- The Todd's said...
My friend and I really enjoyed reading the information you have on this site. You have done an outstanding job with so much info. provided. We do have a question though that we were unable to find the answer to. We were wondering at what age is it recommended that we drop the early evening bottle? We have our babies on a 9:00, 1:00,5:00, 9:00 feeding schedule. So when are we supposed to drop the 9:00 P.M. bottle feeding? My son is 10 months old and hers is 8 months. We would appreciate your insight and guidance. Thankyou.Christina
July 18, 2008 10:32 PM
Christina,Thanks! You are on a 4 hour schedule, and that really isn't dropped until usually older than 1 year. Most moms start the day earlier, so they start in the 7AM hour and have the same type of schedule as you, but end the day at 7 rather than 9. You can certainly do 9 if that is your desire. If your baby is sleeping until 9 AM, 9 PM will be the last to get the 12 hours of sleep (if she sleeps 12 hours). Once you move to milk (if you are breastfeeding), then you just need to make sure the correct # of ounces are being drunk each day. I shoot for 24 ounces. If my daughter (now 15 months old) has had about 24 ounces in three meals, I don't worry about a 4th liquid feeding. It sounds like you are bottle feeding. In that case, figure out the appropriate number of ounces for your baby and make sure she is getting that much in three feedings if you want to do it in 3. That should be fine for the 10 month old, but the 8 month old still needs it in 4. Do be aware that if she goes to bed earlier than 9 PM, she will most likely wake earlier.
July 21, 2008 5:05 PM
Mealtime Manners Questions
- Rachel Stella said...
Along with how to train manners at home and in a restaurant, I wonder what expectations are reasonable at certain ages. I mean, can you really expect a 10 month old to sit still in his high chair for 30 minutes while everyone eats. I don't want my kids to be running around like crazy while everyone is still eating, but how can I expect them to sit still at the table when they are done eating and adults are sitting there talking for a while after. I mean, sure I could make them stay there, but is that really fair to do to a young child?
November 21, 2008 10:41 PM
Rachel, I do think there is a limit to how long you can expect the child to sit there. One thing I would caution, however, is just don't let them get down on the ground. You could hold him in your lap while you talk, but don't let him down. You will then create a situation you need to retrain for. Perhaps a 10 month old can't do much, but a 3 year old can. If it was allowed at 10 months and you suddenly stop it once the child becomes a problem for other people, a fit will follow. Start as you mean to go on. Part of this might mean you need to leave the restaurant earlier than you might if you have no child. Try to think of somewhere you can all go to visit if needed.
November 22, 2008 7:06 AM
- Brett and Gisela said...
Someone recommended your blog to me...I have "skimmed" over the baby wise book and liked the principles that I read. I have a two year old and a new born (10 days old). My question is about the new born. I am nursing as I did with my two year old and we are having a lot of trouble at night. She seems to want to nurse very often (every two hours) and has trouble falling back to sleep. She twists and turns with stomach cramps I think until she can have a bowel movement. Any suggestions would really be appreciated...techniques...anything. Thanks so much for such a interesting blog.Gisela
February 21, 2009 3:55 PM
Gisela,What do her days look like? I would have her eat every 2.5-3 hours in the day. Then at night, she should be able to sleep longer. Beyond that, really the entire BW book is going to lead you to your answer :)
February 26, 2009 11:48 AM
- Lindsey and Nick's mommy said... I need help! Your blog has been so helpful in my quest for a good sleeper. My Nick is 10 weeks today. He is on a great 3 hour schedule during the day taking 6 ounces per feeding. I set my alarm and feed him at 11:00pm then let him wake up on his own for the next feeding. For a while he was stretching that all the way to 5.5 hours at one point. My problem is that in the last week he has slid backwards and is now back to waking at 3 am which is only a 4 hour stretch. Then he goes 4 more hours until his 7 am wake/feed. He is a big boy in the 90th percentile on height and weight. Very healthy and does go right back to sleep after his 11 pm and his 3am feedings.Why has he went backwards? I just recently (last week) went to the 6 ounces for 7 feedings/day as he was on 5 ounces for 7 feedings/day. PS: I feel confident he is hungry at the 3am feeding as he does take in the majority of his 6 ounces. However his 11pm feeding is a little more challenging taking only about 4 ounces. Also, I did go back to work last week but I am positive my babysitter is following the plan to the "T" as she documents everything for me including wake and nap times.
August 11, 2008 9:17 AM
Plowmanators said... He could be waking earlier for a growth spurt. He could be waking earlier for more mommy time. He could be waking earlier since you said he isn't taking as much at 11. He could be having teething pains. There are so many possibilities, you will have to troubleshoot to figure it out. See this post for help: Night Hunger : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/05/night-hunger.html Nighttime Sleep Issues: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/nightime-sleep-issues.html
August 12, 2008 2:27 PM
Lindsey and Nick's mommy said... Thanks for your help. I guess I did post it right. I am technology impaired. Anyway, I have noticed that the past few nights he is trying to stretch out the time from his middle of the night feed until morning now. Before he was stretching the time from his dreamfeed to his middle of the night feed before he regressed. However, because I am waking him at 7 am each morning hopefully he will get it. Also, I thought I would go ahead and try to move his dreamfeed to 11:30 instead of 11:00 and see if he will eat a bit more. If that does not work then I will try to feed him 30 minutes earlier 7pm vs 7:30pm and see if he will take a better feeding at 11pm. Does that sound like a good plan? I know everything is trial and error. However, it always helps to have someone tell you if you are on the right path or if you are driving off the cliff! Thanks again.
August 12, 2008 2:43 PM
Plowmanators said... You can always try it, however if it were me, I wouldn't move back to 11:30. Anything past 11 is really a night time feeding and if you wake him to eat for it, it could disrupt nighttime sleep. But if you want to try it and see how it goes, do it! :)
August 13, 2008 8:21 PM
Lindsey and Nick's mommy said... I never thought of that. I fed him at 7 pm two nights ago because he was hungry early. By the 11 pm dreamfeed he was a lot more willing to eat a full feeding and thenwent 5.5 hours! YEAH! So moving his bedtime and feeding up 30 minutes proved to be the resolution. Two nights in a row he has done much better. Thanks again.
August 14, 2008 7:14 AM
Plowmanators said... You are welcome! I am glad you have seen improvement.
August 15, 2008 2:42 PM
- Army Wife in the Making said... My baby is waking at night with gas & then about an hour later wanting to eat. He is 19wks (14wks adjusted) & sleeping an average of 9-10hrs per night.
August 25, 2008 8:18 PM
Army Wife in the Making said... I forgot to ask...how can I get him to go back to sleeping through the night. Most of the time he doesn't wake with gas...
August 25, 2008 8:19 PM
Plowmanators said... Army Wife, does he know how to self-soothe? If you are positive he is not hungry and everything is fine, you can do CIO. But I wouldn't do that if he has gas. See this post:Nighttime Sleep Issues: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/nightime-sleep-issues.html
August 28, 2008 9:22 PM