It can be difficult to get your newborn to have waketime each day. Learn why that is normal and okay. Wake time will come!
I know few things stress people out more than newborns and trying to get them onto the routine they are hoping to achieve.
For most newborns, one of the hardest things to achieve is to establish “waketime” after each feeding during the day.
I wanted to offer some encouragement to hopefully help you relax and take the process in stride.
On Becoming Babywise addresses the difficulty,
“Attempts to keep awake this sweet bundle simply are not successful. That is okay.”
And then this important sentence:
“Wakefulness is a goal to strive toward” (page 107).
Did you catch that? It does not say that you must have waketime following every feeding or your child will be a complete failure, and of course you are then a complete failure by association.
It says it is a goal to strive toward.
Goals take time.
Therefore, you can’t expect to achieve this goal immediately. It takes work, consistency, and time.
So as you work on this goal, try to avoid the slippery slope of despair and worry.
You will get there.
I have this post with ideas to help you get there: Adding Waketime to Your Newborn’s Day.
What Counts as Waketime for a Newborn?
Remember that eating and diaper change are “waketime.”
When you consider that most newborns can only be awake for 30-45 minutes at first, it takes at least 20 to eat then 5ish for the full diaper change, that doesn’t leave you with much beyond that.
So at first, you won’t be having much time spent doing anything other than eat and change diapers.
This is normal.
Some babies are a little harder to get to have wake time.
If they are like Kaitlyn, they fall asleep even through the diaper change and cannot be roused.
That is okay.
You can slowly add waketime like I did with her (as described in the post linked above).
She still learned to have waketime, slept through the night, and took great naps. It all worked out.
It will all come. I know that a two week old seems like she has been around for a long time because you aren’t getting much sleep.
In real-time, two weeks is not that long. It might take 6 or more weeks to get playtime really happening even a little.
So just relax, do what you can, and turn off the stress.
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