Poll Results: Potty Training

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These are the results for the latest poll on the topic of potty training. You can see the original post with the answers here: Potty Training Poll.


1-How old was your child when you started potty training that ended successfully?

  • 14-15 Months: 2
  • 22 Months: 1
  • 2 Years: 4
  • 25-27 Months: 4
  • 28-29 Months: 4
  • 3: 1
  • 3.5 Years: 1

2-Did your child have a hard time learning to pee in the potty?

  • Yes: 2
  • No: 15

3-Did your child have a hard time learning to poop in the potty?

  • Yes: 9
  • No: 8

4-Did you ever use pull ups? If so, when?


Yes: 9

  • At naps and nighttime: 3
  • Naps only
  • Night only
  • During errands and naps
  • During car rides and errands
  • Just initially as a precaution
  • Naps, night, and plane ride

No: 5

No, but doesn’t stay dry through sleeping: 1

No, but wears diaper for naps and/or night: 2


5-How long did it take your child to stay clean and dry in underwear relatively consistently?

  • Immediate: 4
  • 3 days: 3
  • Less than 1 week: 2
  • 1 week: 1
  • 2 weeks: 2
  • 2-3 weeks: 1
  • 3 weeks: 2
  • 1 month: 2

6-How did you have your child dressed from the waist down during potty training? (i.e. bare-bum, underwear only, fully dressed, pull-up…)

  • Fully Dressed: 3
  • Underwear: 8
  • Bare-Bum: 6

7-How long after starting potty training could your child take a nap in underwear?

  • Immediate: 5
  • Immediate but not dry 100% of time: 1
  • A few weeks: 1
  • 1 Month: 1
  • 2 Months: 1
  • 3 Months: 1
  • 4 Months: 1
  • 5 Months: 1
  • 7 Months: 1
  • N/A: 4

8-How long after starting potty training could your child sleep at night in underwear?

  • Immediate: 3
  • Did immediate, but rarely wakes dry: 1
  • Less than one week: 1
  • 3 Months: 1
  • 7 Months: 1
  • N/A: 10

9-Did you do a “dreampee”? If so, for how long?

  • No: 11
  • No, but child wakes on own to pee in night: 1
  • Yes, still doing it: 1
  • Yes, still do sometimes: 1
  • Yes, 1 year: 1
  • Yes, didn’t work: 2

10-Any tips for potty training parents?

AMANDA SAID:

It’s ok to change methods. We started with a seat insert for the regular potty, but ended up switching to a small potty that sits on the floor. She was interested in the big potty, but terrified to sit on it and release. She is happy to go in her little potty. We’ll transition to the big potty later. 


It’s ok to start, but then stop if your child isn’t really ready. We tried at 18 months because we thought she was ready due to showing interest and wanting to sit on the potty. After 2 days of tears and fighting, we stopped. 10 months later she was ready to go on the little potty, and would tell me when she needed to go. Often times, her diaper would be dry when she did this. During those 10 months of waiting I would sometimes ask if she wanted to sit on her potty, but I didn’t push it. When I changed her diaper I sometimes told her that she could go on her potty whenever she was ready; she just needed to tell me when she was ready. And she did; when she was ready.

Don’t start until you are ready to commit. Her sister is 16 months younger and I knew it would be challenging to potty train with her around and into everything. She started showing interest around 28 months, but we waited to officially train until 29 months. During that month I took her potty whenever she wanted, but didn’t ask her is she needed to go. She also wore only diapers during that month. I was ready when I could send the baby sister to my mom’s house for 3 days so I could focus on potty training. I also waited until we had no out of town trips or even daytime obligations for several weeks. We pretty much stayed home for several days to get her used to the process. We are only 1 week in so I am careful about how long I am out. I also carry a potty seat in the van (along with toilet paper, treats, and extra clothes) when I will be out for a long time.

I loved the idea from the Ezzo’s about rewarding for clean and dry panties as well as going in the potty! My daughter responds well to treats because they are usually rare (hence the words treat) She really wants 2 treats every time she uses the potty, so I emphasize that 1 treat is for being clean and dry, and only 1 treat is for going in the potty. This really resonated with her, and I think helped her get the idea to stay clean. It has been 5 days of training and she has had no accidents that last 2 days! Even during nap time!”


