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Dropping the swaddle can be a scary thing if your baby is sleeping very well. Personally, when my baby is sleeping well, I do not want to change a thing! “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Some day, however, the time comes when a baby needs to drop the swaddle. This can be for a variety of reasons:
- Baby starts to dislike being swaddled
- Baby starts to roll to tummy while swaddled, which can be a dangerous sleeping position without arms free
- Baby is just ready
- Insert your reason here
Signs of Readiness
What are signs your child is ready to drop the swaddle? You can see some reasons in my post, Swaddling: When to Stop?. Here is a short list:
- Rolling To Tummy While Swaddled: This doesn’t necessarily mean your child is ready, but this is a big reason people stop swaddling–ready or not. A baby on her tummy without her hands available isn’t safe.
- Improved Motor Control: Most babies seem to be ready to drop the swaddle between 3-6 months old (but don’t live by that age range–that is most, not all). All babies develop fine and gross motor skills at an individual rate.
- Sleeping Habits: If your child is sleeping well and happily, you probably don’t need to push dropping the swaddle. If your child is sleeping fitfully, consider dropping it. This is especially true if your child was sleeping well and then suddenly starts not sleeping well. There are, of course, other reasons for poor sleep, but make this a consideration. Brinley showed no signs when I started her first arm out, but after a couple of weeks of that she started gettimg mad sometimes at nap time. It wasn’t a huge thing, but it was out of character. It wasn’t until I dropped the swaddle all together that she went back to happy.
Age of Readiness
Like I said, most babies seem to be ready to drop the swaddle sometime between 3-6 months. There are, however, babies younger who drop the swaddle and babies older who drop the swaddle. Most of all, don’t feel pressure to drop the swaddle or to keep the swaddle. If your baby needs to be swaddled longer than “most,” don’t worry about it! In a recent poll I did, reader Danielle commented:
“Looking back, I don’t know why I felt such pressure to stop swaddling her at 3 & 6 months. She clearly wasn’t ready at either of those times. I was letting other people’s comments make me feel insecure about my decision to swaddle. I should have known it wasn’t a big deal and that eventually when she was ready we would stop.”
I think this is the perfect comment for us to remember. She is absolutely right. If your baby isn’t ready, so long as there is not a safety concern, you don’t need to push it. Your baby will be ready some day.
If you suspect your baby is ready to drop the swaddle, give it a try! If you try and it doesn’t go well, go back to swaddling. I always like to do my testing during the final nap of the day–so typically the third or fourth. This is often a “cat nap” (meaning it is 30-60 minutes long) and it is right before bedtime, so it isn’t going to throw the whole day off if things don’t go well.
Methods for Dropping
The final big question people have is “How do I do it?”
I am really a big fan of taking things slowly. I find taking things slowly with babies means you keep things as smooth as possible. Some people prefer to go “cold turkey” and have a rough week or so and then have it behind them. I don’t like rough weeks, but we all have different preferences and personalities so pick a method that rings true to you. The method you choose will also depend on your reason for dropping the swaddle. You might have a baby rolling over and need to go cold turkey because it is a safety issue. Maybe you have a time deadline and need to work within that time constraint. Whatever method you choose, absolutely feel free to tweak any method to work best with your baby and your family.
|3 moth old Kaitlyn with one arm out|
This is the method I have used for all of my girls (Brayden was never swaddled).
- I start on the third (or last) nap with one arm out of the swaddle. If the nap goes well enough for my liking, we continue on with this for a week.
- The next week, I leave one arm out for the last two naps of the day. The test of this nap is that baby needs to make it through a transition (the 45-60 minute mark into the nap). With the final nap, baby doesn’t transition typically. I do this for a week, making sure baby can transition well with one arm out.
- The third week, I leave one arm out for the first nap (assuming we have three naps). So at this point, one arm is out for all of our naps. If this goes well, I do this for 3-4 days, then…
- I leave one arm out for night sleep. We do this for 3-7 days.
|4 month old Kaitlyn with two arms out|
By now, it has been about a month since we started one arm out. You see this is a long process! Next I move on to phase two.
- I start on the third (or last) nap with two arms out of the swaddle. I still swaddle the trunk of the baby’s body. If the nap goes well enough for my liking, we continue on with this for a week.
- The next week, I leave two arms out for the last two naps of the day. The test of this nap, again, is that baby needs to make it through a transition (the 45-60 minute mark into the nap).
- The third week, I leave two arms out for the first nap (assuming we have three naps). At this point, both arms are out for all of our naps. If this goes well, I do this for 3-4 days, then…
- I leave one arm out for night sleep. If things go well, then we are done!
With Kaitlyn and McKenna, once we started the one arm out, things progressed smoothly through the weaning. With Brinley, she did well with one arm, then when I tried two she was not happy. So we waited two weeks or so until she started getting upset and we moved on to having both arms out.
You can definitely take this method faster than I do if your baby is able. You could take it to every few days you change, or you could do it so all naps are one-arm at the start, wait a week, then do night, wait a week, then all naps both arms out, etc. Tweak the idea to fit you.
Many people love, love, love these products. I would find them very helpful in a situation where your baby is rolling while swaddled but isn’t really ready to sleep without a swaddle. I considered these products for Brinley since she was getting older and still wanting to be swaddled. I thought it could be a good transition item. It definitely could be. If she was my first or second baby, I probably would have gotten one because I could use it later. I couldn’t justify spending the money, though, when there was no real need for us. It would have been something else to transition out of in the future. So I decided to stick with the swaddling until she was ready to drop the swaddle altogether.
Another popular method for dropping the swaddle is cold turkey. This means you just take the swaddle away one day and don’t look back. Many people find with this method that there are 3-7 days of rough naps and night until baby gets used to it.
Some people do some combo of these ideas. Some start weaning slowly, and then move to just finishing the process cold turkey. Always trust yourself in what you think your baby needs. Try it, if it doesn’t work out, tweak it and move forward.
If you suspect your baby is ready to drop the swaddle, don’t be afraid to give it a try! If it doesn’t work, swaddle her back up and try again when you think she might be ready in the future. And again, don’t stress about it. Your baby will drop the swaddle when she is ready as an individual–on her own time table.