Friday, December 5, 2008

Using Babywise Without Doing CIO

This post may contain affiliate links.
image source
I have had various questions over time about how to implement Babywise without doing CIO with baby. I thought this warranted a post for easy reference.

You can certainly use Babywise without having your baby cry it out (CIO). Parents have various reasons for wanting to do this. Many have a baby with reflux and crying really aggravates it. Their child cries and ends up throwing up. For some babies it also causes the acid to move up the esophagus, causing more pain. Some parents live in a place where neighbors can hear baby easily and they don't want to disrupt neighbors. Other parents simply do not want to do CIO. And let's all remember, no where in Babywise does it say you must do CIO.

Whatever the reason, you are not without options. There are plenty of parents out there to take what they want from Babywise and leave the rest. If this is what you choose to do, that is fine, but let me just caution against having expectations of achieving the results of Babywise without implementing all of Babywise. Babywise doesn't say you must do CIO, but it does say baby needs to learn to sleep on her own. CIO is the fastest way to achieve that (though not the only). Just keep that in mind. See this post for more on that idea: Other Parenting Books. And it makes sense--a baby won't be able to sleep all through the night unless she is able to fall asleep without help from external forces.

Here are a couple of ideas for you if you want to follow Babywise but don't want to/can't do CIO:

  • Work to teach your child how to self-soothe. The purpose of CIO is for your child to learn to self-soothe. That is the why behind the action. If you can't implement the how, think of a different how (see this post for more on why vs. how: Why vs. How ). One idea is to read and implement the Baby Whisperer's method for teaching to self-soothe. (see this article for a bit on it, my confusion, and be sure to see the readers comments for clarification Baby Whisperer: Sensible Sleep ). If at all possible, I would work to get your baby to self-soothe. With that ability, you can implement Babywise with no problem.
  • Do the eat/wake/sleep cycle. If you are willing to CIO but not yet, or for whatever reason don't want your child to self-soothe, you can at least do the routine. One word of caution is that you probably won't get long naps and sleeping through the night will probably take longer and/or be hard to attain. The cycle is a good start though. I started Brayden on this cycle a few weeks before we started CIO, and that alone made a difference for him. As your baby gets older, there are a lot more theories and practices that can help you in your parenting, such as independent playtime. You might get lucky and have a child who can learn to fall asleep without CIO.
  • Finally, and most importantly, if you start young and have a good routine, there is an excellent chance your child will not need CIO. I hate CIO as much as the next person. It isn't fun. I was diligent and consistent with my third and fourth children and they didn't need an extended CIO period (not to say the CIO never happened, but it was only a couple of naps overall). See these posts for more on how I did this: Sleep Training: The Four S's and Optimal Waketime Lengths.
Related Posts:
Reader Comments/Thank Yous:

1 comment:

Kaitlyn said...

Hi! My son will be seven weeks old on Saturday. We're attempting to get him on a schedule as of this week, but he's been waking up 30 minutes into his 1 1/2 hour nap and crying for the remainder. This makes feeding a very sleepy time for him! He likes the swing 60% of the time, but ultimately we want him to be able to sleep on his own without any props. Any suggestions on how to get him to self-soothe? I read your suggestion for the Baby Whisperer and was wondering if you had any other ideas on how to help them self-soothe that don't involve leaving him to cry for an hour. Thanks


Related Posts with Thumbnails