I often see questions that go something like this:
“I have two children. My first baby was a perfect BW baby and was so easy. My 8 week old is not. She does not sleep well…”
Sometimes, this is true. Sometimes we get a baby with a really easy disposition as our first baby.
But most of the time, I think this is actually a false statement.
When Kaitlyn was a newborn, I remember thinking, “it was never this hard with Brayden!” I have a really good memory, so I was pretty sure I was correct in this belief.
One day, I decided to read my journal from when Brayden was a baby. In a way I was right–it wasn’t that hard with Brayden. It was infinitely harder!
At the moment with Kaitlyn, I thought she was so much more difficult than Brayden had been, but when I was able to read what I wrote in those newborn months with Brayden, I realized I was very wrong.
This brings to light the great value keeping journals and logs can be to your future sanity. It can also bring you hope. I knew if Brayden could go from that difficult to where he was that day, my road with Kaitlyn was very doable.
The fact is that newborns are just hard. I know some people find the newborn months to be super easy, but for whatever reason, it is a hard time period for me. McKenna was about as easy of a newborn as you could hope for (just read her newborn summaries), and I still was on edge during the period. Be it hormones or what–it was hard. Babies are hard even if they are easy. They bring lots of changes to life, and change takes time and adjustment. Add a lack of optimal sleep, crazy emotions, and a sudden loss of free time and it is no wonder we think our newborns are so difficult.
So hang in there! And keep notes. Someday you might be reading that comment and remembering that life really was difficult back then and not the portrait of perfection you have painted in your mind.
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