JACKIE SAID:

Be super positive! And don’t force them. Last week we started seeing a little bit of regression and we decided it was probably because we’ve still been reminding him constantly about potty stuff. He knows what to do at this point so we are pulling back a little. He doesn’t like to be told what to do so when we’re constantly saying “tell me when you need to go potty” “keep your underwear dry” and making him go in public places when we have bathroom breaks – it was wearing on him and he was getting upset, saying “no potty! no potty!”. Last week when we started pulling back a bit, he did SO MUCH better. He has been telling us he needs to go and isn’t resisting or holding it as much.”


MELISSA SAID:

We taught her how to perch on the actual toilet seat pretty early on so that we could ditch potty seats and not have as much clean-up to do. Plus, that way we don’t have to drag a potty seat everywhere we go. Unfortunately, we had to break the floor potty out again as a way to encourage her to feel more comfortable pooping when she had her regression, but she still goes on the big toilet quite a bit which saves us having to rinse out the potty.”


ELIZABETH SAID: “Try the 3 day method if you can! Child may not be ready yet though, especially for poop.”


BARNOLD SAID: “Be consistent–once you decide to go for it, just do it and keep at it.”


SARAH SAID:

#1 TOILETING EARLY IS NOT A MORAL ISSUE. #2 A LOT OF “POTTY TRAINING IS “PARENT TRAINING”. 


We started to potty train with a celebratory shopping trip to buy a potty and prizes and treats–we made a huge deal of the day potty training would begin. She was 15 months old. It was an emotional and long day. Our kiddo is strong willed and is absolutely not motivated by prizes and treats. I vividly remember sitting on the family room floor at the end of the day next to a potty on top of a beach towel and just crying. Everyone said it could be done in less than three days!!

As time went on, we tried every six months or so, but it wasn’t until she was almost 3.5 (and her baby sister was due in a few months) that she started toileting herself. Once she decided it was time, she did it independently with no accidents, no reminders and I only needed to wipe her. Let me tell you, hearing your child put themselves on the toilet is one of the sweetest sounds you will hear as a parent!

In my opinion, it really doesn’t matter how old a child is when they start to wear underwear. My children are well behaved and obedient and smart and loved. Potty training is not a measure of how good a parent you are (I beat myself up about this.) 

It’s certainly worth trying early, but if your kiddos are strong-willed like mine I think it’s okay to put the potty away and try again in a few months. Also, if you’re in a season as a mom where you’re physically unable to pack a toddler to the potty every hour or cleaning up accidents will put you at odds with your sweet little person, just let it go until you can.

As moms of young kids we’re steeped in the stats of our children; growth percentiles, milestone ages, hours of sleep, yadda, yadda. “Age of potty training” is not something that will every be of importance beyond toddlerhood peer group comparisons. Just do what works best for your family.”


JENNIFER SAID: 

“I have learned there is not one right way to potty train. It’s more of what the parent can handle. After trying the 3day potty training method I learned I am not ok having my child pee all over my house. I would much rather take them to the potty every 15 mins. Once we switched to a method we were comfortable with potty training was less stressful and went much smoother.


Also, it’s ok to start then stop. We first tried at 2 years and she wasn’t ready. We went back to diapers then tried again in 2 months and she was ready then!”


JULIE SAID:

we tried when he was 2 and he wet his underwear 3 times in 30 minutes so we stopped. then one day he said he didn’t want to wear a diaper so we switched and he never looked back. i would definitely wait until your child is ready. theres nothing to rush and if it doesn’t work out the first time, just wait a little longer”


COLE SAID:

I know a lot of people wait until the child is much older and are successful, but seeing now what a strong willed child my daughter turned out to be, I am SO GLAD I did it before she become obstinate! It seems like it would be impossible right now given her personality at 27mo. So for parents who think they might have a strong willed child on their hands, it might be worth it to potty train earlier, even if it takes a little longer.”


JACQUELINE SAID: “Have a game plan. Search for potty training bootcamp posts on Pinterest. I pulled the parts I liked best from a few different ones to devise our plan.”


ALICIA SAID: “As cliché as it is, wait till they are ready.”


JANICE SAID:

For naps and night it worked for us to just wait until her diaper stayed dry for a period of a couple weeks and then stop using the diaper. That happened younger than I expected, in our case 32 months. I found that the Oh Crap Potty Training method worked extremely well. I did bare bum for 2-3 days (no forced attempts; just rush them to nearby potty when they start to go until they go by themselves or tell you when they have to go), then pants/dress only on the bottom for a couple weeks and then undies. It wasn’t nearly as hard as I thought it would be!”


