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why vs. how

Adjusting for Context Using Babywise

January 23, 2025January 9, 2019 by valplowman
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How to be flexible when using On Becoming Babywise. Eleven examples of a Babywise Mom adjusted for context when the situation needed. On Becoming Babywise II reminds us of the …

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Categories Babywise Tags Babywise II, church, CIO, context, flexibility, why vs. how 2 Comments

Correcting Children: Look at “Why” not just “What”

March 15, 2021March 17, 2011 by valplowman
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When your child misbehaves, don’t just worry about what she did. Consider why and how you can change her heart for future actions. In the preface to the second edition …

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Categories Discipline Tags Shepherding a Child's Heart, why vs. how 5 Comments

Your Child Will Always Be Changing

March 15, 2021February 24, 2011 by valplowman
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Your child will always change. It is like learning a new computer each month–sometimes each day! Learn how to make it easier. “…not only am I coping with different kids, …

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Categories Parenting Tags Parenting breakthrough, why vs. how 4 Comments

You Really Need to Understand Why You Do What You Do

December 14, 2020December 16, 2010 by valplowman
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As a parent, you need to really understand the why behind your goals, rules, and policies. This is especially important for parenting siblings. I have talked many times about the …

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Categories Discipline Tags Parenting breakthrough, why vs. how 1 Comment

Unique Variables that Will Shape Your Pretoddler

August 14, 2024May 10, 2010 by valplowman
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Every child is unique and needs to be treated as an individual, even children who grow up in the same home. Read about these unique variables. The first chapter in …

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How to Solve Your Parenting Problems

May 2, 2020June 18, 2008 by valplowman
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How to Solve Your Parenting Problems Using Beliefs, Goals, Why, and How Before you read this post, be sure you have read these two posts: Beliefs and Goals (Toddlerwise) and …

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Things Not Working? Change Your Parenting Strategy

April 27, 2020April 2, 2008 by valplowman
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Inside: When things aren’t working out in your parenting journey, change your strategy until they do work. My husband and I really enjoy playing games of strategy. One of our …

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Valerie Plowman

Valerie Plowman, known as "the Babywise Mom", is the happy mother of four children. She has been helping parents with their parenting concerns since 2007 and loves helping others absolutely love being a parent.

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