Babywise and Twins

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Babywise and Twins. Tips from three Babywise twin moms about how to do the Babywise schedule with twins.

Babywise and Twins. Tips from three Babywise twin moms about how to do the Babywise schedule with twins.

Okay, I have no experience with Babywise and twins. I do, however, know some moms who do. I asked them for some advice, and here is what they have to say.

Keeping Twins on Same Schedule

“The biggest complication to doing Babywise with twins, I think, is when one baby wakes up early or gets tired early, because it is pretty important to keep them on the same schedule. For instance, with the ’45 minute intruder’, the book says to try to feed the baby to see if its a hunger issue. But I feed them at the same time and don’t want to wake the other baby early just to see if the first is hungry. So I usually hold off the early waker until either her sister wakes up or has at least had a decent nap.

Similarly with going to sleep. One of my girls gets fussy really quickly when she’s tired; it’s impossible to miss her sleep window. And she falls asleep very fast. Then I get her sister, who seems to be still be wide awake. I often regret having to put her down for a nap because the first one was tired. So in a way, having the two forces me to stick to the schedule a little more. I’ve had friends who said they had trouble doing Babywise because they couldn’t bring themselves to wake a sleeping baby; I’m constantly waking a sleeping baby because if I didn’t, they would be on separate schedules.” drbc

Keeping Twins on Separate Schedules

“We are basically on separate schedules. I have a full time nanny so that helps. With our medical complications there was no way I could keep them on the same schedule. Hannah had to eat every 2 hrs and I was trying to keep Noah at every 3 hours. We started Babywise late, too. (6 months old, 3 months corrected age—before that they just did Babywise naturally as that was the NICU routine but it didn’t involve any CIO b/c all they basically did was eat and sleep). I wish I could have kept them on the same NICU 3 hr schedule from the beginning but that didn’t happen. [Last month], they began to naturally conform their schedules (even their naps!) to about 15 minutes. I put them to bed at the same time but they often wake at different times and need their naps at different times. Noah stays up longer in the morning whereas if I miss Hannah’s window, I’m scr**ed.

They are also on different eating schedules because of size. Hannah only eats 4 (sometimes 5) oz every 3 hrs. Noah eats 6-8 every 4 hrs. But they both only stay awake 2 to 2.5 hrs in between naps. Both are still at 3 naps. I try to keep in mind that they are individuals and have different sleep/activity needs. Noah sleeps more but can stay up longer; Hannah eats more frequently and takes shorter naps. If I have to go anywhere I wait until Hannah wakes up from her nap, regardless of what Noah is doing b/c Noah can eat/sleep in the car whereas Hannah refuses to do either in the car or anywhere but home. So I try to do the Babywise thing with them individually.” Lauren

Keeping a Strict Schedule

“There are definitely some challenges with twins. The thing that helped me the most was actually following more of a clock schedule because otherwise

Babywise and Twins. Tips from three Babywise twin moms about how to do the Babywise schedule with twins.

you end up trying to decide if you should wake one baby to eat just because the other one woke early, etc. Since my girls are big and healthy, at 3.5 months I knew they could go 3 hours between feedings. Since their afternoon naps are short, we end up with wake time before and after the feedings, but this seems to be working all right for us

. They are definitely fussy and higher maintenance than when we fed them whenever they woke up, but then our schedule would spiral into short little cycles.”

I applaud all mothers who have twins. It would not be easy. These are some tips from moms who have twins, although they all gave some different advice. Hopefully you can get something from one or all three and apply to your own situation.

One reason I see twins being hard is because of what Lauren said. Each baby is an individual. You have to figure out two little strangers at the same time.

Something drbc said is so true to me. She said she needs to stick to the schedule in order to care for both babies. I have found that true with my two children. It is more important for me to have Kaitlyn follow her outlined schedule because I have two to care for. There is some flexibility available, and definitely more for me than a mom of twins simply because Brayden is older and can wait for things if he needs to.

Kudos to all moms of twins out there. Don’t forget to refer to the chapter in On Becoming Babywise on twins. Good luck in your endeavors!

And please, if you have good tips for moms with twins, post them in the form of a comment.

*Note that the comments have been edited for grammar, punctuation, and spelling if necessary.

