If you follow Valerie’s blog, you are likely no stranger to the idea that establishing authority and requiring respect from our children must form the basis of our parenting. When they are little, we lead by our authority. It’s when they’re older that we can lead by our influence and establish a friendship with our children. But establishing an air of authority and respect can be difficult. We want to hold a position of power over our children, but at the same time, we don’t want to frustrate or alienate our children. It’s for this reason that it is so important to balance the good with the bad when training our children in first-time obedience (FTO). I have discussed first-time obedience training here and on my own blog at length. But here’s a quick refresher:
- You call the child’s name
- The child replies with a “yes, mommy” or other similar response
- The child looks in your eye from across the room or comes to you when he’s in another room
- The child responds to the call of his name with an attitude of submission and willingness to comply with any instruction you give
Maureen Monfore is a mother of two young boys, a freelance writer, and the author of ChildwiseChat.com and the eBook, Live in Harmony with First-Time Obedience. A loyal follower of the teachings of Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo, she is passionate about teaching children to obey to pave the way for fun, love, learning, and essential moral development.