Not Pinterest Worthy, but Child Worthy

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A few weeks ago as I was finishing up McKenna’s birthday cake, I shook my head and laughed at myself and thought, “This is definitely not ‘Pinterest worthy.'” I am no cake decorator. It is something I think would be fun to learn, but at this point in life, I have not. Kids like fun cakes, though, so I do my best. As I finished up my thought, McKenna came into the room and gasped with excitement. She loved it! I then thought, “It might not be ‘Pinterest worthy,’ but it is certainly child worthy.” 

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Child worthy!

And isn’t that really what matters? What was I making the cake for? My child. Definitely not Pinterest. And I think as you look at the pictures of cakes I have made, you will likely think, “Those aren’t so bad!” And they aren’t. They aren’t so bad. But they definitely wouldn’t shine on Pinterest! Ha! And that is okay. You know what else? If the Internet didn’t exist, I would probably be pretty proud of my cakes (though a couple of them wouldn’t exist because I found inspiration on the Internet).

There are so many different ways we can compare ourselves to other parents. We can compare how clean their house is to ours, how balanced their meals are compared to ours, how patient they are compared to us, how many fun projects they do compared to us, how many cookies they bake compared to us…and as if simply looking to other homes and moms and imagining what is going on behind those doors wasn’t enough to make women feel inferior, we now have the Internet and sites like Pinterest to remind us in our moments of triumph that once someone did it better.

But who really cares how good mine was compared to someone else? Definitely not McKenna. My cake was child worthy. So in my final moments of cake decorating, I should think, “McKenna will love this. This is McKenna worthy.” 

The next time you find yourself in a self-deprecating moment, take a step back and think look at your child. Was it child worthy? If so, then no matter how you did it, you did it perfectly.

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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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11 Comments

  1. Dusti
    April 24, 2013 / 4:17 PM

    I so needed to hear this today! We moms need to remember that we all have different strengths and not one of us is great at everything. We need to stop trying for perfection and remember what is most important to our children is most important.

  2. Kristen
    April 24, 2013 / 4:27 PM

    I love your cakes! They are beautiful because they are homemade. I make my children's birthday cakes too, and while I know I could get a "perfect" looking one from the store, I find it extremely special to be able to make their cakes for them. My mom made our birthday cakes every year too, and they were not perfect or "Pinterest Worthy" – and we LOVED them! I hope to give my children those same memories, just like you are doing for yours!!

  3. Lacie
    April 24, 2013 / 5:32 PM

    Amen sister! Tears stung my eyes when reading this so it's obviously a sore subject for me and something I need to remember!

  4. Janet
    April 24, 2013 / 7:22 PM

    I had the same thought when I was determined to make my daughters first bday cake. It ended up looking "trashy" by my standards, but it was for her to destroy anyway. Everyone else got professional cupcakes. I no longer make the cakes. It's easier to outsource what you know you're not good at and put time and effort into other things!

  5. Mollie VanderLaan
    April 24, 2013 / 7:37 PM

    I love this message. Just being a mom and caring is more than enough for our kids!

  6. BobbieMum
    April 24, 2013 / 7:48 PM

    Love this! I had a very similar experience for my daughters 3rd birthday last week. I actually wish I'd taken a photo of how terrible it looked by the time we put the candles on because the icing was melting, but my daughter was delighted when she saw it, and that's what I was hoping for 🙂

  7. Kristy Powers
    April 25, 2013 / 1:53 PM

    One of my new favorite posts. It's amazing how many things I do with my subconscious saying, "What will so-and-so think of this?" That's no way to live life! Thank you for writing this.

  8. Kristin
    April 26, 2013 / 2:36 AM

    Love your cakes! Mine are the same way. The reaction from my children is the best reward. As mothers, its so easy to compare ourselves, our husbands, our children and our lives to others. It reminds me of something my pastor always says when we go on mission trips to foreign countries – "no complaining and no comparing." It works for working with other cultures and it works in life in general! Great post!

  9. Our Little Family
    April 26, 2013 / 11:33 AM

    Thank you for this post! I often find myself having similar feelings about Pinterest. I totally agree with you :)MarissaOurlittlefamblog.blogspot.com

  10. MeganRuth
    April 29, 2013 / 2:48 AM

    Wonderful point! Plus, it made me smile reading this post. Thanks!

  11. Valerie Plowman
    April 29, 2013 / 9:42 PM

    Thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts!

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