You can make your baby flexible even when using the Babywise method. You can be flexible with Babywise! Read how in this post.
I am sure most of you see or hear someone say “I’m flexible” quite often when discussing schedules.
“I use a schedule for my baby, but I’m flexible!”
Many times, what people mean by this is that they are not a stickler for routine.
But is that true flexibility?
Page 110 of On Becoming Babywise says,
“And remember, true flexibility is not a lack of routine, but a temporary alternation of what you usually do.”
Clearly, Ezzo and Bucknam have a different meaning for flexible than many of us do when we say we are flexible.
What Does Flexible Mean
I decided to look into the idea of true flexibility. I turned to my beloved Oxford American Dictionary and looked up “Flexibility.” Here are some definitions.
“Capable of bending easily without breaking.”
“Able to be easily modified to respond to altered circumstances and conditions.”
“Ready and able to change so as to adapt to different circumstances.”
From these definitions we can see that flexible does not mean a lack of a routine, but the ability to deviate from routine if and when needed.
As Ezzo and Bucknam point out, your aren’t being flexible if there is no where for you to return to. If you didn’t start from a solid foundation, it isn’t true flexibility.
Being Flexible with Babywise
I actually find the first definition quite comical when I consider it in the context of a parent with a child–especially a newborn baby (the kind of funny where you either laugh or cry).
“Capable of bending easily without breaking.”
Were you able to bend easily this past Christmas season? And if so, did you do so without coming to a breaking point? Was your child able to bend without coming to a breaking point?
If not, don’t worry. The day will come. Babies become more flexible as they get older. The younger they are, the harder disruptions are for them.
This is because as your baby gets older, there is a strong foundation to be flexible from. Younger babies are still building their foundation.
How To Make Flexibility Easier
So how do you make flexibility easier to achieve?
First, plan it out! Have some sort of plan in your head for how to modify your typical routine in the best way to suit the circumstance.
As you get more experience in being flexible, you will be able to come up with solutions on the fly much easier, but in the beginning, having some sort of “game plan” will help you immensely.
For example, most babies will struggle if you choose to disrupt the first nap of the day, but can be quite flexible with the last nap of the day. If you can control where you ask your baby to stretch, you can plan things out so your baby handles it all much better.
Second, practice! Stretch those muscles. The more experience you have, the more successfully you can be flexible.
You can’t learn how flexible your baby can be, nor can you know how to best plan things out, if you have no experience in asking your baby to be flexible.
But remember to give yourself breaks. Don’t stretch so much that your muscles snap. It is totally fine and even good to have disruptions at times, but remember to come back to that foundation.
Third, (and this should probably be first), have a solid foundation. You can’t “be flexible” if you have no starting point. Flexibility is ‘changing, bending, adapting…”
It isn’t flexibility if you have no starting point.
So can you have a schedule and be flexible? Yes! But you need to have a schedule first BEFORE you can have a schedule and be flexible.
Fourth, as I said above, give yourself time to recover. After a disruption, return to the schedule and let baby get back on track.
January is one of those recovery months of the year.
Between Halloween, Thanksgiving, and especially Christmas (followed closely by New Years), we need lots of flexibility. January is that month to get back on that solid foundation and let your sore muscles heal up.
Always remember, your schedule is there to serve you, your baby, and your family. It is there to make life better for everyone.
You do not serve your schedule.
You can disrupt it when you need to! You can be flexible with Babywise.
I hope you are all able to get some recovery done now that things have calmed down with the holidays!
- Tips for Feeding Baby and Napping Away From Home
- How To Expertly Manage Disruptions to Your Baby Routine
- Let Your Schedule Serve You: You Don’t Serve Your Schedule (Don’t Stress)
- How To Go Out With Your Babywise Baby
- Adjusting for Context Using Babywise
- “Flexible-izing” a Baby
This post originally appeared on this blog January 2011
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