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Reader Questions

Tracy said…
Hi Valerie! I have twin daughters that are 5 weeks old. We are really struggling with the evening nap and getting back to sleep after the middle of the night feeding. If they take the evening nap, then they seem to really struggle with getting back to sleep after the middle of the night feedings. If they cry through the evening nap and never fall asleep, then middle of the night feedings go much better. Is it possible that they are getting too much sleep in the evening and therefore can’t sleep as well at night? Any suggestions? Even more, I’m GREATLY struggling with the lack of time I get with the girls on the Babywise schedule. I feed my first daughter, set her down for wake time, feed the second and then it’s time to put my first baby to sleep. I feel like I can never hold her unless I’m nursing her! I hate it!!! Would I be messing up all my hard work if I held them in my arms during the evening nap or another time of day? I want to enjoy my precious babies and feel like I can’t because I’m working so hard to feed, watch every cue and hurry to get them back down. I know having twins puts me in a different category, but there has to be a happy medium with Babywise or I feel like I won’t ever be able to hold my babies, let alone my husband who is gone all day. I’m really missing them and need some encouragement! Maybe it’s just my mommy guilt and lack of sleep, but I feel like I’m missing the joy of my precious babies while they are so young. I welcome your thoughts as soon as possible! Thanks so much!!

Babywise Mom said…
Tracy, you could try a shorter nap in the evening (45 min or one hour). You could try to keep them up, but 5 weeks seems young for that to me. However, you are the mom! I am not sure about holding them for a nap each day. Some babies might be able to handle that. My daughter might have. My son definitely wouldn’t have. If you do decide to do it, understand it can’t last very long. They won’t sleep very well in your arms.I understand your frustration. All moms have it, so with two you wouldn’t be able to spend as much time with each. See this post for more on that: Spending Time with Baby/Child

MomWithaDoubleBlessing said…
Good morning! First of all, thanks for the abundant advice all over this blog. I too reference it a lot for ideas to troubleshoot!I am a first time mom of 10wk (corrected age is 8 weeks) twin boys. My hands are full, and the boys really are sweethearts.We work really hard to keep them on the same schedule (every 3 hours). They are doing really well at sleep training and, unless over-stimulated, can get themselves to settle within 10 minutes most times! Sometimes with no crying at all. (Still working on transitions, but they get it most of the time)My question is regarding night feedings. I’m feeling sad because both of them have slept up to 8 hours a couple times. But in the last week and a bit (as life has gone back to normal since the holidays), both have digressed back to 4 and 5 hours. One of them even woke twice in the night a couple nights ago! I’m trying to think “What have I done differently?!” Is it normal to progress and then digress?Their schedule is:7:30am10:30am1:30pm4:00pm7:00pmDF 9:30-10pmI don’t expect them to make it all the way through to the 7:30 feed yet, because that would be 10 hours. I’ve considered adding another feed into the day (to make it 7 in the day), but trying to get them to go every 2 and 1/2 hours is crazy because they just aren’t hungry enough!I breastfeed and supplement, alternating who gets what at each feed. I get them to nurse 20-30 minutes and their bottles are now up to 6oz each, which they usually can finish.When they wake in the night, they always take a full feed, and they eat a full meal at the first meal too, so is this simply an issue of waiting for them to mature? Thanks for your input. I just don’t want to miss something and ruin our sleep opportunities!

Babywise Mom said…
MomwithaDoubleBlessing,It is normal to go “digress” like that, especially during a growth spurt.My guess it is a growth spurt. They are at the right age for it. Since they are eating well in the night and morning, I definitely wouldn’t stop feeding them in the night yet.

Tracy said…
We were doing SO well on our sleep-training and have had to start over a bit thanks to the holidays. Oh well…I have a question for you and am not sure where to post it. We have our twins on a very good schedule. They are eating every 3 to 3-1/2 hours, activity time, napping very well. They go down at night between 7:30-8pm like champs after a slightly larger bedtime bottle. They have dropped the late night feeding…we found they just didn’t want to wake up to eat. BUT, they are still waking up at 2am and then again at 5am like clockwork. Sometimes we can get them to sleep through their 5am, but never the 2am. I’ve come to accept that our twosome just need to eat after 6 hours (they are measuring in the 97th percentile, so maybe they need the calories!) Would you try to reinstitute the 10pm feeding to get them to sleep until 4am? Or should we just power through and hope that the introduction of solid food naturally solves some of our problems? What are your thoughts? Should I thank my lucky stars that it’s so easy with twins? We are very tired, but I know it could be worse.

