Preschooler Summary: 4.75 Years Old

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This is a summary for Kaitlyn from 4.5-4.75 years old.


At the moment, and for most of this period, eating was just fine. She went through a two week period, however, where she didn’t want to eat just about anything, even her reliable go-to favorites. She just didn’t want to eat. This would normally be concerning, but I didn’t feel like something was wrong. It seemed more like a toddler who eats one tablespoon of food per meal. I am glad she is past that. 

Since coming out of that, she has added an orange to her list of foods she likes. She has never liked oranges, but decided to try it and loved it. She now eats one every day.


Kaitlyn’s sleep is the same. She sleeps about 11-12 hours at night and has 60 minutes of rest time each day. For this age, I find one hour to be long enough that they will fall asleep if needed and not so long they go stir crazy.


School is still going well. She loves it.


Kaitlyn loves to draw and seems to ocassionally be unable to control her urge to draw on something, anything. She has drawn on things she shouldn’t a couple of times in this period–or on a couple of things in one sitting. We are unsure at this point if it is going to be a further problem or if the talk we had fixed it. We shall see.


Since starting school, Kaitlyn has become less of a follower to Brayden and they often now have stand-offs over who is in charge of their imaginative play. It can be frustrating, but overall I think it is good for them. I am able to teach them about cooperation and taking turns and how to solve conflicts. 


Kaitlyn is overall the angel she has always been. She is quite the peacemaker. One day while at a children’s play place, there were two children being mean to McKenna. Their grandmother kept getting after them, but they were not listening to her. Kaitlyn went to them and talked everything out. McKenna and those two children played happily together for the rest of the time we were there. It was quite impressive. She is an excellent negotiator. 

I do think age four tends to be a rather easy age. They are rather self-sufficient and still very interested in pleasing their parents and other authority figures. 


7:15–wake up. Get ready for school. Eat breakfast. Play with Brayden.

9:15–leave for school (she has school 3 days a week. One day, she has dance instead)

12-:10–home from school

12:15–lunch. Then play with McKenna

1:30–rest time

2:30–up from rest time. Independent play.

3:30–free time. Some days video games.

4:00–play with Brayden and sibling play until dinner.

5:30–dinner. Chores. Family time

7:00–start getting ready for bed 

8:00–in bed


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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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  1. Michael and Yvonne
    January 18, 2012 / 12:15 AM

    That's interesting about the siblings. Mine are almost 5 and 3.5 and they have always been best buds but I notice some sibling rivalry going on. They are both girls so according to the Birth Order Books often the 2nd becomes opposite from the 1st. But what i notice is that they are bickering a lot and being contrary,etc. How would you deal with this and the sibling rivalry? If they don't play together or speak nicely I tell them they need to play separately and we have had many discussions and role playing on how to share, talk nicely to one another,etc. My older always comes and tells me what the 2nd did to her,etc…it's tiring:) I feel like I'm repeating myself so I think what I do probably isn't that effective.

  2. Plowmanators
    February 1, 2012 / 11:54 PM

    I think you are doing the right things. Do you talk about showing love? I notice when I focus on showing love to each other, things go better. I honestly haven't had a lot of this with my kids because Brayden and Kaitlyn get along great 99% of the time, Brayden and McKenna 100%, and Kaitlyn and McKenna 98%. I do anticipate having issue with the two girls as they get older and McKenna reaches an age of more of an opinion (but Kaitlyn is the peace-making type so we shall see).Another thing is to make sure they each get special time with you and your husband. Don't compare the two. I try to let my kids work things out among themselves (if it is reasonable to do so). I think sometimes as adults we interfere more than we should and deny them the chance to learn how to solve interpersonal conflict-but you have to try to listen in to make sure it is being solved and not just one person being the dominate personality. I know my sister and I had some intense years of fighting with each other. I think part of it is pretty normal, especially if the two personalities are quite different. Or too similar :). She and I are friends today. I do think my parents could have done more to help us get along, though.And I have heard from a few people (older moms) that whenever they had two children bickering with each other, they made them share a room until they got along. I haven't looked into this or pondered it, but they swear it worked and these women don't know each other at all so it is worth considering.

