Toddler tantrums will happen and even should happen. If your toddler has never had a tantrum, that is a red flag. Find out why.
I cannot remember where I read this, but I recently was looking up some random thing on the Internet (I can’t even remember what) and read something talking about toddlers. It said,
“You are being too easy on your toddler if he isn’t throwing tantrums sometimes.”
What does that mean?
That means that if your toddler is always so happy there are no tantrums going on, it means you are giving in to your toddler rather than setting limits.
Toddlers will have tantrums when they are met with limitations. They will not happily accept being told no or being told they must obey.
A toddler is not going to accept being told no without a tantrum happening at times.
Tantrums are normal. If you are not experiencing tantrums with your toddler, it means you are consistently letting your toddler call the shots.
Now this doesn’t mean we embrace tantrums or ignore the tantrums. It also does not mean that every single time a toddler is told no, a tantrum will happen.
When toddlers are told no and we hold to that no, toddlers learn to accept no.
We work with the toddler to teach him to obey and to say “yes mommy.” We teach them that tantrums are not the way we respond when we are upset.
Toddlers respond naturally with tantrums. We can help them learn to control that temper.
So when your toddler throws that tantrum (yes, WHEN), take it as a sign that you are doing the right thing and then help your child move toward being able to not throw tantrums in the future.
- Toddler Tantrums are Very Normal
- Tips for Avoiding and Responding to Tantrums
- How to Stop a Tantrum: Address the Choice Addiction
- How to Deal with Toddler Tantrums
- The “Mini-fit”: Responding to Young Tantrums
- The Screaming Non-Verbal Baby/Toddler