

The Aussie Mommy said...

A good way to put your husband first is to be deliberate about creating time to be with him doing things he enjoys!

Shelby said...

I am a follower!

lwicks said...

I'm a follower!

lwicks said...

I read entry # 6.

The Grabers said...

I'm a follower!

The Grabers said...

I like this blog on Facebook!

The Grabers said...

I read entry 6!

The Grabers said...

My biggest shock was that my children would have food allergies. With no food allergies in our family, this was definitely not at the top of my list of worries!

The Grabers said...

One way I like to put my spouse first is by remembering little things like his favorite meals and making those for him.

The last Unicorn said...

I follow chronicles blog

The last Unicorn said...

I "like" chronicles

The last Unicorn said...

I was shocked how the time between feedings flew by. When you are breastfeeding, you feel like it is your full time job for the first few weeks.

The last Unicorn said...

I agree with her that sleep is GOLDEN! So is taking a long shower :)

punkledoodle said...

I am a follower!

punkledoodle said...

I like Chronicles on FB

punkledoodle said...

I liked when Claudine said that most moms don't tell about the hardships of motherhood because they are afraid it will look like they are a bad mom.
I can totally relate!

punkledoodle said...

The biggest shock of motherhood was my emotions. I felt like I was falling apart and that scared me. It made me question the fact of whether I could handle motherhood.

punkledoodle said...

I try and put my spouse first by listening to him when he gets home as he tells me about his day. Even tho I feel like mine was the worst ;), he still needs to be heard and felt that someone will listen.

arlee said...

I'm a follower!

arlee said...

I "like" Chronicles on FB

arlee said...

For some reason, I was shocked that it took more than 2 days to recover from childbirth...I don't know why I was so surprised by that, but it really threw me that I wasn't feeling like my old self a couple days after pushing a little person out of me. :-)

arlee said...

I follow on Twitter! @bizarlee

The Garrett's said...

I am a follower!

The Garrett's said...

I "like" Chronicles on Facebook!

The Garrett's said...

I was shocked that my baby wanted to nurse every 1.5-2 hrs! I was miserable & I'm sure she was too. Guessing she was never really getting a full tummy --rule #1 of Babywise!! No one likes to be hungry all the time..

Janice said...

I'm a follower!

Janice said...

What shocked me was that I didn't immediately love my newborn. I do now!

Janice said...

I read entry 6!

Ladybug said...

How was I NOT following this blog before! Ack!

Am following now! :)

Ladybug said...

I like this on FB!

Jannelle said...

I'm a follower!

sunfun82 said...

I am a follower

sunfun82 said...

I like Chronicles on FB!

sunfun82 said...

I like that she tells it like it is.

sunfun82 said...

I was shocked when my baby screamed all day. I am still shocked that its a struggle to get her to take naps!

sunfun82 said...

Listen to your husband!

sunfun82 said...

I read #6! I need this book.

Sasha said...

Im a follower

Sasha said...

I "like" Chronicles on Facebook!

Sasha said...

I like #6

Katy said...

I'm a follower.

Katy said...

I like #6.

Katy said...

My biggest shock as a new mom was how difficult nursing was.

Katy said...

I put my spouse first by always making sure I have some time for him even if I just want to crash after the baby is finally down for the day and everything's done.

Lana said...

I am a follower!

Lana said...

I read entry six!

Lana said...

When your spouse comes home at the end of the day, stop what you're doing and acknowledge him and how glad you are to see him! Something I'm working on :)

Lana said...

My biggest shock to me as a new mom was realizing how selfish I'd been prior to having a baby. It was a lesson I needed to learn!

Lana said...

I agree with her about how we need to resume relations with our husband after our child is born and think about his needs as well.

giallourakis said...

I'm a follower of your blog!

giallourakis said...

I like Chronicles on Facebook!

giallourakis said...

I like Chronicles on Facebook!

giallourakis said...

I like Chronicles on Facebook!

giallourakis said...

I like Chronicles on Facebook!

giallourakis said...

I watched the video--I totally agree that Moms "lie" about motherhood because they're worried about being a bad mom.

Kristin said...