ZEPHYR SAID: 

Don’t panic, it’ll happen. Don’t use pull-ups, they just confuse them. Bare bum made it so much easier for her to realise when she had an accident. It’s worth committing to three days at home to really consolidate the potty for pee-pee”


ME SAID: 

I personally believe earlier is better. In Europe where I come from, early potty training is common; my mom trained her 7 kids before 18 months. My oldest was 14 months and we are currently working with our second. If you can get them trained before the 2-year-old stage comes along, you will save yourself trouble. It was so much easier than I thought. Here’s what I did, I put her on the potty once a day or so from 6-9 months of age, just a couple minutes to get used to it. Every once in a while she’d be successful. At 14 months we went hardcore. I put her in underwear and I set a timer every 20 minutes. She would get 1 chocolate chip if she was successful. A couple days later we were done and she never looked back. Night training went by itself, she was in underwear at 17 months and she has only wet the bed 2 or 3 times since she was trained… she’s 3 now. Another tip I have is to always use your “potty word” whenever you notice your baby is going potty in her diaper. I did this from birth on up and she started saying the word at 8 months. So helpful when they can tell you when they need to go. There is definitely no right or wrong way to go about potty training, but this is my perspective…”


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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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3 Comments

  1. Kathelle - Strandom
    March 18, 2015 / 2:27 PM

    Interesting, thank you! WE've not started yet, still waiting until we are ready (me as much as him!) Useful tips though 🙂 x

  2. Jeni
    March 20, 2015 / 11:53 PM

    Thank you for this! Can anyone out there help me with potty training regression, however? We potty trained my daughter at 2.5 years using the 3-day method — it went great! Now, a few months later, she is suddenly having accidents. One or so per day! It seems she either gets busy playing, or just plain doesn't "want" to use the toilet anymore. I've continued to make a big happy fuss when she is successful and when she stays dry (complimenting her, offering a jelly bean or a chocolate chip, etc.) but she really isn't being consistent anymore. Any ideas on what might work to pull out of this regression? Also, when I suggest that she use the toilet after a nap or in the morning (or anytime ever) she refuses and makes a fuss. I eventually get her to do it, but it's no fun for either of us. Thanks all!

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    March 26, 2015 / 5:27 AM

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Poll Results: Potty Training

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Here are the results on potty training! To see the original post and the responses, see this post.


There were 25 responses.


Here are the answers–you will notice there is a huge variance in the answers, which just supports the idea that there is no one right way to potty train (Potty Training: More Than One Right Method):


1. What age did you start the potty training process (the age when you started and your child actually moved to being potty trained–not an age where you started and realized the child wasn’t ready). 

14-15 months: 1 (4%)

18-19 months: 2 (8%)

20-21 months: 2 (8%)

22-23 months: 1 (4%)

24-25 months: 4 (16%)

26-27 months: 8 (32%)

28-29 months: 1 (4%)

2.5 years: 5 (20%)

34 months: 1 (4%)

3 years: 1 (4%)

2. How long did it take between the start of potty training and your child being potty trained in the day?

Less than 3 days: 6 (24%)

3 days: 8 (32%)

4-7 days: 7 (28%)

2 months: 1 (4%)

3 months: 1 (4%)

5 months: 1 (4%)

N/A: 2 (8%)

3. Did you do underwear, diapers, or pull ups for naps?

Underwear: 9 (36%)

Diapers: 9 (36%)

Pull-Ups: 6 (24%)

Yes: 2 (8%)

4. Did you do underwear, diapers, or pull ups for night?

Underwear: 5 (20%)

Diapers: 12 (48%)

Pull-Ups: 7 (28%)

Yes: 2 (8%)

5. How long did it take between the start of potty training and your child being potty trained for naps?

Less than 3 Days: 5 (20%)

3 days: 3 (12%)

4-7 days: 2 (8%)

4-7 weeks: 1 (4%)

3-4 months: 3 (12%)

5-6 months: 1 (4%)

7-8 months: 1 (4%)

1 year: 1 (4%)

2 years: 1 (4%)

N/A: 7 (28%)

6. How long did it take between the start of potty training and your child being potty trained for night?

Less than 3 Days: 4 (16%)

3 days: 2 (8%)

5-7 weeks: 1 (4%)

2 months: 2 (8%)

5-6 months: 4 (16%)

18 months: 1 (4%)

1 year: 1 (4%)

3 years: 1 (4%)

N/A: 10 (40%)

7. What method did you use to potty train? (list either a book/method or briefly describe your own method).

3 Day Potty Training: 1 (4%)

3 Day Potty Queen: 1 (4%)

Bare Bottom (most included pushing drinks and offering rewards): 7 (28%)

Pottywise/Potty Training 123: 6 (24%)

John Rosemond: 1 (4%)

