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Attended CIO for self-soothing

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Before my son was born, I decided that I was going to do an attended "cry it out" (CIO) to help him self-soothe in the beginning of his nap.  I didn't have to start implementing CIO until he was 2 weeks old.  I would lay him down for his nap in his crib after our nap routine (swaddle, shut curtains, turn on sound machine, sing a song) and then I would close the door and walk away.  If he started crying (not fussing, but a real cry), I would set the timer on my phone for 2 minutes.  I did a minute for each week old he was at the time.  So 2 weeks = 2 minutes.  Setting a timer helped, because even just 2 minutes feels like an eternity!  If he was still crying when the timer went off, I would go in and hold him until he was calm.  And then I would lay him back down and leave the room.  If he started crying again, I would set the timer again and follow the same steps.  If I had to go in 3 times, I would transfer him to his swing in his bedroom and he would sleep in the swing for the remainder of the nap.  After 1-2 weeks of doing this attended CIO, I realized that he just needs to blow off some steam before falling asleep.  This was different to me because my daughter (almost 3 years old) wasn't this way.  Around 6-7 weeks I no longer needed to set a timer, because he was asleep within 6-7 minutes.  And ever since then he's been able to fall asleep on his own because he's learned to self-soothe.  I'm so thankful I did this!  He's now 14 weeks and is really good about settling down for his nap.  The crying isn't fun to hear, but I felt really comfortable knowing that he just needed to work through and self-soothe.  I'm so thankful!
 
Christina Smith (Mom to an almost 3 year old daughter and a 3 month old son)

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Mark Sindone said...

I heard from a friend that putting some white noise on a mobile might help the kid sleep. Or putting an ipod on or whatever. Or you've gotta really pull courage out of self storage to hear your kids wail…