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Preschooler Summary: 4.75 Years Old

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Here are some notable things going on with Brayden as he is now 4.75 years old. Things are really, really calm right now.

Sleeping is good. He sleeps about 11 hours a night. He rarely sleeps during “nap,” but does sometimes. He definitely needs his rest time each day. I find that so interesting. I actually wouldn’t mind him not having it, but if he doesn’t get it, he is very emotional. So we are sure to have rest time each day.

Brayden is getting more adventurous in his eating. I like to try at least one new recipe each week, and he is finally trying them without shaking in fear first. He has come to realize he usually likes the new stuff. He is starting to eat meat more. He has never been a big meat eater. His eating habits are all good.

Brayden is currently in one of those golden periods that kids go through. He is so good. He does everything the first time he is asked. He cheerfully says, “Yes Mommy.” He is just really good. He is obviously growing in his maturity level and handling disappointment well. He will often verbalize his disappointment and explain why he is okay with it and how he is working through it. It is amazing to see.

Brayden and Kaitlyn are still best friends, and tell each other that all the time. One day as I drove kids to school, a girl told Brayden, “Girls don’t like boys and boys don’t like girls.” He adamantly responded that wasn’t true. She kept pushing it and he kept telling her no and said, “That’s not true because I have Kaitlyn and she is a girl and I like her. She is my very best friend.” The other girl replied, “Well, your sister doesn’t count.” Brayden wasn’t having it. lol

He is so great with her. He loves to play with her. He doesn’t mind her playing along with him and his friends. He helps her when she needs it.

His relationship with McKenna right now is very much a caretaker/caretakee relationship. He is fine to have her around him while playing, and he likes to peek-a-boo her and make her laugh, but he definitely doesn’t consider her a little friend or buddy. He looks at her as someone for him to watch over. That is very understandable since she only crawls and babbles. I will be interested to see how that changes as she gets a little older.

Brayden’s bossiness is improved. He is still bossy and still likes to correct Kaitlyn with every mis-step, but it is getting better.

3 months ago, this was a huge obstacle for him, but not it is really a non-issue. He shares well.

Most males don’t have an opinion about decorating and arranging of furniture. Certainly not 4 year old males. Well, not Brayden! As you know we moved almost 6 months ago. I have been slowly decorating the house. He always has an opinion on where things should go and what we should get. I find it so amusing.

He also has opinions about clothes, what to eat for dinner, and what order to do things in. He is just an opinionated boy.

Brayden is great with his chores. He loves to put stickers on charts. He is a hard worker.

I am moving Brayden more toward independence in certain things. He now prefers showers. He brushes his teeth all by himself in the morning. We do before bed just to make sure he gets a really good cleaning. He often chooses his own clothes. I have prepared him for this over the years. We have talked about things that match and thing that don’t. He understands it for the most part. Some days he chooses a really strange combination. I let him wear it. If there is a reason for him to not wear strange combinations, I don’t let him choose.

I also have him help clear the table after each meal. He removes his own dishes and helps put other stuff away.

Some of Brayden’s strengths are really starting to stand out. He is very adept at building things and figuring out how things work.

We also see obvious signs of things he just isn’t great at as Kaitlyn gets older. He is not great at telling me about his day. I have always asked him about what he did when he wasn’t with me. I get very little detail. It is much like asking my husband about his day 🙂 Now that Kaitlyn is old enough to really respond, I am shocked at the detail I get! I know every song she sang and every emotion she felt. I get word-for-word playback of conversations she had. It is so funny to see the difference between boys and girls.

Toward the end of winter, Brayden gets really restless. The last couple of weeks have brought along much nicer temperatures. Our snow is melting and he is playing outside much more. This really helps with overall behavior and sleep.

His schedule changes a bit from day to day. He has a “preschool” day schedule and a “non-preschool” day schedule.

Preschool Day

7:15 AM–wake, say prayers, come find me. We then go set the table for breakfast. I get Kaitlyn up and we eat. We have a short music time. We then do a fast shower and get ready for the day.

8:05 AM–Sibling Playtime with Kaitlyn

9:05 AM–finish getting ready for school (hair, shoes on, coat, and back pack)

9:15 AM–picked up for preschool (we carpool)

12:10 PMish–home from school. Eat lunch. Play with Kaitlyn until nap time.