Lots of Juice: 2 (8%)

Child-led: 3 (12%)

Other *(see below): 5 (20%)

8. How did you deal with Independent Playtime during potty training? 

Went Potty Before and After: 2 (8%)

Checked during: 1 (4%)

Skip It: 15 (60%)

Left Potty With Child: 4 (16%)

N/A: 1 (4%)

9. Did you allow your child to get out of bed for potty breaks at IPT, naps, and/or night? If so, how did that work?

No–went Potty Before and After: 6 (24%)

No–had to call to us to get out: 6 (24%)

No: 1 (4%)

Allowed one potty break only: 4 (16%)

Didn’t Say Anything–Stayed Dry: 2 (8%)

Allow It–No Issues: 4 (16%)

Allowed but didn’t do it: 1 (4%)

Not Answered: 1 (4%)

N/A (in diaper/pull-up): 4 (16%)

10. Any words of advice for those potty training? (pep talks, signs of readiness, good ages, little tips to make it easier, etc).

“Listen to your child”

“Hang in there and if you know they are ready, keep at it and make sure you give lots of praise when they go. Use treats if necessary!”

wait until they are really ready, don’t start too soon. I felt like she was late (34 months, girl) but we had tried twice before unsuccessfully which was awful. I ended up telling her, “You can only go to preschool if you stay dry” and that worked!”


“We loved this quick method [1-3 days commando with lots of juice and practice and showing with a doll. I think babywise mentions this method and there was another book that talked about it as a party. I’m not sure what that book was called.] and we’ve heard from lots of parents who had success – even a family with 3 boys who all did this successfully at 2 yrs old. Our kids have adjusted REALLY well – not perfectly – they both had setbacks for a time here or there – but it was good. Super stressful the first day – with my first daughter, the count was something like floor – 18, potty – 3 the first day. But it got SO much better the second day – only a few accidents – and almost none the second day. It’s definitely worth a 3-5 day try, I think.”


When my daughter was ready to potty train, I just knew. We buckled down for a few days in the house and then ventured out and about. We used cloth trainers or underwear. Wearing jeans when we were out caught accidents better.”


“Never go back to diapers once on undies. even for changes like a new baby arrival stand your ground and believe they can, then they’ll believe it too. Pull ups are a waist of money I have never seen them work well(fast) after 3 yrs in preschool and watching 50 kids or more get trained.”


Used m&ms as rewards. Don’t do it! Made him constipated. Took much longer to get to go poop in the potty. Still has accidents after a month. ave him tiny pieces of a cookie.”


 Don’t get one method or idea stuck in your head as the end all be all way to do it. I really though Pottywise would work just like the sleep training in Babywise but it didn’t for my son. It ended up being a totally random thing that we did that ended up working. You know your child and how they will respond best. Although it is time consuming, I would consider how it is done in other countries – I’ve read that most other countries toilet train earlier than the US. I think we keep our kids in diapers too long because it’s easier sometimes!”


Pottywise. Reward dryness, not just potty use. Make it fun and exciting.”


Once you start, don’t go back! It’s confusing for the child. I did that several times and I could definitely tell that it confused him. A great thing I did was to start the potty training after nap time one day. That way we only had a half day of potty training the first day. I needed a break of running to the potty, cleaning the floor, changing underwear, etc. by the time we reached bedtime! It was rough the first couple of days- a lot of cleaning and accidents, but it dramatically improved after that! Just keep with it and stay calm! They will get it!”


“Well, maybe a warning. I feel like I am still potty training my 6 year old boy sometimes. He has regressed so many times, especially with bm’s. He would all the sudden start having accidents(pee and poop) after months of 0 accidents! Even now, he accidentally pees all over the floor when he goes poop sometimes. I also know my sister told me once not to worry about peeing at night, that once my son went to school he would probably stop. She was right. He did it on his own. My trying to push him earlier did no good! Please oh please let my girl be easier!!”


My advice is to make it a normal thing. Let them watch you go, explain what you are doing (especially with poop, pooping in the potty takes a little longer for them to understand the urge and feelings). Introduce a potty in the bedtime routine when they are able to take instruction (i.e. 18 months was good for us). We did not try to do anything other than he sat on the potty while we read book and if he peed we praised him, if he didn’t it was no big deal. COLD TURKEY, NO PULL-UPS, NO BACK AND FORTH WITH DIAPERS. Every 15 minutes consistently for several days until there are no accidents. If you work this is harder unless your childcare is open to doing this, if not, you may want to consider taking a Friday and Monday off and doing it over a long weekend or something. Some schools make you have the kids in pull-ups and this is hard because pull-ups are the worst thing for training (it will still get done, but it takes much longer, in my opinion and you will have more accidents after they get in underwear). I was very lucky, his school is AWESOME at potty training and no parents ever argue with their method because it works and we never had to do the hard work – lol!”