Babywise Mom said…
Tracy, Since the 10 PM feeding was dropped, the night feedings will stick around longer than they would otherwise. I would try to get that 10 PM feeding back in and see if they will eat. Solids take a while before they affect sleeping because it takes them time to actually be able to take in enough food to impact calories for the day. See the blog lable “dreamfeed” for more information on that 10 PM feeding.

Muldner Family said…
This post gives me a little hope although I only have one. It has been tough…you name the problem we have it. He is just now getting over severe colic (is on prescribed drops), suffers from silent reflux (on zantac), gets carsick (use mylanta for long carrides) and now suspect teething is coming. He is almost 18 lbs and 26 in long—a big boy. I am exclusively breastfeeding. I have followed BW to the letter up until acid reflux hit at 2 months. It has been a rough last 2 months and I don’t know what to do. He will go to sleep with a little effort–loves his paci—but will wake at 45 minute mark and will go back to sleep in the swing. Some days he is up at 7 (I would rather 8) and is on a 3/3.5 schedule. At night he wakes minutes after laying down and wants more food then will generally wake 1-2 times in the night for food. My issue is: is it okay for him to finish nap in the swing? not sure what else to do have tried all suggestions, why does he wake minutes after laying down then sleep 5-6 hour stretches? Do I continue to feed him 1-2 times in the night?? He was on a 2 1/2 schedule and had the same issues…he just has a longer wake time now (1-1.5 hours).Please help…my husband works out of town and with a toddler and a newborn that has so many issues I am at the end of my rope.

Tracy said…
Hope you don’t mind me chiming in. We have 13-month old twins, and are a Babywise household with much success (I think.) I can’t imagine how hard it would have been without our routine. Tracy#1 – When my twins were younger, I did hold them for one nap per day for some cuddle time. Truth be told, I napped during that time, too. I usually put one in a bouncy right next to the couch, and the other one laid on my chest. It was WONDERFUL. I think it’s fine to do that as long as you’re consistent with your other naps and ESPECIALLY nighttime sleep. Ours were in their cribs from the time they came home on. That special time with them is very fondly remembered. Oh, if only they’d cuddle with me now like that!Momwithdoubleblessing and Tracy#2 – My twosome are in the 95th plus percentile, too, and I will tell you, we had a lot of sleep regression over the months. We’d have stretches where they slept very well, and then all of a sudden for a couple weeks they would start waking for extra feedings. We had a hard time getting them to drop some feedings, too. I do attribute it to their state of constant growth. Plus, there are two! You might not notice as much if only one baby had a bad stretch, but those bad stretches seem exponential when there are twice as many of them. Just hang in there, and trust that it will change. Quickly. And for the better. We did keep the dreamfeed for longer than many because it did help us drop that 2am feeding. Ours did NOT wake up for the dreamfeed, but they would suck down a bottle. Awesome. Solids really had little effect on our sleep. Hope you don’t mind me chiming in. I was excited to see this post since so few of the twin moms I know have followed the principles of Babywise.

dani said…
I thought I’d offer my advice, too. My girls are now 2 years old now. They also hit the 97th %ile by 4 months; funny how many of us have that experience!Traci #1: I remember wanting to hold them, too. I felt bad that I wasn’t interacting with them more but I was reassured that simply feeding them and changing their diapers might be enough contact. Have you tried tandem feeding? Around that age I found we were all good enough at breast-feeding that I could start doing them together (on an Anna pillow). Bottle-feeding at the same time was more difficult (really!) but then you can have them on the same schedule and get that 30-min overlap back.Momwithdoubleblessing: To offer a different perspective: our girls liked to sleep from 7 pm – 3 am. We started waking them for a 10 pm feeding but they still woke at 3 am and then were in the habit of waking at 10 pm, too. They did finally drop the 3 am feeding (one at 4 months old with some crying).

Babywise Mom said…
Muldner Family,Yes, it is okay for him to finish naps in the swing with the reflux issue. I did that with my oldest daughter. Reflux is hard; it requires more patience and more flexibility, which is hard when you have more than one child. Don’t hesitate to use the swing while you need it. See the label “reflux” for more help with that.

Thanks for your thoughts, Tracy!

Thanks to you, too, Dani! Each of my neigbors have twins (one set on each side of me). They both comment that it is hard to have to divide your time between them because you love both of them so much. My friend said they would both be crying wanting to be held and she would look at them and think “I love you and I love you and I can’t make both of you happy right now!”

