Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Pooping on the Potty II

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Brayden had a hard time learning to poop on the potty at first. Once we got it figured out, I created a post with pooping tips (see Pooping in the Potty : http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/07/pooping-in-potty.html). Now, several months later, I have more thoughts on the topic.

We easily moved away from rewards for pooping and peeing. It wasn't something we had to systematically work at, it just sort of happened without protest from Brayden. While we trained him on a small potty chair his size (he did much better with that; I think it was because it was less intimidating and he could relax on it rather than try to keep his balance), he soon wanted to go on the big potty. He often, however, still pooped on his small potty.

As I am really queasy right now, I didn't love dumping poop out of the small potty and cleaning it up each day. It is better than changing a poopy diaper, but still a bit too much for me. I decided to encourage him to poop on the big potty instead of the little potty. I told him it was okay to poop in the little potty if he wanted or needed to, but if he pooped in the big potty he would get treats for it.

Since that day, he has always pooped in the big potty and not his little one. However, some days he goes every other day between pooping. He usually goes every day. As he is getting used to something new with the potty, he reverts back to pooping other day. Then, as he becomes more comfortable with the situation, he gets on a consistent and regular schedule.

If your child has (or had) difficulty pooping on the potty, be prepared for similar set backs when you change things up. When you travel, see what you can do to keep things consistent for him. If he always goes in a potty chair, take it along if you can. If/when you change a situation at home, expect some set backs but he should bounce back faster than he got there in the first place.

See these posts for our potty training journey:


Natalie said...

First let me start by saying that I am SO glad I found your blog. Knowing there is this community helps me feel a lot more secure with what I choose to do with my daughter.

I have a question regarding the last scheduled feeding of the night. My baby is 5 weeks old and is on a good 2.5-3.5 hour schedule. I have noticed that if I feed her at around 6:30 pm, bathe her and put her down, she wakes up on her own at 11:30 PM and goes down for the night easily, mostly due to the fact that she is kept in a dark room and stays very sleepy. The problem is that not only is she going 5 hours between feedings, but that this might be her longest stretch of the night. She usually will wake again around 3 and then at 7. If I wake her around 10 or 10:30 to maintain the scheduled feeding she is completely awake and, for some odd reason, only sleeps until about 2:30 and then has a horrendously difficult time going back to sleep. She is still so little and I have just realized that I need to "go big or go home" as you say regarding CIO. I would've done that earlier if I realized there were so many other people doing it. Anyway, thanks for any help you can provide.

Ashley said...

i left a comment on dropping naps

Homestic Affairs said...

I have a fold up travel potty seat that helps my son feel more secure when going potty in public or somewhere other than home. It's a child size seat, so he doesn't feel like he's going to fall in! And helps me feel like it's more sanitary.

mommytoisabella said...

At what age to you recommend to start potty training?

Plowmanators said...

Natalie, I would just let her continue on as she is. 5 hours is within the limit for her age (no more than 5 hours). Also, 11:30 is an acceptable time for the late evening feeding.

Plowmanators said...

Good idea Homestic Affairs.

Plowmanators said...

Mommytoisabella, that really depends on your child. I just recommend you start when your child is ready (or when you think she is ready). There are a couple of things to consider in addition to readiness:

1- time of year. You might not want to start right before Christmas, for example, if you are like most people and busy traveling and shopping before and around Christmas. Avoid other similar distracting times.

2- state of you. Pottywise suggests you don't start while you are in a first trimester of pregnancy. It really is exhausting.

Brayden wasn't ready until 3. Kaitlyn is showing signs of readiness right now at 18 months (started earlier). Since I am really down and out right now from being pregnant, I am not even considering trying right now, but might give it a go in January once the holidays are over. One thing I have to consider, however, is children often revert after a disruption, like a new baby. So I might just wait until the new baby is here and settled. We will see what happens :)

Plowmanators said...

Ashley, I am heading there right now.

MassageMama said...

Testing to see if this works. New at this and having probs.

MassageMama said...

I have a 3 yr 4 mos. old who is still struggling with pee accidents at night. I limit her fluids at dinner and after and have her go or at least try to go on the potty right before bed which she does go potty most of the time. I've also started waking her up at 5:30 a.m. when my husband leaves for work to go potty and then go back to bed but she is still wet about every other day. I don't use pull ups anymore, quit that months ago and just wash her and all the bedding when she has accidents. She use to go through the night a while back but then started having more and more accidents. I use to get on her and finally backed off totally and just did the no pressure approach and asked her to just try and if she couldn't go that it was ok. It's been no pressure and no bugging her for months now and no pull ups but she still wets the bed about every other night. I'm 8 mos. pregnant and thought she would have this by now and was hoping she'd have it by the time the new baby arrives. My son was very easy and very young. Can she just not really hold it or is it a rebellious thing or what? I always tell her its ok when she wets the bed but it's growing tiresome and I fear I will have a 5+ yr old who still wets the bed all the time. Does anyone know if this is just normal for some girls or have any advice? I'm ready to take her to the doctor to see if it is physical or what. I don't want to get on her case like a did a while back about it but I'm beginning to get worried about it again.

Plowmanators said...


My guess would be that it is a physical thing. It is totally normal for a child to be able to make it through the night, then not be able to. As the child grows, the bladder doesn't usually keep up.

Evaluate her daytime obedience. If she is rebellious in the day, there is a chance she is rebelling here, also. If she is obedient in the day, I would say physical problem. If it were me, I would have the doctor check her out. If it is physical, you would hate to continue to expect her to do something she just can't do. Also, if it is physical, you could go back to pull-ups and make morning clean-up easier on yourself :)

Derek said...

My son is 2.5 and has been pee trained for several months, but he refuses to poop in the potty. He is very regular (poop in the morning (either right when he wakes up or soon after breakfast) and poop when I lay him down for his nap. I ready your blog about the Give Fair Warning and today was the first day of implimenting no pullups. We talked a lot about it and he always said, "OK Mommy". I used his teddy bear with underpants to model (as instructed in pottywise) and have been offering treats throughout the day when he stays "clean". I put him on the potty after breakfast and before nap and he sits for a little while, looking as though he is really trying, then quickly says, "All done. All done." and nothing has happened. I then laid him down in his underpants. I put his potty chair in his room and reminded him that he could get out of bed if he felt like he needed to poop and he could call for me and I would come help. I told him if he could keep his pants dry and clean during his nap, that he would get a big suprise when he woke up. He was very excited and said, "What's it going to be? A million toys?" So I don't feel that motivation was an issue. About 10 minutes later I heard the familiar chattering that usually means he is stinky and not going to sleep. I walked in and he announced he was stinky. I cleaned him up, and he went right to sleep, as usual. I've noticed he never sits or lays down once he is dirty...always standing until I come in to clean him up. He often poops in his underpants and just walks around in it until I notice and clean it up. This was my biggest concern for this method working because he is just as likely to poop in underpants as in a pull up. A few times he will tell me when he is dirty. I am at a loss of what to do.

Lindsay said...

That last comment was from Lindsay. I was logged in under my husband's account on accident!

Plowmanators said...


I would say he hasn't figured out how to poop on the potty yet.

I would probably have him go without underwear around the house for a while, but still put him in diapers for his nap and bedtime until you start to see that he can actually sit on the potty and poop.

For Brayden and Kaitlyn, the pooping was the hardest hurdle to get over. 2.5 is still pretty young for figuring it out. I would continue to try to find motivation for him to try and encourage him to do so, but until he has success at pooping on the potty, I wouldn't do underwear all day every day.


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