I am a follower!

Kristin said...

I like you on FB.

Kristin said...

Free entry #6, yeah!

Mollie Energy said...

I am a follower!

Kristin said...

The biggest shock for me was how emotionally draining being a new mom is. Sure, tired from lack of sleep I understood, but the emotional exhaustion that comes with it all, was a shock.

Kristin said...

Even though this is about the kids, to put my spouse first, I like to switch "jobs" with him and appreciate it and not critique. Example: bathtime is usually mine but sometimes I suggest he do it. They splash and play a lot more than I do and may not clean behind the ears, but it's a joy to listen to and it makes my DH feel good. We switch it up a lot anyway but sharing with him and not doing it all myself keeps us working as a team.

Hannah said...

I am a follower

Hannah said...

I like the you on Facebook

Hannah said...

I was shocked that I my Daughters neck got so gross all the time..

Hannah said...

I watched the video and I agree with the lie that breastfeeding is easy...it was difficult for my daughter more than for me...it just frustrated me when it was difficult for her!

Hannah said...

I try to schedule my daughter so when my husband come home for lunch or from work in the evening, I have that time to spend with him and she is sleeping or doing independent play.

bluebird said...

I follow this blog!

Leigh Anne said...

I'm a follower!

Leigh Anne said...

My biggest shock was the complete vacuum for time that my first baby was. I thought I wasn't a selfish person before kids, but that really wasn't the case :)

Leigh Anne said...

Free entry for #6!

Janelle said...

I follow this blog!

Janelle said...

I "like" Chronicles on Facebook

Janelle said...

I like how she said that breastfeeding was natural but not necessarily easy! That was definitely the case for me.

Janelle said...

I was shocked at how long it took to do anything with the baby. Even just going for a walk I had to change baby's diaper, get baby dressed, then sometimes change the diaper again, then get baby into stroller, etc. Everything took at least twice as long.

Janelle said...

I follow on twitter @jmartin2006

Janelle said...

I like entry 6!

Janelle said...

Go out on a date as soon as you can, even if it's just for a half hour walk around the block.

Janelle said...

Val, you have 8 entries posted. Are we only supposed to do 7?

Brielle said...

I am a follower!

The Witbecks said...

I am a follower!

The Witbecks said...

I "like" your blog on fb!

The Witbecks said...

My biggest shock was the hormone shift and how crazy I felt when my baby cried. I thought if my baby cried I could just fix it - ha!

The Witbecks said...

I read entry #6!

The Witbecks said...

We do date night every week - no matter what! Ironically, we never had a regular date night before our baby, since we never felt that we needed to get out of the house to connect and not be distracted.

Ashley P. said...

I am a follower of this blog! :)

Ashley P. said...

I "liked" this babywise blog on Facebook.

Ashley P. said...

I just watched Claudine's video and totally agree with the fact that our baby does not have to be with mom ALL OF THE TIME. If I don't have at least a little time each day to myself, my job as a mom is much harder.

Ashley P. said...

My biggest shock as a new mom was the lack of sleep. I had a hard time falling back to sleep after a night feeding, so by the time I DID fall asleep, it was almost time to feed again...I was exhausted and it was really tough!

Ashley P. said...

I read entry six, so thanks for the free entry! BTW, unfortunately, I don't have Twitter. Otherwise, i would TOTALLY follow you. ;)

Ashley P. said...

In order to put our spouses first, I love the idea of couch time! This allows mom and dad to connect fairly after we're all home, and it shows the children how important the marital relationship is.

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

I am a follower!

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

I like Chronicles on FB!

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

My biggest shock was how crazy the lack of sleep made me that first week. I had absolutely no patience for anything and did not believe I would survive having a newborn!

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

I follow you on twitter! @kristinsalvia

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

I read entry six!

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

I follow Claudine on Twitter! @kristinsalvia

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

I try putting my spouse first by making sure he has lunch to take with him to work and a hot meal waiting for him when he gets home. If he gets home from work late, I make sure to sit with him while he eats and we talk about our day together.

Kristin and Adam Salvia said...

You actually have eight entries listed...

