Monday, September 13, 2010

Babywise II: Establishing Right Patterns

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I know there are parents out there who make it past the newborn months with Babywise Book One, breath a huge sigh of relief, and congratulate themselves on being great parents. They then go on about their lives, only to reach toddlerhood and at some point go running back to Babywise books because their toddler is "suddenly" out of control.

On Becoming Babywise Book Two was "designed to assist parents in establishing the right patterns of learning for their child in the critical periods of brain formation and adaptation" (page 12). Months 5-12 will be months full of new experiences that do require guidance. As Ezzo puts it, "Start as you mean to go" (page 12). Babywise II helps you to start as you mean to go.

As your baby starts down these exciting paths, learning patterns will develop. These learning patterns will form the basis for future learning. New experiences build on old ones--this is a learning pattern that is true even for adults.

So even if your baby is by the book and easy as can be right now, don't forget about the -wise ideas that have gotten you to where you are. You have built a foundation that will take you into your future months with greater ease--not easy, just greater ease. If you continue on this path, you will enter toddlerhood with greater ease. The newborn months likely took some work, and the 5-8 month old can often seen quite easy. This is not the time to sit back and relax. That is not what you signed up for when you became a parent.

As time goes on, parenting only becomes more complex. You will be teaching your child to obey you, to avoid dangers like a hot stove, to have good table manners, to establish healthy eating patterns as she takes on solid foods, and to communicate--just to name a few. This is all while you still focus on healthy sleep patterns.

Then your child will start to have more physical freedom as she learns to crawl and walk, opening a world of possibilities to her. You will have a battle of wills at times :). She will continue to grow and start to play with friends and open up the world of sharing and being kind to others. She will grow more and start to play with children and do other activities where she will be out of your sight for periods of time. You will worry about her moral training and if she will choose the right. You will worry if she is obedient to the authority figures. If she will be responsible. If others will be unkind to her...and it goes on.

So this is only the beginning. This is the time to build a strong foundation. It only gets more complex :)

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A Wee Irish Family said...

I have already purchased and read BW 2... and I am so excited about it. I have already been showing my daughter some of the signs in the book and we've done IP since week 2. I really look forward to her growing up, so that we can put all the wonderful principles into practice. I have all the -wise books on my Christmas/birthday lists this year! :)

NKarmstrong23 said...

I have the first one but haven't been successful in training my baby girl to sleep through the night, she's eating in longer periods, but she's 6 months now and still has restless nights...

Tara said...

Thank you for this reminder. This is so me! I need to get Babywise II because I now have a crawling, active 8 month old and I do indeed feel like things are getting out of control. It seems like all I can do to keep up with meals and naptime and all of his activity/waketime is unstructured and random.

Kristy Powers said...

I can attest to the "greater ease" in moving on to new abilities and stages. With my first son I was more likely to see a problem crop up and then run to books. With my second son we have tried to implement all or most of the -wise ideas at the appropriate times, being careful not to get too ahead of or behind his development. What a difference! It helps to have the experience of a first child under our belts, too. ;)

Plowmanators said...

You are all welcome!

Kristy, thanks for your story! Experience definitely helps.

Miriam said...

Question: I did not do BW with my daughter who is now nearing 5 yrs old. However, we did do the Ezzo's Growing Kids God's Way starting at 2 with her. Is BW2 pretty much the same basis etc as GKGW? Or should I run out and buy a copy? My son is pushing 6 mths. We are dealing with food allergies at the moment which is enough. He is sleeping well thanks to BW. 2-3 naps daily (usually 3) and goes to bed at 8 then a DF around 11 and sleeps till 7 or 8 nearly every night (an occasional 5am feeding). Thanks for your help.

Plowmanators said...

Miriam, I am not exactly sure. If you go to:

and look at the products and see how they compare. I know they have books in the GKGW that are essentially the same as each BW book. I just am not sure if what you have is covered in BW II or not.

Anita Machado said...

I just read the first book and have an 8 mo old with some already established habbits. For example, he primarily only drinks a bottle when he is sleepy and ready to nap so closes his eyes, eats and then sleeps. Not sure how to fully break this habit. I did get him out of eating all night which he was doing. Now he eats at 7:30pm then I don't let him have another bottle til 5am or later if he wakes up later. He then usually eats and goes back to sleep for an hour or 2. Next problem is naps. He has been sleeping in the morning from like 10:15 to 12 and then I cant get him to take another nap. Not sue what to do on this one. Next, when he wakes up at night, should i not pick him up at all? I have been trying to more rub his back a little then leave for a bit, then come rub his back again, etc. He has been waking up several times / night especially in the beginning right now like an hour after he goes to sleep then another hour later. Looking forward to some good help on this! Thanks, Anita


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