Inside: 3 REASONS IT IS OKAY TO NOT LIKE BEING PREGNANT . Pregnancy is not always fun and it doesn’t make you a bad mom to not enjoy it.
I’ve often seen harsh comments made by some that say a woman has no right to complain about being pregnant. I understand the sentiment. As a whole, I don’t like to complain. I like to try and see the positive to things. However, I also see that for some reason, complaining about pregnancy is equated to being ungrateful. Of course, there are exceptions to the majority, but I would say that in general, this assumption is false.
Pregnancy Is Hard
You can be fit and healthy but pregnancy can still be super challenging. There are the obvious physical ailments such as morning sickness, the extra weight to carry around, swollen joints, round ligament pain, etc etc. However, so often the unseen things are excluded. Hormones play a huge role in how we feel. Did you know that there is such a thing as antenatal depression? No one knows how pregnancy is going to affect them, but I would say that most women wouldn’t say it is a walk in the park. (Read about the 5 things that surprised me during pregnancy — HERE)
Pregnancy Is Unique
I admit that I get easily frustrated when women push their experience onto someone else. Just because you didn’t feel a certain way doesn’t mean that another woman can’t or won’t. Pregnancy is so very individual. We experience things differently. Our situations are different. Gosh, I’ve been pregnant three times and they’ve all had their own unique symptoms.
If you had an ‘easy’ ride, then that’s wonderful, but don’t brush away the feelings of others just because you didn’t personally experience them.
Some women feel like goddesses during pregnancy. Their skin glows and they feel like the essence of femininity. Others (like myself) feel sick and totally unlike themselves. While I greatly value what my body is doing to grow my child, I don’t feel feminine…I feel more akin to a beached whale.
You Still Love Your Baby
If I’m being honest, if I listed out the things I would miss about pregnancy, and those I would not, the ‘would not’ list would be significantly longer. I don’t love the fatigue, the hormone swings, the weight gain, the morning sickness, and the general lack of control. I struggle with not being capable of some of the basic tasks of daily living.
I still love my baby. I don’t love being pregnant, but I’m so excited that I get another child out of it. The nine months of challenges are outweighed by that moment when I get to hold my precious child in my arms for the first time. Do I complain about the pregnancy during those nine months? You betcha! However, as much as I struggle with my body image and mental health, I still have the utmost respect for the ability my body has to grow and nurture a human into existence.
So, it’s okay to not love being pregnant. I remember my mother saying that if a stork could just drop the baby off, that would be great. Ha! However, I think there is a difference between not enjoying something and not being grateful for it. I don’t love it when it rains, but gosh I’m thankful that it makes the country I live in so green and lush!
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