I agree with one of the "lies" that all women enjoy being a new mom. After I had my baby, one of my friends asked, "Don't you just LOVE being a mom?!" and quite annoyed, I responded, "Actually, NO. It's horrible!" Things have definitely improved since then but I was absolutely not prepared for how hard it would be!

Kelly Hood said...

I follow!

Kelly Hood said...

I follow on Facebook!

Kelly Hood said...

I watched the video and agree that that it is important to get help in all areas, the baby, laundry, cooking, etc.

Kelly Hood said...

I was shocked at how hard being a new mom really is. I knew it would be a big change, but had no idea just how much life would change :)

Kelly Hood said...

I follow on twitter @kellylhood_rss

Kelly Hood said...

I read the sixth entry

Kelly Hood said...

I follow claudine on twitter @kellylhood_rss

Tiffany said...

I'm a Follower!

Tiffany said...

I am a first time mom and my son is 6 weeks today! The biggest shock to me was 1 - the lack sleep 2- how many diapers and clothes we go through a day and 3 - hoe time consuming it really is to be a mom! : - )

Tiffany said...

I always try to make sure I am right there at the door when my husband comes home from to kiss him and tell him how much I love him! I also make sure at the dinner table he is served first, this was what I was taught.

liz22 said...

I am a follower!

liz22 said...

I follow Chronicles on FB

liz22 said...

I read # 6

liz22 said...

Biggest shock was how much I couldn't stand hearing my baby cry (during CIO etc)

liz22 said...

Put my husband first by letting him play bball twice a week when he wants to. He really appreciates being able to get out and do something for himself.

Melissa said...

I'm a follower!
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Melissa said...

I like chronicles on FB.
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Melissa said...

The biggest shock to me was how many things we did that I thought we wouldn't (pacifier, rock to sleep, not doing BW the first 2 weeks). Then turning around and doing what I knew we should be doing-Babywise!
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Melissa said...

I love #6.
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Melissa said...

I let my hubby watch what he wants in the evenings while I read...just one of the little things.
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Mark said...

I like your blog on facebook.

Mark said...

I'm a follower.

Mark said...

Free #6

Mark said...

Our "keeping spouse #1 tip": we greet and hug each other first when one of us comes home. Even if that means literally walking past the kids to do it.

Mark said...

Biggest shock: holding a baby all the time is NOT a good idea! :)

kimbo said...

Following you here.

kimbo said...

Liking you on Facebook.

kimbo said...

Entry #6 - check.

kimbo said...

Most surprising thing: breastfeeding is HARD!

kimbo said...

Turn off the media when the little one goes to bed to get some time with your hubby!

Marthalynn said...

I am a follower!

Marthalynn said...

I like how Claudine is upfront and honest about the ups and downs of becoming a mom. It's encouraging!

Marthalynn said...

This comment is for #6 :)

Marthalynn said...

The biggest shock for me was how difficult it was/is to manage my time. It feels like I should be able to accomplish so much during my "free" time, but by the end of the day I'm shocked at how little there seems to be to show for my efforts.

Marthalynn said...

I try to make our home a comfortable place for my husband to come home to. I want him to look forward to walking through the door each day and to find respite from all of his stresses at work.

Emily Anne Russ said...

I was surpirsed at how overly emotional I was the weeks following birth. I would cry at the drop of a hat. Emily
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Emily Anne Russ said...

entry 6, just for reading. :)
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Kristin said...

I just watched the video. I agree that breastfeeding may be natural, but it is hard! Great idea about watching someone else breastfeed before the baby is born, if possible.

Jessie said...

I'm a follower!

Jessie said...

I like chronicles on facebook!

Jessie said...

Definitely agree with the lie that 'breastfeeding is easy'!! "natural" and easy are def. NOT the same thing. :)

Jessie said...

I think my biggest shock was the tidal wave of emotions the first few weeks and how weepy I was at the drop of a hat!

Jessie said...

Yay for free entries!

Jessie said...

I think one way to put your spouse first is to find out what their love language is and make a special effort to show them your love through their language, even if it takes some sacrifice on your part (or giving up that nap)

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