by Hannah Tong
Here, we'll explain why doing house chores helps children become more successful in the future. Some parents think that children should be free from responsibility until they near adulthood, but this is a mistaken idea.
A romanticized view of childhood, usually from fiction, portrays chores as an unwelcome aspect of a child's life, and it's understandable if parents want to protect their children from this. On the contrary, we know that responsibility for age-appropriate chores is an essential part of your child's development, and we'll be explaining why in this article.
In short, children who do chores develop good habits that will help them throughout life, they'll develop essential self-esteem by contributing, and they will learn essential life skills.
How Does Doing Chores Teach Children Good Habits?
The most obvious lifetime habit that a child will learn from doing chores is a work ethic; the habit of doing what needs to be done, rather than shirking. This does not develop automatically; children need to learn this.
They also learn persistence from doing chores. Nobody is born knowing how to do housework, and children can be expected to do it poorly when they're first learning how.
When you encourage them to correct the mistakes that they're bound to make, until the job is done to reasonable standards is how children learn to be persistent. This will also instill an appreciation of a job well done, as they learn to take pride in the accomplishment.
Do keep your expectations realistic, though. A four-year-old who is helping you to fold laundry can't be expected to fold fitted sheets without a wrinkle.
They could well fold the t-shirts and match the socks while you're folding the sheets. It's okay to give them chores that challenge them, as long as they're within their ability to do well.
Accepting the responsibility to do a chore like setting the table for dinner is how children develop the habit of being responsible. This doesn't happen overnight for anyone, but the earlier the lesson starts; the better they'll learn it before they are adults, and responsibility become essential.
By doing chores when they need to be done instead of playing or watching TV, kids learn to delay gratification, another habit that will be valuable to them as adults. This is often a challenging skill to learn, so an early start will help them develop it.
Children are naturally going to want what they want when they want it. They have to learn about delayed gratification, so try to be patient with them as they develop this habit.
Does Doing Chores Build Self-Esteem?
Toddlers usually want to help, often with tasks that they simply don't have the physical skills to accomplish. This is a typical stage of your child's development, and you should expect it.
This is both a challenge and an opportunity. Of course, if you do the chore yourself, it'll be done quickly and well, so it's almost automatic to turn down their offer to help.
Accepting their offer, on the other hand, is an opportunity to teach your child some of the skills that are needed for the chore. It takes longer this way, and their early efforts may not meet your usual standards, but this is how children learn.
There are several payoffs from you taking the extra time to teach your child how to do a chore or even part of it.
• Your child gets accustomed to helping around the house while they are eager to.
• Your child learns how to do the chore or at least part of it.
• Play can happen in the context of the chore. Chores are more fun to a team.
• By contributing, your child accomplishes something that they can feel pride in. It's a thing that they can give back to their family.
• Learning a skill gives every child a sense of accomplishment, but a skill that benefits the whole family is something that they will value even more.
Contrary to the popular myth, self-esteem is not built by being praised by others. Self-esteem grows when someone sees themselves do something that is worthy of the praise.
Participation trophies don't fool children. They know that recognition is only valid if they've done something that deserves recognition.
Be sure to recognize the value of the housework that your children do, and their self-esteem will grow naturally. A child who knows that they're competent is a child who will find it easier to be self-confident.
What Life Skills Do Children Learn From Chores?
First and foremost, they learn how to do those chores. When a first-year college student turns a load of laundry pink the first time they do their laundry, it's a safe bet that they never had laundry as a childhood chore.
There are thousands of small tasks to do in adult life, and many of us had to learn them as adults because we weren't taught them as childhood chores. Give your children the benefit of your experience and let them get practice while they can ask questions if they need to.
Home Economics is often not taught in school until High School, and there are a lot of housekeeping skills that they don't teach, even if your child takes those classes. You can teach your child those skills, get some of your workload taken off of your shoulders, and encourage your child's development by giving your child some chores.
It's Part of Parenting
Teaching your children how to do household chores and doing those chores their responsibility is a major component of the parenting process. It teaches them several admirable character traits, while they learn life skills.
Skills are only developed through practice. Doing a chore on a regular basis teaches children skills that will help them be adults before they become old enough to go out into the world on their own.
We hope that now you understand why doing house chores helps children become more successful in the future.
Hannah Tong is the founder of Omaby.com, a blog dedicated to providing accurate advice to mothers regarding childcare. She loves taking care of her kids and teaching them the right things. She is also enthusiastic and loves sharing her experiences to teach others about how to care for their families' health. Check the latest article (When To Start Stage 2 Baby Food?) here. This is a sponsored article.