Thursday, August 18, 2011

Dressing Problem Solving

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One of the hardest things about mornings can be getting dressed for the day--especially if you are going somewhere first thing in the morning. Parenting The Strong-Willed Child has some great tips for making this step easier on the family. In this post I share those ideas along with others I have found help over the years. With school starting (or started for some of you), this might be helpful to think about right now! These tips work whether you are leaving for school, going to dance class, headed off to work, or simply leaving to run errands in the morning. 

Lay Out Night Before (PSWC page 225)
I have been doing this for years. It is especially helpful for older children who are getting ready and can dress themselves. I lay the clothes out on the ground. I put underwear first, right side up. I then have the shirt face down and upside down so the child can pick it up and put it on correctly. Then the pants right side up, and finally socks. 

A great thing about having clothes out the night before is that it leaves no room for debating what will be worn that morning as you are hurrying to get ready. It is a great time saver all around. It also makes it so the child can be rather independent. There is no need for the child to wait around for you because the clothes are already set out.

Give Plenty of Time (PSWC page 225)
You want to leave enough time for getting ready that there is no need to rush. You need to be able to be patient. Figure out how long your child needs on the longest day. I know that I have to get Brayden up by 7:30 in the morning so he can have plenty of time for showering, dressing, other getting ready tasks, and eating breakfast. If he is a bit faster, then he has time to play. We both get pretty stressed if he sleeps past 7:30. No one likes to be rushed, and I don't like nagging. 

Get Dressed Before Breakfast
This is something suggested in PSWC and the -wise books. We never really did this until Brayden started school. I must say, if you have somewhere to be in the morning, doing this makes the morning so much smoother! I was pretty surprised by that because it shouldn't really make a difference when you do it, right? But it does. I am not sure why. I don't know if the child is motivated to hurry to get dressed so he can go eat or what. I do really like that you get ready and then eat for as long as you like. There is no cutting off eating for your estimated amount of time needed to get ready and there is no rushing through the getting dressed process because you spent too long eating. 

Walk Away
If your child is capable of dressing himself, walk away while he gets dressed. Tell him to get dressed and then go find something to do. Brush your teeth. Help another child. Set out breakfast dishes. Gather book bags. Read a book. Close  your eyes and rest. Do anything other than hover and nag. 

Play Games
PSWC suggests you play "Beat the clock" to help your child be faster. The -wise books talk about "3 Candy Speed." I typically do a "bet you can't shower faster than I can." You could time your child and see if he can get faster the next day. Come up with what works for you. You might want to mix it up every so often. 

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Jennifer said...

We've always dressed before breakfast just because bedrooms are upstairs and I'm too lazy to take everyone back upstairs after going down to eat. However, I love the idea of setting out clothes. My 3.5 yr old DD and I are constantly struggling with what to wear--mostly because there is one outfit she wants to wear every day, but surprise--some days it is dirty! Thanks for the tip!

Kelle said...

Good post! That's exactly how we've always done it. I have one daughter that is picky about how the clothes feel and one that is picky about how the clothes look (i.e. only likes dresses that spin and are pretty)so it doesn't solve all problems, but it cuts down on the arguing to leave the room while they are dressing for sure! It gives my daughter who is picky about how things feel to adjust a minute before coming into contact with me. Usually, the clothes feel fine after she's had them on through breakfast anyway.


Kristin L. said...

I've found that doing a diaper change and getting my little guy dressed before breakfast has worked well for him, especially since he has reflux! That way, I'm not laying him on his back and putting his legs in the air for the diaper change and dressing process when he has a full tummy! : )

Michael and Yvonne said...

Somehow my thing didn/t post! oh well. Main question is how often do you let Kaitlyn pick out clothes? I let 4 YO pick out on Monday and have been doing this a while. Not sure if I should be letting her pick more or what. She picks the same outfit every monday of course and often argues with what I pick out if she doesn't like i don't know if that means she is ready for more choices or possibly she is frustrated and I should allow more at this age? Thanks

Plowmanators said...

You are all welcome!

Plowmanators said...

Thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts, too!

Plowmanators said...

Kristin L. Excellent point about reflux!

Plowmanators said...

Yvonne, I don't know how often I let her choose...Not every day.

I think you could do more than once a week. An idea for you is to offer her two choices you would be happy with and let her choose one of them. then she practices choosing but you maintain a lot of control over it.


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