You might suddenly find yourself as stressed about food as you were when your child was a newborn. Things are changing, and you aren't quite sure what is normal and what isn't. Here are some common concerns:
- Drop in Appetite: This is an age range when most babies will severely drop the amount of food they eat each day. Most babies triple their birthweight in the first year, while in the second year they only add about a third of their birthweight (What to Expect the First Year, page 489). Food Amounts for Toddlers
- Weaning From Bottle: If you haven't weaned from the bottle yet, make it a goal to start during this period. Weaning: Breast, Bottle, and Formula: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/weaning-breast-bottle-and-formula.html
- Learning to Self-Feed: During this age range, most toddlers will start to want to feed themselves with a spoon. This will likely come closer to the end of this age range. Once your child shows interest, allow him to try. Expect a mess. So long as the mess is from your child just not being good at using the spoon yet rather than purposely making a mess, there is nothing to worry about (other than the fact that you have a mess to clean up). When letting him practice, be wise about what he practices with. Yogurt sticks to a spoon better than applesauce, for example. See Toddlers and Spoons
- Seeming Regression: You will likely find your child wants to feed himself and gets started. Then he decides that he wants you to feed him. You might then worry that he is regressing and will never feed himself. My son did this; I had that worry. Some children really want independence, but then want to be a little kid again. This might be an oldest child thing; Kaitlyn isn't like that. But it also might just be Brayden's personality. Rest assured that your child will get to the point of eating independently.
- Aligning Meals: If meals are not already in sync with the family, now is the time period to do so. Breakfast and lunch are most likely in line. Dinner is the harder one because most families eat dinner later than the child can make it. If so, offer a snack after the afternoon nap to hold baby over. You could even just do the liquid feeding at that point without any solid foods. Be sure to monitor the snack by paying attention to your child's appetite at dinner. If he isn't eating like he should, the snack was likely too large. Solids: Aligning Meals with the Family: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/12/solids-aligning-meals-with-family.html
- Good Meals/Bad Meals: I have found that toddlers will often have a "bad" meal each day where they seem to eat nothing at all. They usually counter this with a "good" meal where they eat a lot. Transition yourself to looking at food intake as a whole each day rather than just each meal. It is normal for a toddler to have meals where he doesn't eat much, even for a toddler.
- Eating What Family Eats: During this time period, you will likely start to feed your child whatever the family is eating. There will obviously be some things he can't eat because of safety (choking) or the food just isn't appropriate for that age of a child yet. But other things can be given. Some toddlers will still stay on pureed baby food during this time period. See Solids: When Do You Stop Babyfood and Move to "Real" Food?: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2007/12/solids-when-do-you-stop-babyfood-and.html
- Dropping the 4th Feeding: Most toddlers will drop the fourth liquid feeding during this age range, though not all. Brayden kept it until 18 months. See Dropping the 4th Feeding
- Bib Use: During this age range, Brayden was done with the bib. Your toddler is now watching everyone more closely and he will soon realize he is the only one eating with a bib. Kaitlyn continued her bib use through this stage, however.
Sleep should be of little worry during this stage. There are a couple of things that can come up:
- Dropping the Morning Nap: Some babies are ready to drop the morning nap as early as 14 months. But be aware that most will be closer to 18 months. If you start having napping trouble, see this post: Dropping the Morning Nap (from 2 to 1 naps): Transition Time
- You Slack on Consistency: As your baby becomes a toddler, you might start to slack on the consistency of meals and naps. You might start offering too many snacks or staying out during naptime. Be aware that eating patterns affect sleeping patterns and sleeping patterns affect eating patterns. This is not a time to stop concerning yourself with consistent naps. Your toddler might be able to miss one every so often, but don't make it a habit.
For most toddlers in this age range, independent playtime will continue in the playpen. At some point, you might transition to roomtime. See:
- Independent Playtime: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/independent-playtime.html
- Independent Playtime Lengths
- independent playtime (blog label)
Up to this point, structured playtime has been independent playtime. Now you add another element to your day. Structured playtime is when Mom decides the activity. This is a good thing for your toddler to learn to accept; in educational settings (and life), we don't always get to choose what we do. This time can be art, music, puzzles, or other learning activities. The child can work alone or with a parent or sibling (see below). See structured playtime (blog label) for more.
SIBLING PLAYTIMEIf your toddler has siblings, you can have sibling playtime. This can overlap with other activities if needed. For example, the siblings can both color at the table together. Or maybe they will go outside to play together for outside time. During this age range for Kaitlyn, I started to allow Brayden and Kaitlyn to be alone for longer increments, though still not very long. I always monitored them, also, after an interesting experience.
