When Sleep Props Are Okay (And When to Avoid Them)

Find out when it is kay to use sleep props for baby and when you should avoid sleep props. This will help establish solid sleep. Get a list of examples of sleep props and when they are okay to use and when you should avoid using them.

One of the cardinal rules for teaching your child to be a good sleeper is to avoid sleep props. Sleep props can create dependence that makes it hard for the child to sleep soundly, and if you ever get caught without the sleep prop, sleep will likely be impossible to attain.

Sleep props can cause such problems that you might think you should never, ever, ever go near one.

That line of thinking is not correct.

There are times a sleep prop is necessary given the circumstances. There are times what you might think of as a sleep prop should really be looked at as a sleep aid.

There are times when a sleep prop is really a necessary tool to help your baby sleep. 

Sleep Prop Examples

Here is a list of common sleep props. Not all people would view all of these as sleep props, but they are all a prop in some way:

• Swaddle
• Sound machine
• Sleep positioner
• Sleep location other than crib (swing, rock and play, wrap…)
• Pacifier
• Rocking baby to sleep
• Nursing baby to sleep
• Blackout curtains

Sleep Props That Definitely Help

All of the sleep props have a time and place they are needed. Some even have an extended period of time that they are useful. Let’s discuss them. This post may contain affiliate links which won’t change your price but will share some commission.

Swaddle

I didn’t swaddle my firstborn, and boy, after doing it with my girls, I would absolutely swaddle Brayden if I did it all over again.

Swaddling helps prevent a baby from waking herself up by sudden, jerky movements. That means baby will sleep better with a swaddle.

This isn’t to say every person swaddles. It is okay if you don’t.

If you do swaddle, there is no need to stress over the swaddle being a “prop.”

When your child is ready to drop the swaddle, it is a smooth process. If you have to drop before your baby is ready for dropping, you might have a few rough days.

Using a swaddle will not create a child who can’t sleep independently. It is a prop that most babies naturally and easily transition from. The rest require minimal crying.

Once you do move out of a swaddle, sleep sacks are a great way to keep baby feeling cozy and also staying warm enough.

See Dropping the Swaddle for more.

Sound Machine

I was definitely a parent who worried about the detrimental effects of sleep props when I had my first baby.

We lived in a studio apartment essentially (long story–remodeling a house, only the main level was done–no rooms, just open concept. So we all slept and lived in the same big room). So Brayden napped in the room with me.

If I wanted to do anything, it was with him right there. And yet I was so afraid of props that I never considered white noise.

It wasn’t until I had more children that I accidentally realized the benefit of white noise. We used a humidifier because we live in a dry climate. I noticed that when the humidifier was on, it helped block out other noise.

Well, when you have a baby and a toddler, there is a lot of noise for that baby! So we did humidifiers. And when the humidifier wasn’t needed, we went to official sound machines.

Today, each of my girls has a sound machine in her room. When we travel and don’t have a sound machine, it isn’t a problem. They can all sleep without the sound machine.

The sound is a comfort to them, but it isn’t addictive. We use Dohm and have really liked them.

Blackout Curtains

These help block light for any baby who won’t sleep well with the sun out. With blackout curtains, baby can sleep in a dark room.

Some babies rise with the sun, and if you live somewhere like I do where the sun is up at 5 AM in the summer, that isn’t fun.

Many won’t fall asleep if it is bright outside. This is all common because the sun controls the release of melatonin. Blackout curtains can greatly aid in getting better sleep. Read Blackout Curtains to Help Baby Sleep Better

Sleep Positioner

A sleep positioner can be very handy for a baby with reflux or a baby who needs more comfort. This can be really common for newborns.

We used a crib wedge to help prop Kaitlyn up since she had reflux. We also used a SnuggleU with each of our girls (this is something we created, again, to help with Kaitlyn’s reflux. They had something similar in the NICU and we wanted her to have one at home). Just like the sound machine, sleep positioners are not addictive. They just help a difficult sleep situation. 

Lovey or Blanket

If you have an older baby, a lovey or blanket can be a positive sleep association for your child.

This is something that could become a sleep prop at some point, but most children naturally ditch the lovey as they get older.

Make sure you do not add a lovey or blanket until your child is old enough. The recommendation for this is not until 12 months old or older.

Sleep Props that Can Help But Can Also Hurt

All sleep props will help baby sleep better initially, but some become such strong needs for the child that the lead to sleep issues and lots of wakings.