Moosetracks said…
I’m not sure that this is the place to leave my question, I’m not really blog savvy 🙂 Here’s our situation. Coming home from the hospital with twins, obviously feeling overwhelmed, I plum forgot that I was planning on using the baby wise method. The biggest thing that we had mixed up was we were doing feed, sleep, awake. So we had it backwards, and sure enough both little guys were wanting to eat every 2 hours or less. After Thanksgiving and the craziness of having my parents stay with us, I remembered, “Babywise!” So for the past 5 days we have been in the “Starting late” phase. My babies are 7 almost 8 weeks old. So far both my husband and I LOVE knowing what to expect, and I notice a difference in the disposition of the boys, much happier, and less reaction to the reflux issue my little guy has. My biggest frustration is nap time. I will put the one boy down no sooner than an hour after he has begun nursing. I let the grogginess progress a bit and then put him down barely awake, yet awake. Sometimes both boys are tired at the same time, which is great and that typically goes better. But then many times I have had one boy still crying it out, when it’s time to put the other boy down. Then boy 1 wakes up boy 2 and sometimes crying can ensue for 30-45 mins. Now this is probably no more than 2 times a day, yet can be very frustrating when one or both ends up being robbed of a nap. They are still sleeping in the same crib and in our room. We know this will need to change in the near future, (When they start rolling over). Both my husband and I prefer it this way for now, I can see how this might effect night time sleep, but am pretty sure that this would not effect nap time. The boys go typically between 5 and 6 hours before waking up to be fed sometime in the early morning. I would appreciate any input!

dani said…
moosetracks: you’ve probably heard this advice before but if you can possibly get them napping at the same time, it will make your life much easier. One of my girls, A, got tired first so I would put her in her crib and put the other one, M, down as well. Usually I thought there was no way M would go to sleep as she didn’t seem tired at all, but she almost always did. I’ve realized that M is the kind of child who never *appears* to be tired and, if I had only had her, I never would have known when to put her down. I know this doesn’t work with some twins, but it is worth a try.We eventually moved from the flexible ‘routine’ to a more clock-based schedule (probably around 6 mos) to keep them synchronized. That way, when one woke early from a nap I didn’t have to agonize about waking the other or feeding the first, etc. I just waited on the clock, and they did pretty well.Also, around 5 months we moved one into a different room for naps (in a pack-n-play in our room). They are over 2 years old now and we still do that; they rarely wake each other up (even when screaming) at night, but they just don’t sleep as deeply during naps.

Moosetracks said…
Dani, Did you breastfeed? And if so Were you able to tandem feed your twins? I am able to do that in the evening and on weekends only, since I’m the only one at home and don’t have consistent help during the day. Unless someone has advice on being able to manuver a tandem feed for 8wk olds without a second pair of hands…if you do!…let me know! haha. Another question…how was awake time accomplished with “M” Unless maybe did you feed M first?

dani said…
I did breastfeed. I started doing tandem feeding when there was an extra pair of hands, then started trying to do one tandem feeding a day by myself. I found it easiest at the beginning to sit on the floor, leaning back against the couch. I think I put a long body pillow behind me, as a ‘stopper’ to keep the babies from sliding off backwards. I also propped up the feeding pillow with bed pillows underneath each side, so it wasn’t just balanced on my lap. And a final pillow to the side of it all, as the “holding deck” for one baby. I’d put one baby on the holding deck, arrange myself and the other baby on the pillow, lift the first baby from the holding deck and latch them both on. I used the propping pillows under the feeding pillow to get the whole thing high enough so they could be latched on without me holding them, so I could burp one with the other still attached. Make sense? It was definitely awkward (and required modification as they grew) but I realized pretty quickly it was easier than feeding one while the other screamed.As for wake time, we always did it together. I’m not sure I understand the question. You can email me at dani.colemanatgmail.comif you want.

BabywiseMom said…
moosetracks, Hopefully Dani was able to help you out (thanks Dani!). I don’t have twins experience. I have a friend with twins (well, several, but this one in particular) said that with CIO, they just got used to each other. If it were me and they were waking each other up, I would move them to separate rooms for naps but keep them in the same bed for night. Most kids (no matter the age difference) will do fine for night in the same room, but not naps. Good luck! Let me know if you still have problems and I will post your question as a “help a reader out” question.

