Thursday, April 8, 2010

Blog Index For Newborns

our children at 3 months old

I have A LOT of posts for you to read. You might want to start here: Must-Read Posts to Prep for Baby

This post has all posts for the newborn age listed. See also the "newborn" blog label or the index for newborns by topic.

Baby Stuff I Love:
    Car Seats:
    Cry It Out (see CIO Blog Index for all posts on CIO):

      Dreamfeed: (see also Dreamfeed Blog Index)
      Family Dynamics:
      Feeding: (see also Breastfeeding/Nursing and Bottles)
      General Info:
      Getting Started:

        Growth Spurts:
        Independent Playtime (see also Indpendent Playtime Blog Index):
        More Than Making It Though The Day:
        Naps: (see also "Cry It Out" above)
        Newborn Summaries:
        • See Newborn Blog Index for a list of all Newborn Summaries. Or click on the "Newborn Summary" blog label.


        Pep Talks:
        Physical Development

        Pre-Term Babies:
        Problem Solving:
        Reader Questions:
        Schedules/Daily Routine:
        Sleeping Through the Night (STTN):
        Sleepy Newborns:
        Starting Routine/Schedule Late:
        Theory (for reading when you "have time"):
        Thumb/Finger Sucking:
        Witching Hour:


        Tracy said...

        I've been meaning to tell you this for awhile, but this post pushed me over the edge.

        You are AWESOME. This had to have taken you so much time, and I just don't know how you do it. You are doing such a good thing helping other moms out there. I don't have any newborns (mine are 19-months old) but you are my go-to blog when I have run into a hiccup.

        Thank you for all you do.

        Daisy said...

        ditto! you need to write a book...with the number of blog followers you have, it would be a guaranteed hit :)

        Heather Meadows Marshall said...

        Thank you SO much for posting this - I'm having a baby girl in about 8 more weeks & have been trying to read through a lot of the topics. This makes it so much easier! Love your blog!

        capturingsubtleties said...
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        Plowmanators said...

        lol, thanks Tracy! It did take a long, long time. I will be making indexes for all age ranges. Hopefully that will be helpful to people.

        Plowmanators said...

        Thanks Daisy! I am actually working on several books. I just can't decide exactly which topic to do...hmmm...maybe I will ask readers their opinions :)

        Plowmanators said...

        You are welcome Heather!

        Kari.adkins said...

        I am a true believer in Babywise. It is my standard gift when I find out someone is pregnant. This website is unbelievable! I was looking for some refresher information to help a friend and stumbled across your site. I will definitely be passing it along! Thank you so much!!

        Kari.adkins said...

        I am a true believer in Babywise. It is my standard gift when I find out someone is pregnant. This website is unbelievable! I was looking for some refresher information to help a friend and stumbled across your site. I will definitely be passing it along! Thank you so much!!

        Stephanie said...

        Hello!! I kind of have a question about several different things! I've been doing a ton of reading and I'm seeing topics on my questions, but I was looking for more direct answers if possible :) First I'll start with saying my daughter is 2 1/2 weeks old, and these are the issues I'm wondering about:
        Does "waketime" include feeding time?

        Is 2 1/2 weeks too early to start a consistent morning waketime? Do you still feed at the desired waketime even if you just fed 1-2 hours ago when on a 3-hr schedule? If the baby wakes in the night crying and won't go back to sleep, is it okay to feed even if it hasn't been 3 hours yet?

        Do you put the baby to bed for the night after the 7pm feeding? And this won't interfere with the amount of sleep during the night? I know sleep begets sleep, but it just seems like she won't stay asleep after nighttime feedings when she's sleeping so much in the evening. It also seems kind of silly that I'm basically just staying up holding her waiting for her last feeding when it seems all the both of us want to do is sleep. I guess I kinda thought that if she's sleeping in my arms or swing out in the living room, she won't be in as deep of a sleep as if she was swaddled back in her bed and then maybe she'd sleep more soundly after her last feeding. Does that make sense at all??

        If last feeding is at 7pm, is a dreamfeed at 10pm too early? Or if the last feeding is at 8pm, is it still okay to dreamfeed at 10 or 10:30 even though it hasn't been 3 hours? Also if feeding schedule gets a little off due to the witching hour and assuming this is between the 7pm and 10pm feedings and you feed at 9 maybe, would you still dreemfeed at 10 or 10:30 or would the 9 then be the last until the baby wakes on her own in the night? Would this interfere with establishing a consistent bedtime?

        Also, what if the baby is napping and wakes 1/2 hour to 45 mins before the next scheduled feeding and just cries until it's time to eat? If I feed at that time, it pushes the whole rest of the day up which would also interfere with the bedtime. I'd say to maybe push another feeding back to get back on the same time, but I also heard never to let the baby go more than 3 hrs during the day because that would interfere with her nighttime sleep.

        Thank you so much for your help, wisdom, and time!!

        Plowmanators said...


        Yes, waketime includes feeding time.

