Babywise Success Story

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I am going to share my story about BW and my family.  My oldest is 6.5, I have an almost 5 yr old, and a 20 month old.  They are all fantastic children.

I was introduced to BW by a friend from church.  I am eternally grateful to her  for this.  She was happening to visit a friend in my town and attended our church service (so totally random timing!) and she mentioned this BW book.  I was real tired.  My 1st was about 4 weeks old and I was cosleeping at night with her as that was the only way she’d sleep (gasp!  I didn’t want to do this and didn’t like this at all but she would sleep a long stretch at night vs waking up all the time.  Although I was so nervous throughout this I never even slept well either so I was still tired:)). She didn’t nap well either so I wasn’t taking long naps during the day when baby naps (like you always hear you are supposed to!) .  She was in a pack in play in my bedroom at other sleep times.  The pediatrician and lots of articles said that babies cannot form habits when so young,etc but I just felt like there had to be a better way and if I continued down this road it would be a habit hard to break.  Well this friend told me about BW and I ordered  the book that day.  I pretty much read the day I got it.  It just resonated with me and made total sense.  So about a week later, when she was about 5 weeks old, I decided that was the end of the night cosleeping. She went into her crib postbath and that was that.  The first evening was rough.  I was actually so exhausted I went to bed early but I heard from my husband and Mom. But we continued on with the crib for sleeping at night and she got used to it well (by 3 months she went down for the night with zero crying/fussing).  This was over 6 years ago and I did not have the benefit of this blog nor the Chronicles group.  As you may know the book is sparse on details, it is more generalities.  The focus is more on the “why vs the how” and the how is left up to you to implement.  So it was a bit of a learning curve.  I know I did a lot of things incorrectly and had inadvertently too much waketimes, etc.  BUT even saying that things started to get way better.  

She slept through the night the day she turned 11 weeks old (from10 PM dreamfeed til 6ish and stretching out then to 7ish AM).  And we never looked back in that area!  The times she woke up in the middle of the night was few and far inbetweeen.   It was wonderful and I felt recharged.  Sleep is vital to me and I don’t feel well without sleep, nevermind not functioning clearly,etc.  I cannot imagine parents who have children who are preschooler age and haven’t slept through the night.  It would cause me physical issues I believe.  So it was a huge blessing to our family.  BUT aside from that, I discovered BW is a lot more than just sleep.  Initially the lure of sleeping through the night so early is what drew me to it. But i discovered all the rest and how vital it is. Of course my children have moments where they are acting like children and going through various phases, but with BW tools and philosophies they are much shorter lived and we work through them and learn.  I have 3 wonderful well-behaved children.  I cannot even count the number of times people remark on my girls behaviour.  Sure, some is their temperament but I absolutely believe some is attributable to BW.  And having 3 kids I don’t think others can chalk it up to “good luck”.  Clearly there is something going on and I believe it is BW.  

(And in case anyone is wondering, my last two slept the the night a bit later than my first but they also had silent reflux.  It was still early on, around 3.5ish months/4 months.  And I also read The BabyWhisperer and Dr Weissbluth’s Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child and blended those books with BW on sleep.  I think there was a lot of good info on the “how” from those other books).

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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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Babywise Success Story

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Here is a great success story from a mother of two.

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I can only imagine what a different experience parenting might be without Babywise. I am so thankful to have had this resource in helping me care for the needs of my children. For my husband and I, parenting has been positive and enjoyable because we have felt equipped to guide and train our children every step of the way.
We began Babywise with both our kids from the very beginning. My daughter has been more difficult than my son, and our experience could have been so different if we didn’t know what to do. More often than not I had to wake my babies to feed them. They needed my guidance to eat often enough. I know it was successful because they have always been at the top of the chart for length and 50-75% for weight. I learned to watch my babies and read their cues. Instead of automatically feeding a crying baby, I learned to stop and assess the situation and then fulfill the determined need. If it was hunger, I fed my baby. If it was sleep, I guided in sleep. If it was pain, I searched for the cause. The eat/wake/sleep pattern helped in problem solving because I could eliminate some of those variables.

My children sleep well and with predictability, in general, and always independently. They are well-rested and happy. The comment we get most often is regarding their smiley and pleasant demeanor. They also notice my son’s good manners. I believe quality and quantity of sleep has contributed significantly to my children’s good behavior, happy demeanor and ability to learn quickly.

While sleep is a high priority, it is only the beginning of the benefits in the –wise series. Skills learned through independent and structured playtime have helped my children to focus on a task, understand boundaries, and play independently. The age-specific issues addressed in the other books of the series have been very helpful in proactive training. I could go into much greater detail on how the –wise books have helped with discipline and training. I can’t say enough good things! Our home is orderly and pleasant, and expectations are understood. My family is a success story!

Jenny

valplowman

Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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