Lauren said…
i am in need of some help as well- i have 4.5 month old twin boys and we have been doing babywise since they were born. they are on a great eating schedule and sleep from 7 pm to 7 am with a dreamfeed at 10 pm [they don’t even wake for this- just drink, although lately it has been decreasing in amount]. they eat at 7 am, 10 am, 1 pm, 4 pm and 6:30 pm plus the dreamfeed. they are still taking 4 naps. off and on over the past 2 months we have had some nap problems. first it was baby b who would only sleep 45 min so we separated them and let baby b CIO. it got better for awhile so we put them back together. stayed great for 3 weeks. now they are both back to 45 min naps even if we separate them. we try to let them CIO but for their first 2 naps they both wake and just talk to themselves for up to 30 min. they won’t fall back to sleep. if we get them up, it is too early to eat as they are not really hungry yet but they have problems staying awake for more than 1.5 hours at a time so it is hard to get back on schedule. what can i do? they just started eating cereal 2x a day and are eating between 30 to 35 oz of formula. both are about 15 pounds but very long- 26.5 inches. thanks!

BabywiseMom said…
Lauren, Ah. 4 months. See the blog label “4 month sleep problems” as well as “wonder weeks.” I think you should find your answers there 🙂

Jenny Borders said…
I decided to post on this label since I’m a mom of twins, too. Even though my question is really only about 1. My b/g twins are 13 months old (12 months corrected). About 2 months ago, my son had surgery and we spent 5 days in the hospital. He then had to spend 3 weeks in arm restraints to keep his hands out of his mouth to let the surgical site heal. Naturally, this disrupted our wonderful sleep habits that Babywise helped us form! We got through the holidays and a few other disruptions, and are back into our normal routine. All restrictions are off. But my son is waking pretty much every night. I can’t explain why. We’ve tried CIO, but he only upsets himself further. Sometimes a diaper change will calm him down enough to help him to go back to sleep. At this point, because his sleep has been disrupted for so long, it’s almost like it is out of habit. Thankfully, my daughter is a champ sleeper and sleeps through it all. But does anyone have any suggestions for what I can do to break this habit? He has slept through all the way a few times, but it seems like he’ll have a few days on, then a week or two off! Thanks so much!

BabywiseMom said…
Jenny, Do you have him fall asleep on his own in the day? If it were me, I would work on daytime naps so he can learn to self-soothe while you are awake anyway :)I would also consider the wake to sleep method described by the baby whisperer in her book “the baby whisperer solves all your problems.”

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21 thoughts on “Babywise and Twins”

  1. I started BW with our twin girls almost immediately they are 6 months now. At first they were on exactly the same schedule. Now we do more of the clock schedule for feedings for the most part. We are still at a 3 hour schedule but occasionally one or two feedings a day we make it to 3.5 or 4 hours. I do not worry too much about having them on the same nap schedule, reflux has thrown a major kink into our napping. However, they always wake at the same time and go down for the night at the same time. I love listening to them talk happily to each other when they wake up each morning. Back on the napping, I have one who normally falls asleep for naps almost immediately, her sleep cues are hard to miss. The other will look totally awake and alert even if she is ready for a nap. She also fusses quite a bit going down. If I am putting both down awake, sometimes I can let her CIO but if her sister was also fussy, I will do a little back rubbing just to maintain the peace. I figure that they can self soothe and hope that my occasional transgression will not create future problems. If one wakes earlier than the other, I let that one get up so the other can sleep. It also gives me a little one on one time which is nice.

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  2. Feed them at the same time, put them down at the same time, get them up at the same time! They will get used to it, I promise! I also began babywise in the beginning with my b/g twins. They are now 9 months and on an amazing schedule. It was hard work in the beginning, but I really worked on putting them down at the same time, getting them up at the same time, etc and now it is just part of their routine. If one wakes before the other, they sit and play in their crib until mommy comes to get them up. Because of having them on the same schedule, I have maintained sanity and am able to have down time for myself each day. They also are great at self-soothing and entertaining! Hope that helps!

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  3. Cassi – I could use some advice. We are stuck in a 30 minute nap rut. Have been for quite a while. Started with teething and has never gone away. I have tried the nap fixes but have not been successful getting an 1.5 hour nap with any of these. I think the girls need different amounts of waketime but would like to keep them on the same schedule. We are pretty much on an every 3 hour feeding schedule – going by clock because the times they wake up are so sporadic. Should I just ‘schedule’ the naps and let them get used to them as part of the routine? I am truly at a loss. Any advice is welcome.Thanks!