Sleep location other than crib (swing, rock and play, wrap…)

At times, a sleep location other than your baby’s bed might be necessary.

I found it necessary during witching hour. I found it necessary at times when Kaitlyn woke early from naps because of reflux pain. I found it necessary at times because I had older children to take care of and needed baby to sleep, no matter where, for the moment.

I also found it helpful when the baby was over-stimulated and needed to just sleep.

There are many situations when sleeping in a swing or in a wrap is needed and the best option.

What you want to avoid is it becoming the norm. You don’t want your baby unable to sleep without one of these props.

In Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, Weissbluth talks about sleep in motion being less restorative than stationary sleep. That means quality sleep happens when the baby is motion less in the crib or bassinet.

Aim for sleeping in the crib, but do not fear sleep at times happening in an alternate location.

Pacifier

The pacifier can really cause a lot of sleep problems. It can also help babies sleep much better.

Some people like the pacifier just for the sake of avoiding finger or thumb sucking.

You can absolutely use a pacifier and know you will need to drop it someday, just like you need to drop a swaddle some day.

If your baby will have sleep issues associated with the paci, that usually comes around 3 months old. If you make it through 3 months old, you can probably use the paci without issue until your child is old enough to need to drop it.

The pacifier is one sleep prop I avoided. I would use one in public if the baby was fussy and wouldn’t sleep, but at home, I did not turn to it.

Many people manage pacifier use without it leading to long-term sleep problems. Many others try it and find their baby just won’t sleep soundly and through transitions (in other words, chronic short naps happening) until the pacifier is gone from their lives.

I have found that people who successfully use pacifiers seem to have in common that they have set rules. They don’t reinsert the pacifier over and over (and over again). It is more of a sleep aid for their baby than a sleep necessity. 

With this simple rule, the baby is still able to work on self-settling and learn independent sleep skills.

>>>Read: Weaning from the Pacifier: When, Why, and How

Rocking or bouncing baby to sleep

You do not want to be rocking your baby to sleep every time sleep happens. If you are, that is a sleep prop that is addictive.

If your baby is having a rough time falling asleep but usually falls asleep pretty well, rocking is warranted.

If you have a baby with witching hour, rocking is a great way to get through it.

If you have a baby who is just overly tired and needs some help falling asleep, rocking can be great.

If you just want to rock your baby to sleep every once in a while, go for it.

If you want your baby to be able to fall asleep and stay asleep independently, do not rock every time it is sleep time. If you do, it will become a major sleep crutch and your child will struggle to fall asleep alone.

That means that every time your child has a sleep transition (every 45 minutes), your child is likely to wake up.

Nursing baby to sleep

Pretty much everything I said with rocking applies to nursing. I found nursing Brinley to sleep during the witching hour to be very helpful. That is the one time a day I did it, and it meant she went to sleep instead of crying and crying.

Once she outgrew witching hour, she outgrew the need to nurse to sleep. 

If you feed your baby to sleep, you also risk your baby not getting a full feeding and needing to wake more often to eat more often.

Conclusion

Do not be afraid of sleep props for those special circumstances and every once in a while that they are needed.

Do be wary of them becoming a habit or a long-term need. Some props might be a habit and you might just decide you are willing to have that habit now and you will deal with the weaning of it at a later date.

That is fine–just be aware of the need for a weaning process down the road. Some might require some cry it out, while others can simply be outgrown.

Always remember my Sleep Hierarchy for Newborns. Sometimes a prop is just what your baby needs right now. 

Reader Tips

Anne said: The sooner you take it out easier it is. Try to help the child to be ok and flexible  sleeping with or without the prop. But I think the prop soothe them, and having a calm routine everyday makes up for one disrupted one when you are somewhere without the prop.

Jenna said:  Sound machine and swaddle are great ways to help little ones learn to sleep on their own and don’t create a bad habit in my opinion. For other things, I would suggest only introducing as needed to avoid having to wean them off later if possible. Sound machine continues to be really helpful for making a different location feel more “at home”.

Erin said: I’ve found that the earlier I weaned the props, the easier of a process it was. But I think props have a bad reputation amongst BWers. I wouldn’t be afraid to use them for a time, so long as you have a plan in place for moving past them.

Rochelle said: I learned, for myself, that allowing one hand out for my daughter allowed for her to use her hand to help her transition in her sleep.

