Importance of Teaching Kids to Accept Personal Responsibility

The Importance of Accepting Personal Responsibility. Why we need to own up to our mistakes, even if they were unintentional.

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I was recently reading my newspaper’s opinion section when I came across a submission that caught my attention.

This person (an adult woman) wrote in complaining because her mom had parked on the road illegally and had gotten a ticket for it. In my entire valley, it is illegal to park on the street between November and March due to snow-removal needs. 

The writer said a few things. One was that she and her husband “forgot” about the law, and later in the piece said that despite living here for ten years, they had never even heard about the law. She also commented that information about the law had been printed in the city newsletter sent to every home in the city a couple of times just this year, but that she doesn’t always read those so she didn’t know. It was also printed in the newspaper, but she missed that.

The city explained the ticket could be appealed, but the woman was leaving town and decided she couldn’t, for whatever reason, come back to appeal.

The writer then complained that the city should put street signs up around the city to warn people of the parking law. 

I was really in shock over this letter. Here we have an adult woman complaining about a law in a city she has lived in for ten years and has either forgotten about or never did hear about (not sure which). She then claims street signs would do the trick, but I am not sure how often a sign would have to be posted for her to have seen it. Do they need a sign in front of every single house? (and if it was, I wonder if she would complain about the unsightly sign in front of her house). 

I am of the opinion that we have a responsibility to be aware of the laws. We are all grown adults; we don’t need someone to come knock at our front door and explain each law we are required to follow. I, myself, moved to this valley 11 years ago and knew about the law to not park on the road overnight within two months of moving here. 

Contrast this woman’s letter with a friend of mine who at the same time, got a ticket for the same thing. Was she frustrated? Yes. Did she blame everyone other than herself? No. 

We definitely have a culture that is more and more failing to accept personal responsibility. When I recently went to Hawaii, we went to the Polynesian Cultural Center. At the Samoa exhibit, the young man from Samoa explained, “In Samoa, if you get hit in the head with a coconut, it is your fault. Even if someone throws the coconut at your head and you get hit, it is your fault. In the US, if you get hit by a coconut, it is someone else’s fault. Even if you walk under a coconut tree and a coconut falls off the tree and lands on your head, it is not your fault! And you even get to sue the tree owner for it.” 


And true.

Can’t you just see someone walking under a coconut tree, getting knocked in the head, and then suing whoever owned that coconut tree for negligence? 

If we get pulled over for speeding, it is “that jerk cop’s” fault and not our own (a sentiment I disagree with–it is your fault for speeding. Sorry. I agree that speed traps are annoying, but if you aren’t speeding, then you won’t get “trapped.” If you are speeding, then getting pulled over was a risk you took when you decided to go faster than the posted speed limit). 

Why is personal responsibility something important for us to be willing to accept as parents?

Because we expect it from our children. Usually. In our home, we expect the child to accept the consequences for their actions. We want them to be honest and forthright in their actions. 

If we want our children to do these things, we need to do these things. Most children will follow the actions of their parents. It is “monkey see, monkey do” not “do as I say, not as I do.” 

Keep this in mind the next time you are faced with accepting responsibility for an action. Keep the same standards for yourself that you hope for your children (and everyone else’s children). Example is a powerful teacher. Always remember the line, “Your actions speak so loudly that I cannot hear what you are saying.” Your child’s number one teacher of morals is none other than you–and it is through your actions, not your lessons.

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9 thoughts on “Importance of Teaching Kids to Accept Personal Responsibility”

  1. Very important to parenting. I see a great sense of entitlement in our country-like we are entitled to do whatever we want without accepting consequences.I'm a 1st time mom of a 5 wo and only know one other person who has done BW; you're blog, I believe, is truly a blessing from God. I'm sure it can be stressful sometimes to decide what to write and take the time to do it, so I want you to know that since I discovered it earlier this week, I have been praying for you and your family to encourage you that your time is worth it to help so many new mothers. I have made my own Baby Hierarchy, much like yours, but I needed to add a new number one that I seem to struggle with: Do not worry and do not stress. God is bigger than both routines and habits. 🙂

  2. So true, and hard to do! A few months ago, I got pulled over for a speeding ticket – my first ever. I was so embarrassed about the whole thing! My 3 year old, then 2, was a little freaked out, so I bit the bullet and told him that mommy was disobeying the law, and the police was helping mommy out so that I wouldn't break the law anymore and get hurt. We can't go too fast on the roads because someone could get hurt very badly. He's definitely not scared of cops or anything now! But, he does pretend to give traffic tickets all the time. lol

  3. This has nothing to do with your post, but I have a question and read that this is how I can post a question.I have a 5 month old girl and we are currently at my parent's house, which is on central time, for a week and a half. We live in the eastern time zone. Do I try to switch my baby's schedule to central time or keep her eastern time schedule and accept it. Example: her regular schedule at our house (eastern time)6:30/10:00/1:00/4:00/7:00/9:30so on central time she's waking up at 5:30. Should I try to adjust her or not.We are in day 3 of 11 of staying with my parents.Any thoughts are appreciated!

  4. Rebekkah, that was very mature of you! Good for you for taking the moment to teach your son. I love that he gives out traffic tickets 🙂

  5. Moni, sorry this is not helpful to you now. When I travel one time zone, I don't switch out of our normal time. It is too much work to move back and forth. If it is a two hour time difference or greater, it might be worth changing.

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