On Becoming Babywise has a section in the book aimed at helping you to understand how to apply flexibility to your daily life (starting on page 116). I remember when Brayden was a baby reading that section often.
The thing is, even with a careful reading (or twenty careful readings) and the ability to take lessons from the examples and apply them to a broad spectrum of situations, flexibility still is more of a "learned skill" -- in that you learn it as you go. You can't really learn it from a book.
I think of it like creativity. You can't really learn creativity. You can be creatively inspired, but the more you practice at it, the more creative you get.
The same is true for flexibility. The more you try out being flexible and observe the end results, the more you learn how to be flexible. You learn when it is okay to be flexible and when it isn't a good idea. You learn what the results might be and figure out if the consequences are worth it or not. You learn how to compensate for lost sleep and late meals. You learn to relax a bit.
Summer is a busy time and you might be concerned about how to be flexible without "ruining everything." So if you are struggling with flexibility, read in Babywise, read posts on this blog, and practice.
But here is my ultimate secret to understanding flexibility. Strive to understand the base theory of Babywise principles. This is the why vs. how. This is far more effective than memorizing the rules taught in a few stories in the book or on this blog. The best thing to do is to know why you are doing what you do.
As you understand the theory behind what you are doing, you will be able to add flexibility to your life without thinking about it very hard.
Here is to happy summer times!
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