Stephanie said:  I wholeheartedly recommend a crib soother that you can travel with. The reason is because I can recreate my baby’s sleep environment anywhere as long as I have the soother with me. It signals to my baby that it’s time to sleep and it has made a world of difference in getting him to fall asleep.

Heather said: I wish I would have taken away the pacifier at 6 months. I’ve heard it is easier, and now she is so attached to it. She looks forward to sleeping because she gets her paci…

Sarah said: Have a time period in mind for how long you want to use them, and try to stick to it. Just make sure they [pacifiers] are ALL gone! 

Brittany said: Only use if necessary and if you’ve exhausted all other efforts. I wish we didn’t need the sound machine, but we rent a downstairs apartment and his bedroom is right off of the living room so we didn’t have a choice. A lot of the sleep props listed I refused to use Bc I knew they’d be hard to break. My son can sleep other places without the sound, so I don’t feel it’s a real sleep prop.

Christina said: If your child doesn’t take to them, don’t worry about it. Sleep props can be helpful but not necessary, and children should be able to outgrow them in time. We also tried the pacifier with our daughter, but she really didn’t care for it, so we didn’t worry about it.

Nikole said: Use them for their purpose but don’t be afraid to drop it once it’s done. IMO parents hold on to soothers for far too long and create over attachment to them (more so when they’re used NOT for sleep props, just all day long.)

Trish said: Use Baby Whisperer method for getting rid of them!

Carrie said: don’t start it if you don’t have the guts or patience to break it. if using one, try to stop it early on.

Christine said: I think as long as you are willing to put in the work to wean them from it, then there’s nothing wrong with using them. Also, sometimes putting an ‘age limit’ on when you’re going to wean can help.

Erin said: I’ve had great success with the ones I’ve used, but I would not ever rock to sleep again. That was born of desperation and it really messed up my back. I did and will try to think long term with any sleep props in the future- am I willing to continue to use this prop, or help my kiddo use this prop, for another month? Three months? 6 months? A year?

Jolene said: “Begin as you mean to go on.” So true!

Jessie said: Mom’s sanity comes first 🙂 Use a prop so you can take care of yourself, but keep in mind how much you are relying on it so baby doesn’t become to reliant on it. However, if you can keep up the prop (like a sound machine) without hassle on your part, why not? I like to think about if I can keep it up and also travel with it as our family lives far away and I want to enjoy our visits away from home.

Yooli said: I think much like the sleep hierarchy idea, reliable restful sleep is the ultimate goal for your kids. You do have to balance the utility of a prop against longterm problems (i.e. dental issues with pacis, for example), but if it isn’t a huge harm or hassle, I think is fine. For instance, I don’t really see blackout curtains and white noise as a big deal. We live in a single story house, so there isn’t a lot of noise separation like you’d have in a 2-story home, so the white noise really helps DS get restful sleep. We started using blackout curtains for DS because both DH and I are sensitive to light when we sleep too (we sleep with eye masks) and we feel it just gives us all better rest. Does it mean we travel with blackout curtains and thumbtacks and our white noise machine? Yes. But we also carry our ear plugs and eye masks too and we don’t bat at eye at that either. With DS’ lovey, we wanted to make sure he didn’t imprint on just ONE object, because we knew it could be a hassle. So from the beginning, we started with 2 loveys in different colors and alternated them for washing and in case one got lost. When he started to attach and chew on them, we quicky bought 2 more that were different and added them into the rotation. Then my mother started making them herself, all in different colors, and we added those into the mix as well. Now he’s not fussy about which lovey he gets, since we’ve always mixed them up and they are all the same texture and size.

Christine said: Any advice on sleep props? We tried our best to only do certain types of sleep props… and tried to not do certain things at all that we weren’t willing to do long term (rock to sleep, nurse to sleep, sleeping anywhere other than the crib). I don’t regret using a pacifier or swaddle, and actually miss being able to give him his pacifier and he would just lay right down and go to sleep (now he cries for 10 seconds or so), but I do like that he doesn’t “need” that to sleep now. Beyond thankful for BabyWise and this community – my son is a reliable 12 hour sleeper at night and fast asleep by 6:45 every night, wouldn’t have been able to do it without these resources!

Related Posts

• How Pacifiers Might Be Ruining Your Baby’s Sleep
• How to Help Your Baby Sleep Better With Swaddling
• Benefits of White Noise for Baby Sleep
• Blackout Curtains to Help Baby Sleep Better

This post originally appeared on this blog in September 2016