Appetite vs. Hunger When it Comes to Kids

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There is a difference between a child being really hungry and just wanting to eat. Be cautious about letting a child eat at random times when it isn’t hunger.

Child eating a lot of food and holding food up to face

I fear being hungry. I am not talking about starving–just normal hunger that a normal person will feel when it is time for the next meal of the day. 

I didn’t used to be that way, but pregnancy and nursing did something to me. In August of 2004, I got pregnant for the first time.

That pregnancy was a very, very rough one. I threw up several times each day and each night.

I woke in the night to go throw up. For 8 months (started a bit into the pregnancy). The last time I threw up was two hours before Brayden was born. I learned during that pregnancy that hunger=puking.

Then the nursing began. If I didn’t eat constantly, I began shaking uncontrollably. 

The cycle repeated with a pregnancy followed by a year of nursing until the end of March 2010.

It took me a few months after weaning McKenna to realize I feared hunger. Any sign of hunger sent me to the kitchen.

I knew why, and I knew I was justified.

But I also knew I had no reason to fear feeling a bit hungry anymore. I still have to fight myself on it and remind myself that being hungry an hour before dinner time is okay. 

Appetite vs hunger in your kids

We Fear Our Children Being Hungry

Hunger in your children is also a fear of many parents. We worry and worry that the child is not getting enough to eat. We report to our husbands the number of bites our toddler took during the day while he was at work. We are concerned. Concerned enough that we modify menus and can find ourselves letting our kids eat throughout the day and eat things we wouldn’t prefer them eat.

On Becoming Toddlerwise (affiliate link) talks about Appetite vs. Hunger (page 144). The authors define appetite basically as something you want and hunger as something you need.

The dictionary (Oxford American), doesn’t make a super clear distinction between the two. Appetite is defined as “a natural desire to satisfy a bodily need, esp. for food.” Hunger is defined as “a feeling of discomfort or weakness caused by a lack of food, coupled with the desire to eat.”

But let’s notice some key words:

  • Appetite: Natural desire to satisfy
  • Hunger: feeling of discomfort

So at first glance, they look the same, but they are indeed different.

No matter the semantics, I like the point made in Toddlerwise.

Sometimes, people want food just because it looks good, tastes good, smells good, etc. Not because we need it–just because we want it.

That is different from satisfying our need for nourishment.

I always say I have a separate dessert stomach; no matter how full I am, I can somehow always fit that dessert in there.

In my experience, children are far better at eating to fulfill true hunger rather than simply desire than I am. They eat the amount they need to. No more, no less.

But that doesn’t mean they always want to eat what is good for them or that they won’t want to eat a cupcake halfway between normal mealtimes if they see one. 

The problem with satisfying the desire for foods (like a cookie at 10 AM) is that you lead your child down the road to picky and/or unhealthy eating.

Even if you give healthy foods constantly, you will create a situation where your child isn’t hungry at meal times and therefore won’t be hungry enough to be willing to try what the family is eating. 

So you idealy want to have your normal meal times. You have snack times when you see your child needs it. But you don’t give your child food 30 minutes before mealtime consistently. You know the phrase, “You will spoil your dinner!” 

Sometimes, kids get hungry before dinner is ready. My kids get like that. With the older two, I tell them they can wait. 30 minutes is not a hard thing for a 5 or 3 year old. Although I will say, Kaitlyn sometimes does not function well on low blood sugar, so sometimes she gets food if I see a need coming up. 

With McKenna, I first try to distract her with something fun to do to see if I can get her to wait until dinner is ready. If not, I give her fruits and veggies–food I know I am happy with her eating. Last night, for example, I gave her some frozen peas (she loves frozen peas). 

What To Do When Kids Want a Snack

When my older kids randomly ask for food and it is not close to a meal, I ask them what they are interested in. It is usually some sort of cookie or sweet treat.

I offer them something like a banana instead, and they usually decline that. They aren’t hungry–they are just desiring to eat. 

Conclusion

So it is not about making children be hungry and you don’t need to be stuck behind a rule of no eating unless it is a regularly scheduled mealtime.

It is about making sure you don’t spoil your children’s appetites with snacks and making sure they are ready for a meal so they are willing to eat the meal. 

Next time we visit Toddlerwise, we will discuss picky eaters.

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