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  4. I need help! I have been doing BW since they came home from the NICU. (Born at 31 weeks) they just hit term today. Anyways, I do the sleep/wake/eat/play schedule. However, they wake up, eat, and then want to go down for a nap automatically! My one twin girl will not stay awake! I mean it is murder trying to get her to stay awake for even 5 minutes. However, they do sleep all of nap time. They wake up on their own also. I do not have to go in there every three hours to get them to eat…they wake up and want to eat every three hours. (this is also at night still). Am I doing something wrong!? Why is it so hard to keep them awake for a few minutes after they eat? Sometimes they will stay awake but then not sleep for the whole nap time! I will let them cry it out and then they are too tired to eat at their next feed.Schedule is as follows: Every three hours THEY wake up and eat then want to go right back to sleep. Play time is really hard.

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  5. Machelle, I honestly wouldn’t worry about it right now. I know that you are supposed to treat premature babies as being their adjusted age. Adjusted age, they are a day old. That is 100% normal behavior for a baby that is a day old. It is normal for a baby that is several weeks old. I know you have been doing this for a really, really long time, but you should be seeing some improvement soon.With my super-sleepy daughter, I tried to add one wake time per week. So the first week, I worked to keep her up during her first waketime of the day. Then after doing that for a week, I added another waketime (prehaps the last) etc. I think I started that around 2-3 weeks old. It took a long time before she was awake for every waketime. Also, keep in mind that a “normal” waketime will be anywhere from 30-60 minutes total, leaning more toward the 30-40 minute end of things.See this post for your other problem:Waking Early From Naps/Won’t Fall Asleep For Naps: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/waking-early-from-napswont-fall-asleep.html

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  6. Hi, I was not sure where to post my question being that it is somewhat unique(I couldn’t find anything under “sleeping props”). I am expecting twins and have a 3.5 YO daughter who is a huge BW success. As I am planning the twins arrival I have found a bassinet/crib hammock called “Amby Baby” . Seriously, if you have a minute would you take a look at it @ www.ambybaby.com (there are some on youtube too). I have never seen or heard of this before…It seems rather ingenious. Has any BW mom out there used this before?? It’s rather a huge investment for us being that we need two. My daughter wanted to sleep sitting up all the time when she was a baby so I resorted to putting her in her carseat in the crib quite often. This hammock-like contraption in many instances is used in lieu of a crib!! But, it’s a swing if you look at it. Here is my question/concern. Would this be just another sleeping prop? I was a huge stickler with staying clear of sleeping props the first time around (i.e. nursing to sleep, sleeping in a swing, or rocking to sleep) I have been reading the reviews on it (great thus far) and for the most part people only use it for about 5 or six months but for all naps and night time sleep. I am considering it and would plan on transitioning to the crib at five or six months . It has the Dr. Sears seal of approval however Dr. Sears has very different philisophies than BW (i.e. the family bed). Wondering if you would have any insight with any unforseable habbits this crib/hammock would induce. I know this question is rather unconventional…thank you in advance. Thanks for your blog too!! It’s soo helpful. I use to correspond with a BW consultant via email all the time but this seems so convenient in looking up past postings!!

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  7. I am having a hard time with my twins. One wants to do 3 to 3.5 hour schedule the other a 4 hour schedule. I need to feed them at the same time or I will go crazy. It leads to one of them just snacking throughout the day and not getting enough food. They only get solids at night and it is not much as they are preemie and still do not have it down (They are 6 months, 4 adjusted). They also have reflux but it is not as bad as is used to be. I just am losing my mind! They still go to bed and wake up at the same time in the morning though. Is this something I should just give up on until they are older and can eat solids? They are still not sleeping through the night either. Dream feed at 10PM and then one wakes up at 3AM to eat and the other at 5AM. Should I just let them CIO at the early AM feeds? I think it is just a habit for them now…

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  8. Machelle,I don’t have any experience with twins. I do know life gets crazy when kids aren’t on the same schedule. That happens often when you have more than one. If it were me, I think that I would just feed them when they needed to (one at 3.5 and one at 4) until they could be on a more similar schedule. It won’t last forever. Even my almost 4 and almost 2 year old kids are on almost the exact same schedule right now.You will have to be the one to decide if you CIO for the night. You will have to decide if they need the feedings or not. If not, CIO is definitely an option.

