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by Caitlin Rogers
“I don’t know how you do it” is a comment I get quite often, from strangers in the checkout line to my closest friends. My son had just turned two when my twins were born, and many days I wonder the same thing; “how am I going to do this today?” While we have our chaotic, exhausting, messy moments, life isn’t as stressful as it could be because of Babywise. Doing Babywise with twins is what keeps me sane and puts a little bit of order in our otherwise orderless life. As I was writing this post, I thought it only fair to not only include the 5 best things about doing Babywise with twins, but also the hardest things, because it is not all rainbows and sunshine! This post contains affiliate links.
The Best Things about Doing Babywise With Twins
I repeat. Schedule, schedule, schedule!!! When you have your babies on a schedule, you know when they are going to be hungry and when they are going to be tired. Knowing when my twins were going to be napping allowed me to spend time with my son and plan activities during their nap. We would leave right at nap time, and when we arrived at our destination I would simply put their car seats in the Double Snap-N-Go and be home in time for them to eat. I absolutely could not feed them in public when they were infants. It took an immense amount of concentration to feed them due to their reflux and prematurity, and with a 2-year-old running around, it just was a bad idea.
(You can read about how I got my twins on the same schedule here and about our breast/bottle feeding journey here.)
Unless you are Spiderman, it is not possible to rock two babies to sleep and then put them in their cribs at the same time. A Babywise baby learns to self-soothe and will happily drift off to sleep on their own.
3. Easier for Babysitters
Because of numbers 1 and 2, Babywise babies are a dream for babysitters. You can tell them when the baby will be hungry, tired, etc. A quick nighttime routine and they are down for the night without hours and hours of rocking! I probably wouldn’t have anyone to watch my 3 littles if we didn’t do Babywise with them.
You are probably wondering how on earth doing Babywise with twins means that they are less likely to wake each other. Since they are on the same schedule, they go to sleep at the same time and wake up at the same time. If they were staggered, one baby would wake up at a different time, therefore waking the other baby. That just sounds like a nightmare to me!
5. Independent Play
I’m gonna be honest, this is one thing with Babywise that I didn’t start with my twins that I really regret. We are in the midst of moving and once we are all settled I’m going to start. Here’s why: by the end of the day, the girls are really cranky and sick of each other. They fight, pick at each other, and steal each other’s toys. Independent play is good for so many reasons, but it is especially beneficial for twins who need a break from each other.
The Hardest Things About Doing Babywise with Twins
For me, personally, the hardest things about Babywise don’t even exist. Things that Babywise flows so well with my personality and our family dynamic, but being open minded, I can see how it could clash with a different family.
1. Doing Babywise with Twins is 3 Times the Work
I tell people frequently that having twins isn’t twice as hard as one baby, but three times as hard. Babywise is hard work in the beginning. Babywise with twins is no exception! I occasionally heard grumblings from my husband begging me to switch to a 4-hour schedule before they were sleeping through the night or to let them continue napping instead of waking them to feed them. The best advice I can give you for this is to remember the big picture. The big picture is happy, well-rested babies that sleep through the night!
Our twins were 14 weeks (only 6 weeks adjusted!!) when they started sleeping through the night. Was it hard work to stick with Babywise? Yes. Was it worth it? Absolutely.
I know I put this as one of the best reasons, but it also can make things tricky to get out of the house and stay on schedule! Once the babies are a little older and don’t nap on the go very well, but still nap frequently throughout the day, it’s hard to get out and about. I just remind myself that it’s just a season and seasons don’t last forever. Your outings may be more infrequent than you’d like but it is worth it for the gift of sleep to you and your babies.
3. Getting off schedule = Two Screaming Babies
As much as you try to avoid it, sometimes your kids are going to get off schedule. In my experience, a child that is on a schedule is well rested, happy, and generally easy to manage. Mess with this child’s schedule, and that all goes out the window! You will have a tired, cranky, difficult child. As life with twins goes, something that is difficult for a singleton is three times as hard with twins.
If you get one baby off schedule and cranky, it’s not the end of the world. If you get your twins off schedule, you’ll have two screaming babies, and I can tell you from experience, there is pretty much nothing harder in the world than trying to console two overtired babies.
Did you find another part of doing Babywise with twins that was hard that I didn’t mention? Let me know in the comments!
Caitlin is a stay at home mom to 1.5 year old identical twin girls and a 3.5 year old little boy. Her blog is an authentic, judgement free zone with advice on twins, parenting, and a little bit of health and beauty thrown in the mix. You can find her at www.rogerspartyof5.com.
Related Posts on this blog:
- Babywise and Twins
- Babywise and Twins: the newborn days
- Babywise Tips for Newborn Twins
- Preterm Babies and Babywise
- Five Tips for Getting Twins on a Schedule