Being a parent is hard. Some days, things go wrong for no reason at all. Bad days happen and you need to learn to just roll with it.
I love music. A whole lot. So much, that I am surprised I have not ever posted song lyrics on here that have inspired me. But that seems awfully cheesy and Jr. High-ish…so I suppose giving it a good three years before I did so was a good idea.
Today, you are getting lyrics.
Again, I love music and like just about any type of music (just about). I was recently listening to Sugarland, and came across the song “It Happens.” I thought the chorus was absolutely perfect for many of us moms to chant to ourselves some days:
“It Happens” Lyrics
Now it is poor me, why me, oh me
Boring the same old worn out blah blah story
There is no good explanation for it at all
Ain’t no rhyme or reason
No complicated meaning
Ain’t no need to over think it
Let go laughing
Life don’t go quite like you planned it
We try so hard to understand it
The fact is
How This Relates to Parenting
As I was listening to this, it struck me that is often true even in simple parenting tasks.
I think the most common and best-fitting thing this can be tied to is a poor nap. Sometimes your baby or child will not sleep well. The reasons can range. Sometimes you can really just nail it down.
But sometimes, it just happens.
There is no good reason for it. There is no need to analyze and stress about it. Laugh it off.
Despite your best efforts and despite your sacrifices and plans, things won’t always work out perfectly according to your master plan.
And it just happens.
What about behavior? Some days, your child will throw a fit for no good reason. It might even happen in the middle of the store.
Some days, your child will eat only enough to keep a small ant alive.
Some days, you are going to mess up big time. You will do something that you later realize was really a dumb move on your part.
So take the songs advice and laugh it off. No need to stress and agonize over something that sometimes bad occurs. Sometimes, it happens.
5 thoughts on “It Happens (sometimes things just go wrong)”
Thanks for the encouragement. Sunday and Tuesday were 'it happens' days for us and DS aged 10 weeks. Yesterday, he was textbook! Today…we'll see. But you're right. In the post terrible nap analysis, I too decided 'it happens'. So next time, we try again and we pray and we hope and we wait and see.
Just the encouragement I needed today after my DS would only nap 4 times and the third was because I put him in the car & took a drive. I have NO IDEA why he wouldn't nap. He's been an angel for the last 6 weeks of his life doing BW almost perfectly but today not so much! Thank you for your blog. It's so helpful for a first time mom because you rarely find those who still remember how hard it was and don't just throw out "it will get easier". Us first time moms still need help knowing HOW to make it easier! You're blog helps me with that!
A friend of mine (who did BW with her son) just gave me the same advice. I, along with w/ many other moms I'm sure, sometimes get so caught up in trying to do things perfectly with our babies. But you are right, we just need to relax! Since taking my friend's advice a couple weeks ago, I have been so much less stressed. Of course a less stressed mommy = less stressed household (which in my case includes hubby, an 18 month old daughter and 7 week old daughter). Babywise Moms really need to take this lesson to heart!
It get's easier to laugh it off with subsequent children. With my 2nd my mom would often say, aren't you afraid he's (the first) going to wake the baby??? And I was surprised to find myself shrugging and saying it is what it is! And to find that he hardly every actually woke up the baby. I also have learned that the more I relax given my best effort, the more I actually enjoy my kids. =)
You are all so welcome!So true thesprain. We enjoy our kids much more when we relax.