WAIT until they are ready. It may be hard, but my daughter potty trained herself naps and night in under a week. She convinced ME that she was ready for undies at night, haha! She was ready to wear princess panties and I told her the deal was, if she peed anywhere but the toilet, she didn’t get her princess panties. She was old enough to understand and made the decision on her own with no forcing or coercion on my part.”


Make sure that you and your spouse are ready and on the same page, it made SUCH a big difference that my husband was so on board and took E to the bathroom. It is hard and can be very discouraging at times, but we are so glad we stuck with it. My little man is very proud of himself.”


Underwear, and diaper OVER underwear when we went somewhere during the training process. It was way easier than I thought! My daughter loved the whole process and all the attention and cheers 🙂 One thing we did that helped was that ever since she was a newborn, if we noticed she was going potty (in her diaper or anywhere) we would use the same word. Incidentally, that happened to be the very first word she ever said 🙂 When potty training, she could say that word and tell me if she needed to go. It is so handy! I really think potty training was fun and gave me a huge sense of accomplishment! :-)”


“3 day potty queen works!!!! poo is harder, as my kids got constipated once potty trained. Helpful is miralax and fiber gummies to keep it super soft and keep consistent (daily after lunch with one kid and before bed with my other)”


Even if your child shows signs of readiness, don’t attempt until you’re sure YOU are ready and committed.”


“a good time to start is when your child is able to follow/understand instructions and able to give some cues. take time with night-training. diapers are much cheaper/easier option than having to wash bedsheets, not to mention the frustrations. my #1 would wet her bed consecutive for 5-6 nights then miraculously stop for a few months, and start wetting again!”


OTHER METHODS:

*My own that I learned from working in a center 2yr old classroom. Once child wants to sit on potty change diapers standing up until they actually go pee in potty (pip) even for poops. Have them bend over for poops to wipe for hard stools that won’t be messy. Once they go pip cut the diapers and use undies only and stick to the 3 day method with a lot of one on one time and praise.”


We started with Pottywise – because Babywise is so spot on I figured that this had to be the absolute best method ever. This was not so with my son. We did the whole doll thing, the treats just as the book describes, but my son just didn’t get the connection. He is a smart child, but just didn’t get where we were going with the whole process. Potty training ended up happening by accident for us. We knew that he would always pee when the water was running for his bath – so we ran the water and sat him on the toilet instead and he peed. We continued to do this for a while and started taking him to pee during the day at specific times. Soon he only peed in the potty – it would still be a while before he would tell us, but at least we were able to keep him dry during the day. The pooping came later as mentioned above. As much as I love Babywise, the Pottywise method didn’t work for us and I’m more inclined to follow the Baby Whisperers approach. With our next son we will just start putting him on the toilet at times when we know he pees or poops – much like people in other countries do.”


His school has a strict potty training approach and extremely high success rate so I did what I was told – lol. They do not allow pull-ups AT ALL in the school, they are banned. When you say you are ready to actively potty train they tell you to bring about 8 pairs of clothes each day. You go cold-turkey and they have a timer and every 15 minutes on the dot they take those children that are “actively potty training” to the bathroom. They have them go in the same order so that not one kid has to wait longer than another. about 90% or the time all the kids are accident free by the end of the week.”


Talked a lot about it and let him sit when he wanted to (he was showing a lot of interest on his own) then switched to underwear one day and gave lots of encouragement and a small treat for success. What really helped after a while was also getting a sticker if his undies were dry.”


Followed Emily’s advice at journeyofparenthood. For a couple days, I set a timer every 20 minutes and put her on just for a little. She got the idea very fast. “


Cold turkey to underwear. Set a timer for him to try every 10 minutes the first day and every 15 the second. By day 3 he was telling me when he needed to go.”


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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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  1. Anonymous
    September 12, 2013 / 1:01 PM

    We did elimination communication from infancy. Our daughter is 2 now and although she sometimes has an accident she really prefers no diaper and goes on the potty most of the time for pee and always for poo. Iive heard that with ec completion of potty training is more of a gradual process. We do us pullups for nap n night. We call them big girl panties and shes tolerant. Were really happy with how ec has worked out althougb as she has become more n more aware of her need to go n less happy about diapers we had occasional sleep disturbances.

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