One time, they were playing in the sandbox together. Kaitlyn was about 12 or 13 months old, which put Brayden just under or at three years old. I ran inside to get something to work on the garden (which is right by to the sandbox). I was not gone for more than a few minutes. When I came back, I found Brayden had kindly turned on the hose and washed Kaitlyn's lower body off since it was sandy. This was a moment of childishness for him; he did not know there was anything wrong with it. She didn't object in the least. I realized I needed to instruct more before leaving them alone outside together. I also needed to observe more before being out of eye sight so I could grasp the things Brayden might do. I never imagined he would use the hose on her. I actually didn't know he was capable of turning it on himself. It was really quite funny, but not something I let Brayden see I found amusing.
ONE-ON-ONE TIME WITH PARENTS
Continue to be sure to incorporate one-on-one time with each parent each day. This can overlap with structured playtime. Mommy or Daddy can sit at the table with the toddler while he colors and join in the coloring.
The older your toddler gets, the more he will enjoy playing with friends. At this age, play is still very much in tandem; they don't really interactively play with each other. But being in each other's presence is fun.
It is fun to do activities together as a family. You might go for walks, read books, work in the yard, go out to dinner...the possibilities are endless.
Bath time can be a fun time to get water play in. It is a good opportunity for your child to fulfill that curiosity with water. What happens when I dump a cup of water out? Your child can figure that out in the tub. Best Toys for Baby: Bath Toys
Continue to work on this.
- Sign Language: It isn't too late to start this. I started Brayden during this age range. Watch for words that would help your child avoid tantrums. If you have been doing this for a while, you can most likely do a new word each day, or at least several per week. Sign Language
- Reading: Reading is a fun activity to have as one-on-one time with a parent. Be sure to point to the objects in the book and name them for your toddler. Non-BW: The Value of Reading: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/01/non-bw-value-of-reading.html
- Talk Back: When your child talks to you, listen and talk back. Keep in mind the principles from the previous making it through the day post for ages 9-12 months old.
- Language Development
You can continue the activities you have been doing outside (walks, hikes, etc.). Here are some other ideas:
- Sandbox: The sandbox is a fun place to play.
- Mimic: Toddlers love to mimic their parents. If you garden, you might get some gardening toys for your toddler. If you have a lawn to mow, a lawnmower.
- Bubbles: This is always fascinating for the toddler.
- Outside Toys: See this post for outside toy ideas: Baby Stuff I Love: Outdoor Toys
You can add some time for the arts. You might dance, sing, and/or draw. It is wonderful to pass on your passion to your children, but also be sure you expose them to arts that aren't necessarily your interest. For example, I love to sing and I love to dance. It is quite natural for me to expose my children to these items. I am not an artist when it comes to drawing, painting, etc. These are activities I have to make a conscious effort to add to our day because it isn't a natural interest of mine.
Your child's interest will continue to mature as he gets older. See this post: Best Toys for Baby: 12-18 Months
Your toddler will start to show interest in certain subjects. Is it trucks? Perhaps a car show would be of interest. Maybe he is interested in animals? The zoo might be a fun trip. Look around your area for age and interest-appropriate museums to visit.
You might be especially interested in learning activities now. See these posts:
- Factors that Influence Learning
- The Learning Process (Toddlerwise)
- Critical Phase of Learning: Toddlerwise
- Blog label learning
There are a lot of discipline concerns during the toddler years. Here are posts pertinent to this age group:
- Proactive and Directive Parenting
- Boundaries (Toddlerwise)
- Boundaries: Part II (Toddlerwise)
- Controlling the Young Temper
- Get To Know Your Child's Personality: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/get-to-know-your-childs-personality.html
- Hand Folding: Establishing Self-Control: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/hand-folding-establishing-self-control.html
- The "Mini-fit"
- Problem Solving Using Beliefs, Goals, Why, and How
- Substitution: Toddlerwise
- Tantrums and Discipline: http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/2008/02/tantrums.html
- Tantrums: Stop and Think
- The Choice Addiction (for Toddlers)
- Training in Times of Non-Conflict
- "Yes Mom"
- See the blog label discipline
- Toddlerwise: On Becoming Toddlerwise is written for ages 1-2 years old. Be sure to read it. On Becoming Toddlerwise
- Why vs. How: PLEASE be sure to read this post: Why vs. How
- Toys in Bed
- Creating a "Good Helper"
- Beliefs and Goals (Toddlerwise)
- Overstimulation for Toddlers
- Change Your Strategy
- Parenting Skills: Look to Yourself First
- Sample Schedules: One Year and Up
- Dentist: I don't know when you will take your toddler to the dentist. I start at one year, so here are my Dentist Tips
- See the blog label toddlerwise