Get 8 tips to stop your kiddo from making a huge mess during independent playtime in a room. Keep things as clean as possible.
Independent playtime starts out in a playpen, but at some point, you move your child to having IPT in the room, so it is roomtime.
I know a concern parents have when they move to roomtime from pack-and-play time is what I call “ransacking.”
This is when your cute little toddler toddlers go around the room pulling everything off of shelves, out of baskets, and out of drawers.
If you are lucky, you might even get every toy the child owns in a nice big pile on the bed like I did pictured below (but this was actually the combined work of Brayden and Kaitlyn during sibling play).
It is funny now, but at the time, I was in my third trimester with McKenna and this was a very daunting mess to clean up. Cleaning up is a lot harder when you can’t bend over.
Brayden was never a mess maker during independent play. In fact, before he turned two, he started cleaning up everything shortly before roomtime was over (he has an internal clock). It was fabulous.
Insert Kaitlyn. She had an ability to make messes. Even so, she never made a huge mess all on her own (but obviously was adept with the help of her brother).
Now enter McKenna. There have been times I have called her my little tornado. She had quite the talent for entering a perfectly clean room and turning it upside down in about 2 minutes.
When she first started roomtime, she didn’t move from her spot, so she only played with what I gave her. Before too long, however, she was getting every single toy out during independent play, along with every book.
Every so often, she would sprinkle some shoes or diapers in the mix. She has even pulled out every wet wipe from a full container…so yes, I feel your pain. But at least I wasn’t pregnant.
The first encouragement I have for you is that the child will outgrow it. McKenna only remained a tornado for a month or two and then she was over it. It wasn’t every day, either, during those two months.
But of course I have some tips for you to help minimize in the meantime.
#1–Require Help Cleaning Up
No matter how large or small the mess is, require help from your child when it is clean-up time. Don’t make it a “punishment” to clean up, but it is a fact of life.
If you make a mess, you help clean it up.
Yes, it will take you longer to clean it with your toddler, but it will save you time in the long run.
A toddler needs lots of direction. Tell her exactly what to do (“pick up the books and put them on the shelf”)–you will likely also need to physically show the child what to do.
My theory is that when a child cleans up after herself, she naturally starts to think, whether consciously or subconsciously, about a mess she makes. She will start to make smaller messes. You might also end up with a Brayden who cleans up before you even come to help.
Luckily for me, McKenna is as hard working cleaning up as she is making a mess.
#2–Understand that Playtime=Mess
There is a point where a mess created during play is beyond reasonable, but make sure that you understand that it is reasonable for there to be a mess when a child plays. Expect it. It is okay.
#3–Set Toys Out
At the beginning of roomtime, set out the toys that are okay to play with. Give enough to play that your child can have fun but not so much that your child can’t focus on one toy for a good amount of time.
#4–Keep Toys Rotated and Interesting
Make sure the toys that are available for play are new enough and interesting enough for your child. This means they need to be age appropriate.
Children like repetition, but there is a point when a new toy needs to come out. If a child is bored, the child will look for ways to entertain herself, and if that means making a mess, so be it.
>>>Read: A Simple Toy Rotation for Busy Moms
#5–Store Toys Out of Reach
Initially, you might need to store toys out of your child’s reach. This can either be in the child’s room or out of the room. All of my children have been able to quickly handle all toys within reach, but it might help you during training purposes to keep toys out of reach.
Make sure you keep things that are dangerous to the child completely out of the child’s reach.
#6–Keep Roomtime Length Appropriate
Too long of a roomtime will result in more of a mess. She might be great for an hour, but once that 60 minutes hits, she might go into tornado mode. Make sure you keep it the right length for your child.
>>>Read: Independent Playtime Lengths by Age
#7–Instruct When Needed
I was never one to go through the room on day one of roomtime telling the child what was okay and what was off-limits. In all honesty, I didn’t want to give the child any bright ideas. I never had issues with Kaitlyn and Brayden.
The first time I walked into McKenna’s room to find wet wipes wadded in a big pile, I told her that was a no. She did it a couple more times randomly after that, and I again told her it was not okay to play with wet wipes.
You might find you need to go through the room and tell your child anything that is off-limits. If you have a video monitor, you can keep an eye on your child during roomtime and intervene when needed.
When Brinley was a toddler doing roomtime, I could talk to her through the video monitor, so I would tell her “Brinley, that is a no” and she would stop.
#8–Sit Back and Be Patient
Once you have done what you can, just be patient. This is a new and exciting experience for your child. Once the novelty of playing in the room wears off, the huge messes and the getting into things she shouldn’t should wear off.
Don’t stress out. The ransacking will stop. Do what you can to minimize the mess, instruct when you need to, and be patient with the whole situation.
- How To Start Independent Playtime Late
- How To Get Your Baby Playing Independently
- Independent Playtime: The Ultimate Overview
- Room Time Setup
- Baby Whisperer: Playing Independently
- Great Toys to Encourage Independent Playtime
- When Your Child Won’t Stay in Independent Playtime
- Benefits of Independent Play
- What to Do When Your Child Falls Asleep During Independent Playtime
- What to Do When Your Kid Resists Independent Playtime
This post first appeared on this blog May 2011