1:00 PM–TV Time

2:00 PM–Rest Time

3:00 PM–Learning time with mom. Independent Playtime. Chores if there are some for this time.

4:30 PM–nintendo time/PBSkids computer games time/TV time. When weather is nice, he will go outside instead. Sometimes he plays with neighbors instead.

4:30 PM–Daddy home. Activities vary from that point forward.

7:00/7:30 PM–start getting ready for bed. Stories. Prayers

8:00 PM–in bed

Non-Preschool Day

Non-preschool day is pretty similar. We start similarly. Differences are that we take a shower after McKenna goes down for her first nap, so sibling playtime is longer. We also start lunch earlier. Our non-preschool day is much more relaxed. It is kind of like we have three Saturdays a week now 🙂




Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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  1. Heidi
    March 11, 2010 / 6:58 PM

    This was so fun to read – my first born is just about the same age. He'll be 5 in May. I have the same observation about 'rest' time. Though he rarely sleeps, he just NEEDS it. 😉

  2. Janelle
    March 11, 2010 / 11:38 PM

    This was fun for me to read not because I have as preschooler but because I can see the results of good parenting. It gives me a little preview of what can happen if I stick with it! Thanks for all your work and your willingness to share your family's experiences with us!

  3. AA
    March 12, 2010 / 10:39 AM

    I know you have probably said elsewhere, but do you allow books/toys in bed for rest time? Or is strictly rest?

  4. Johanna in MD
    March 12, 2010 / 2:55 PM

    Loved reading this. I am nowhere near this period. In fact, my Thomas who is my first is closer to McKenna's age. We are now awaiting our second one to arrive in early May (yes, ~12 months apart) and some days I get a little anxious about it. However, thank you for all of the wonderful insight. All I need is a deep breath!AA, on the right, you will find a list of blog labels and Rest Time is included. Upon reading the two blogs under this label, Val does allow books for rest time but she does require that Brayden stay in bed.

  5. ys
    March 12, 2010 / 6:39 PM

    I so love these updates on the older kids! So useful and I am keeping in mind for mine. I read with interest the section about moving him more to independence in certain areas, like picking out his clothes. Does he do this daily? Does the "Choice Addiction" issue apply at this age? I know according to the funnel concept their freedoms expand as they get older. My LO just turned 3 and is clearly in a different phase of life. If I would give her the same choices every day, it's definitely create the "wise in her eyes" issue. In fact we are having some major testing right now! Not sure if it is more of a developmental thing or what (the major change we had was the BGB but we have sleep rules,etc.). Anyways, I am just curious about Brayden's choices now. At that age do they have a lot more choices. Could you briefly list the ones you allow every day at that age? And is this just something you kind of figure out on your own? I don't think the book gets that specific on guidelines for various ages (in Preschoolwise).Anyways, thanks for this info.

  6. Plowmanators
    March 25, 2010 / 10:01 PM

    You are welcome everyone!

  7. Plowmanators
    March 25, 2010 / 10:02 PM

    AA, hopefully you saw Johanna's comment (thanks Johanna!). Brayden does get books.

  8. Plowmanators
    March 25, 2010 / 10:03 PM

    Johanna, good luck with that! It will bring unique challenges, but I think a bonus will be that your Thomas will still be taking two naps, so it will give you more chances to rest after baby comes. There will be good things 🙂

  9. Plowmanators
    March 25, 2010 / 10:06 PM

    YS, he doesn't pick daily. He would choose "Steelers" shirts every day (football team). I like him to wear other stuff, too, espeically to school.Typically, I choose on school days and Sunday and let him choose the other three.The choice addiction does apply for sure. I like to choose every so often just to make sure he is okay with it. If he isn't, I choose every day for a while.I think it is something you can figure out on your own just by seeing what happens when you make the choice. But I will think through it and write a post. Perhaps I will do one every six months and list choices each child can make…that way it would go through various ages at all times.

  10. ys
    March 25, 2010 / 10:54 PM

    Wow, that'd be a great guideline to have as a rough idea, so thanks!

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