Follow up: In Action–Flexibility and Mistakes


Yesterday afternoon, Kaitlyn was once again not falling asleep for her afternoon nap. I am glad to report that I did get smarter and learned from my previous mistake. I went to check on her and she was just laying in her crib talking. I told her it was time to go to sleep. As I did so, I noticed the smell. Sure enough, poopy diaper! I was glad I checked on her and didn’t leave her to lay in a poopy diaper. I changed it and put her back in bed. She was quiet for a bit, then mad that I left her in her bed, then went to sleep (though it did end up being only a 45 minute nap. Apparently she wasn’t extremely overly tired yet like the day before so she didn’t nap well, but at least she napped).

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8 thoughts on “Follow up: In Action–Flexibility and Mistakes”

  1. Hello there:I am in need of some guidance, once again. My daughter is 21 months old and has been a BW girl since the beginning. We are facing some nap troubles again – and it’s really frustrating. I’m not sure what to do, to be honest. Here’s our current schedule:7am up – eat breakfast11:30/12 lunch12:50ish down for nap1-3 nap5:30/6 dinner7:45/8 bed timeA couple of weeks ago we went thru a week where she did about 3 days worth of no nap at all – she just laid in her bed talking singing and being a silly girl. We moved her nap time to 1 pm and that seemed to be the magic. Now, it’s happening again. Yesterday it took her until 2:15 to fall asleep, and i let her sleep until 3:35 or so to make up for the late start time. Then today, she is doing the exact thing with her nap. Not sleeping. I am very frustrated. I know that our kids aren’t machines and that there will be days when things aren’t exactly the same, but she has always been so good on her routine up until the last month or two. Do you have any advice? I don’t think she’s teething – and she doesn’t seem sick. She also eats plenty so I don’t think she’s hungry. She never cries while she’s in there – like I said, she pretty much talks to herself and sings. She sounds really tired – she makes the little “tired” sounds that I have recognized since she was teeny. Does sunlight make a difference? It’s bright in her room – we have a curtain but it’s pink and the light comes straight through. Should we try one of those curtains that blocks light? Or is that more of a sleep prop? Do you see anything in her routine that may lend to her not sleeping? I know for sure it’s not time to do away with naps — she’s far too young. You have a son that’s older — did you face any issues like this with him? I look forward to any insight you may have. And thanks again for your blog – it is super great! Tanya

  2. Ugh–my LO is doing the same thing as Kaitlyn. I came to the blog to see if you had anything on it! Monday was the last day she took her normal afternoon nap–I go in and lay her down again, but to no avail.

  3. I was looking at your schedule for 3 months and I had a question about naps.Right now our schedule looks a little like this:7:30eat8:30-10:30 napeat11:30-1:30 napeat3:00-? nap (usually 45min-1hr)The rest of the day isn’t as predictable. Sometimes she’s awake until bedtime (8:00) other times she takes maybe a 30 min nap around 5.My question is would you wake your daughter from her naps? I have to wake my daughter from her first 2 naps and I was wondering if I should shorten her 2nd nap so maybe she could sleep more later in the day? I think she’s getting enough sleep total when you add nighttime and daytime, but I didn’t know if I should change the daytime sleep so she’s sleeping more in the afternoon/evening instead of so much in the morings.Thanks!Also how long does a growth spurt usually last?

  4. Tanya,Part of it is probably just one of those phases they go through. Sunlight can make a difference; however, if she has been asleep in that room from birth, she should be used to the light in there. It is worth trying to block light more temporarily to see if she needs it darker now than she used to.There can be several environmental factors that could be contributing to her lack of sleep. I know at my house the birds have recently returned and are chirping all day long. It doesn’t seem to bother my kids at all, but I could easily see a curious toddler listening and wondering what that was or knowing it is birds and memorizing how it sounds. My point is there are always plenty of factors that could be contributing.One thing to be sure of is that she is in bed by the right time. The only way to know for sure is to experiment with times. Also, you can let her sleep longer if she falls asleep later–my son routinely takes about a 3 hour nap in the afternoon normally. Of course, don’t let her sleep go longer than will allow her to fall asleep at bed time. My son has his days like that, though he really didn’t start it until he was older than your daughter (but not much). Good luck in your problem solving!

  5. Corrina,Be sure to see the nap disruptions post:Nap Disruptions: Rolling, Standing, Crawling, etc:

  6. Kate,Do you breastfeed? If so, your baby likely just needs to eat closer together in the afternoon/evening because milk supply is usually less qualitatively and/or quantitatively. I did wake my baby from naps, though it looks like your baby is sleeping a good amount. If it were me, I wouldn’t shorten her first two naps at all. I would just leave it as it is.Be aware that she might be about ready to go a bit longer for her schedule. So if she always needs to be woken up at 10:30 and 1:30, she might be able to extend to a 3.5 hour schedule (then you would do a combo 3-3.5 hour schedule). That would put her third nap a little later and closer to bedtime, which would make it a bit easier for her to stay happy through the evening (assuming it is hard right now). I did notice that you do 1 hour wake times for your first two, then 1.5 hour before that third nap. She might be waking early because she is awake too long before. You could try shortening that waktime and seeing what is the perfect length for her. As far as growth spurts go, there is no way to predict how long the growth spurt actually will last. It seems to me if you plan on a week, you will usually find that to be an accurate length of time.

  7. Thanks! I am breastfeeding. If I did extend to 3.5 hours I would end up dropping a feeding and I don’t know if she’s ready for that since she still needs to eat during the night.Also, if I do extend would that mean she would be taking a 2.5hr nap in the moring or would I also extend her waketime?Thank you again, I really appreciate your help!

  8. Kate,You could do just one feeding at 3.5 hours and push bedtime back a bit–just if she needs to go longer between feedings. Or you could do other feedings closer.You would extend the nap unless she was ready to extend waketime.


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