Let’s Make A Plan

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I mentioned a while ago that I was reading The Parenting Breakthrough after having a couple readers recommend it. I am loving it! In it, Boyack recommends making a plan for helping your children learn independence. She has several steps outlined to develop this plan, so I thought it would be fun for all of us to go through this together. You can make this plan no matter how old your oldest is, from living inside of you to still living at home. So, let’s start with step one.

For step one, you pull out a piece of paper and write on it, “How I Want My Children to Turn Out.” Boyack points out that few people actually make parenting plans, which is silly considering all that we plan out in life. So, on this paper, you make a list of things you want for your children. What are your goals? You might want them to be able to care for themselves. You might want them to be able to keep a job. You might want them to have integrity. A good work ethic. Whatever your goals, write them down. Be realistic. Also, keep in mind that this list will be dynamic–it isn’t set in stone. So relax and just write what comes to mind.

So, take some time to make your list. Consult with your spouse. Think it over. We will talk more later about this.

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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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  1. Anna
    February 17, 2010 / 6:39 PM

    I like this idea. I'm going to do it and after I read Toddlerwise I think I might read this book too!

  2. Redheads
    February 18, 2010 / 12:39 PM

    Thanks, this is a great idea. I think my DH and I will do that this weekend. We were just talking about how we need to sit down and do goals, and of course parenting and family needs to be at the top of the list!

  3. Amanda
    February 19, 2010 / 3:34 AM

    I've actually done this before and I think it helps a lot. Many homeschooling families have a "mission statement" of sorts and that's what gave me the idea. Here's ours for Tobias (roughly):We want him to grow up with a heart for God and a love of others; to be an inter-dependent, confident, and trustworthy man; to continue learning throughout his life; and to be a kind, respectful husband and father.

  4. Plowmanators
    March 2, 2010 / 7:04 PM

    You are welcome ladies!

  5. Plowmanators
    March 2, 2010 / 7:04 PM

    Thanks Mada. Good stuff 🙂

  6. Jules
    May 2, 2011 / 8:31 PM

    Hi,My little one is 10 mo and has been doing everything faster than normal. I have a couple of things I can't seem to wrap my head around and need your help. Malachi is on a 4hour schedule with 2 naps a day. He is awake by 7:30 and down for bed by 7:30 below is his most days routine.I think his feeding time are supposed to line up with our eating times but how and when? The breakfast and lunch times line up great but dinner is not until 5:30. Do I feed his bottle to him when he wakes up and the other food at dinner with our food? I'm trying to transition the baby food out. Which is my other question. How do you make sure they have a full feeding when you stop the baby food?I have given him scramble egg and toast one morning and he didn't eat it all maybe half. He was really cranky come about 9 o'clock. I think didn't get enough food to make it to 9:30 or 10. He normally stays up till 10 or at least 9:45. He had enough sleep the night before and everything else was same oh same oh. Maybe I'm not giving him enough time to eat everything? He does seem to want to stop before he is full because he is tired of chewing and feeding himself. He has never been very excited about food unless its in the morning or at night. After his bottle though he would not complain about not getting real food until he is whinny because he didn't get a full feeding. Now I'm rambling.How do I get him off baby food? How do I only feed him real food when we eat?7:30 wake up, 8oz. bottle 3T cereal half tub fruit9:30 or 10 nap11:30 or 12 wake up, 6oz. bottle whole tub of veggie whole tub of fruit2 nap4 wake up, 6oz. bottle 2T cereal, half tub veggie, half tub fruit5:30 is when we eat as a family he eats some of what we are having or little snacks7:15 bottle 8oz.7:30 bedThanks for your help. I love your blog and tell all my BW friends about you.

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