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  9. Well we got the night to where they do not need to eat any more. HOWEVER at the moment, one wants to wake up at 5:30 in the morning! Should I feed her then? She does not start crying until almost 6:30. They are also not napping well. An hour max is what they will do. I have done all the solutions you provide so I am at a loss. I think this is why the one is now waking up so early in the AM. I am losing “Me” time so it is killing me always dealing with sleep issues.

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  10. Machelle,For the early feeding at 5:30, I would see this post:Early Morning Feedings Before Waketime: https://www.babywisemom.com/early-morning-feedings-before-waketime/ For naps, be sure you also see Month Sleep Disruptions : https://www.babywisemom.com/6-month-sleep-disruptions/

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  11. Dear mom,Well, I thought I would give this a try! I am a mom of twins who are four months old. They are on a babywise schedule and still do seven nursing every three hours. Is that okay? And they are both so different, but have been able to keep them on the same schedule. Really the problem is at night. One of them would probably sleep through the night, but the other definitely will not. Right now I get them both up and want them to sleep through the night desperately. Should I let one sleep and only nurse one? I don't know what to do. I also just started the dream feed at 10:30 and their last nursing is 8:30. Their schedule is 6am 9am 11:45am 2:15pm 5pm 8:30pm and middle of the night. I would love some help on how to get them to sleep through! One of the girls is more high strung, but she is also the smaller one…help please!! thanks so much, Nika

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  12. Nika Jo,It is totally fine to feed them every three hours if that is what they need.I would let the one sleep through if she will. There is no need to get her up and feed her if she will sleep through the night–it might cause a habit. Hang in there!

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  13. I don't know if this comment will make it through but I had NO IDEA how to start a post on this website. the only thing i could do was to go the google group and post. so anyone that responds to this if they want to walk me through how to do that that would be great!anyway i have a 3 y.o son and 5 week old twins. my son is a bw success and hopefully my twins will also b a success. my question is about nursing. i nurse them at the same time and my son nurses for 15-20 min and my daughter about 10 min. I know my goal is to get a full feeding but i'm wondering if they are? compared to a singleton they nurse 10 min less? is this okay? i imagine my body had adjusted to the fact that it's twins, right? any moms of multiples have any input? thanks

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  14. Jof5, I don't know if you realize or not, but you posted this on the Chronicles blog, not the Google group.I would have to wonder if it is just that your children nurse at different speeds. Kaitlyn was a super fast nurser. Brayden was super slow. McKenna was average. So if I had nursed any of those two at the same time, they would not have finished at the same times.

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  15. I am a twin mom of twin boys, J and P, who are 9 months in a week. They are so happy and healthy, but are struggling a bit with their morning nap. They only like to nap for about 30 minutes and then are wide awake. First they play, and then they cry. We have done baby wise since we got home for the hospital and although it has worked great, there have been some challenges with 2 babies. Feeding and wake time has always gone great, but naps have been tough. The afternoon nap is finally getting better. They nap about 2.5 hours (waking up after 30 minutes but falling back asleep). Anyways, for the morning, we have done cry it out, I go in there and try to sing to them or rock one of them, I've tried separating, pretty much everything. It seems that it is just my little guy Peter that is really struggling. J seems to like napping a little longer. Any other suggestions? Even if I try to hold him back to sleep he fights me, he just wants to play.

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  16. Samantha–I would wonder if waketime is right for him or not. Since he naps well in the afternoon but not morning, I would try tweaking how long he is awake as well as his stimulation levels.

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  17. Hello! I have 6 month old B/G twins! I have followed BW from the get go and they have done wonderfully on it! Except the last couple weeks they have turned into little individuals! One twin is a great sleeper at night and sleeps 11.5 hours, therefore doesn't want to to nap that much during the day, and the other twin is the opposite, she needs more naps throughout the day! Is this something I just need to accept, or will they eventually line up together? help!

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  18. Hilary, the hard thing is they are two different people. Different people have different sleep needs and won't necessarily line up with each other. As they get older, they should be on a more similar pattern. And as they get older, one who sleeps less will be more content to stay in the crib awake for a time while the younger one takes a nap. So it can improve, but at the same time, they will be different.

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