I Could Never Let My Baby Cry

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By Amanda


I am a first time mom to a beautiful 8.5 month old baby girl.  My husband and I read Babywise before our daughter was born.  We are very firm believers in the methods and ideas taught in Babywise, and we have implemented them from early on in our daughter’s life.  We had a rough start because family came in from out of town and held her almost non-stop for her first 3 weeks of life.  It took some time to re-train her to not be held all day and night.  It was really difficult, but my husband and stuck with it.


Our families were not supportive of us using cry-it-out or putting our baby on a schedule.  They couldn’t imagine that we put her in her bed awake, and expected her to put herself to sleep.  However, they were thrilled when we visited for Christmas and she slept 10 hours at night when she was 10 weeks old.


My husband and I recently went out of town for 5 nights for our anniversary, and had family come watch her at our house.  I typed out her schedule and emphasized the importance of following it.  I promised that if I did they would have a happy, well-rested baby on their hands, and they would have a great week.  They could not believe how well behaved she was while we were gone.  She never fussed or gave them a hard time.  I think they thought she was going to cry every time they put her in bed, or maybe they didn’t believe that she really does sleep 12 hours at night with good naps during the day.  They were shocked that what we had been telling the truth.  They finally admitted that the work we put in at the beginning of her life was worth it.  She is happy, alert, confident, well-rested, a good eater, etc. 


Babywise is more than just a schedule to follow.  It is a lifestyle; a way to train your children in a way that pleases God.  My husband and I just found out that our next baby will be joining our family in January.  We are so glad that we implemented Babywise because it will make having 2 babies in 16 months a smoother ride than if we had followed some other parenting style.


It is hard work in the beginning, but well worth it. 


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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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  1. Jessica Maxwell
    July 17, 2013 / 11:49 PM

    My husband and I also have experienced the shock of family members in the beginning weeks of my first daughter's life. Actually more of a belittlement, an attitude that we were ignorant. Like you, our families, both genetic and church, enjoy the fruits of our work and determination. However, some have the attitude that we were "lucky" to get an "easy baby". They are just blessed that we didn't complain about all the difficulties we encountered in the beginning months- we didn't need to because we were confident and equipped and dealt with it. Babywise has that effect on parents.Thanks for sharing!

  2. Ingrid Liby
    July 19, 2013 / 2:34 PM

    My husband and I had the same issue of people holding our newborn during the first 3 weeks and now that is the only way she will fall asleep. How did you break your baby of this habit and how long did it take? Ingrid

  3. Ingrid Liby
    July 19, 2013 / 2:37 PM

    My husband and I had the same issue of people holding our newborn during the first 3 weeks and now that is the only way she will fall asleep. How did you break your baby of this habit and how long did it take? Ingrid

  4. Krista Culbertson
    August 13, 2013 / 12:22 AM

    I have a 5 week old and this sounds like I could have written it! I am now trying to get on our babywise schedule and undo all the holding during the daytime naps. Any pointers from your experience?

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