You Are a Good Parent

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With this being a parenting blog, my posts obviously consist primarily of advice. Advice can be helpful, and that is obviously what you are looking for when you come here, but sometimes you just want to be told you are good enough. I wanted to take a moment to just encourage without parenting advice added to it. 

You are a good parent! I am sure you make mistakes sometimes, because we all do. I am sure you can look back on some things and realize you probably should have done things differently because we all do that, too. That just makes you normal.

You are doing the best you can do. The best you can do is good enough! If it wasn’t, babies wouldn’t be raised by humans (that reminds me of that movie–Mars Needs Moms–they raise their babies with robots on Mars…). I don’t want to oversimplify things, but we have all been raised by imperfect people and the human race manages to press forward.

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In the end, no matter how hard you try and how much effort you put in, you will have days when you have that kid the grocery store. You will have times you have that kid when you are trying to leave the park. I don’t say that to discourage you, but to encourage you that when the moment happens that you have that kid, it doesn’t mean you haven’t done a great job! 

If you need some “pats on the back” and encouragement, see thee posts:

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Valerie, also known as The Babywise Mom, is the mother to four children. She has been blogging on Babywise and general parenting since 2007. She has a degree in technical writing and loves using those skills to help parents be the best parents they can be! Read her book, The Babywise Mom Nap Guide, to get help on sleep from birth through the preschool years. You can also find her writing at Babywise.life, Today Parenting, and Her View From Home. Read more about Valerie and her family on the About page. Follow her on FacebookPinterest, and Instagram for more tips and helps.

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5 Comments

  1. Rachel Norman
    May 29, 2013 / 4:35 PM

    Love it, Val! And so true. It is something us Type A mothers who always think we can "do more" and "do it better" need to hear. Thanks.

  2. Kristen
    May 29, 2013 / 5:55 PM

    Hi Valerie! I was wondering: We are just starting to try the 4 Ss with our 13 week old. After being swaddled she seems to spend her whole time struggling to get out of it, so when we're at the just sitting point, she is crying her way through it.Is this normal? And do I keep trying?It's only been a few days. Or does this mean we should look at not swaddling her? She fights it hard enough that there are now two holes along the seam lines where her hands are. One hole on each side….Thank you!

  3. Danielle
    May 29, 2013 / 6:03 PM

    Totally needed this post today on a big Mommy Failure Day! Your timing couldn't have been more perfect!

  4. MeganRuth
    May 30, 2013 / 5:29 AM

    Thanks for the reminder. I had "that" kid at the park today. 🙂

  5. Janet Dubac
    May 30, 2013 / 1:28 PM

    Thanks for sharing this post! I enjoyed reading it. I make mistakes in parenting even more than most moms do–I think. Sometimes it's hard to digest when I tell myself that I'm a good parent. But thank you for this. Thank you very much. 🙂

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