        No, 2.5 weeks isn't too early to shoot for a consistent morning wake time. See my post called "early morning feedings before waketime" to see what I do when it hasn't been three hours yet.

        Yes, I put baby down after the 7 PM feeding for the night. This is the bedtime. Don't think of that as evening for a baby. Think of it as bedtime. My oldest is 6 and still has bedtime around 8 PM. I would put her in her bed, not hold her.

        No, 10 PM dreamfeed is not too early. If feeding at 8, I would do 10:30. You could try 10 though and see how it goes.

        If you fed at 9, I would consider that the dreamfeed for the night. Dreamfeed is not bedtime, so don't worry about that.

        Be sure there is no growth spurt going on. See my posts on naps to figure out how to get longer naps, but the first step is to check for growth spurt (see posts on that). Good luck!

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        Cristyn said...

        thank you for this wonderful blog. my son is now 4 weeks old, born 2 weeks early at 38 weeks and in NICU for 1 week with severe jaundice and anemia and came home VERY tired. we woke every 3 hours for feedings around the clock but all he did was sleep until about 1 week ago he became more alert after he had a blood transfusion. he is having some wake time now 2-3 times per day. however at night for the last few evenings he fusses all night. not crying, buy fussy and grunting. he has gas and we give drops with each feed. he just cannot settle. we feed every 3.5 hours, pumped milk or formula. does he have nights/days confused? do we need to put him in another room to start sleep at a certain time? right niw we follow schedule and he sleeps in our room from 11 pm-8 am, feeding him twice.

        kelsie said...

        I have two kids. One is two and the other is 6 weeks old. With my 2 year old by the time she was 6 weeks old she was waking up twice a night to eat then would go straight back to bed with no crying and would sleep until the next feeding. She slept through the night around 9 weeks. With my new baby I am starting to lose hope! Since he was born we have been on the 3 hour feeding cycle and doing E/W/S. We have had our good days of naps and our bad days. On the bad days I have had him CIO and it doesn't work. He will cry for an hour and a half and not fall asleep. Even on good days he usually wont take a fourth nap and he definitely has witching hour from 8-10 pm. Sometimes during witching hour I can get him to sleep but others I either have to hold him or put him in the swing. The part that Im starting to lose hope on is the night time sleep. He usually wakes up around 1am. I feed on one side, change diaper, feed on the next side and will put him back to bed. He usually goes down great on this one. Then the majority of nights he will wake back up 2 hours later at 3 am. I have tried the binki and it doesn't work. I ll usually have to hold him till he falls back asleep then He will wake back up around 4 or 430 to eat again. Now this is the one Im having a hard time with. He cant go back to sleep on his own after this feeding. I either have to hold him or put him in the swing. We are doing the same wake time everyday. It just seems odd that he isn't catching on by now and is waking up three times a night. Any suggestions on what I could be doing wrong? Do some babywise babies do this at this point? It seems like most dont :(

        Valerie Plowman said...

        It could be a wonder week issue. But I would think there is something going on. Does he have reflux? Is he cold or hot? Does he need to be swaddled? Does he need white noise? Is he up too long in the day?

        Melissa Turner said...

        I love your blog! Could I email you my newborn's schedule to get your opinion? He is 7 weeks and I've been working on his schedule for about 2 weeks.

        Valerie Plowman said...

        You can but honestly, emailed questions rarely get answered. You ell have better luck posting it here or on the Facebook page.

        Shannon Ford said...

        First of all I love your site! I need help! We have a few issues that I am sure you could help me with:) we have a 10 week old little boy. He is a terrible sleeper so I am trying to follow the baby wise routine in hopes he will sleep better. #1.) our oldest don gets on the bus at 8:50 and gets off the bus at 3:45. The baby and I have to walk him to and from the bus stop. What daily schedule would you set up knowing those two factors? There's not much else in our day that we have to work around so I'm open to any schedule! #2.) he will not sleep longer then 45 mins for a nap. I am positive he isn't hungry. I'm wondering if he just can't self soothe. We just started toCIO today so I'm hoping that will help. He is constantly exhausted and miserable because he isn't sleeping long enough. Any recommendations for this? Thanks so much!

        Shannon Ford said...

        It should say son not don:)

        Valerie Plowman said...

        Hi Shannon,

        For the short naps, I would say wait and see how he does after some time with CIO.

        For the schedule--

        If you could get him up at 8, feed him, and then walk to the bus and get back and put him right back down.

        Then you would feed at 11 and 2...but that would put getting him up early from a nap. You could do 1:30 instead, have him down by 2:30, then get him up just before you leave to go get your older son and feed baby when you get back.

        Is there someone you could have either pick up your son for you or watch your baby for you? That can be helpful when doing drop offs and pick ups.

        Megan said...


        I have a question. My baby is 2 weeks and 3 days old. I have been trying to get him on a schedule loosely since we came home. He has been eating on a 7, 930-1000, 100, 400, 630, 900, 1130, and 330-400 am schedule. My question is 2 parts: 1. I wake him up for every feeding. He has not been waking on his own for the most part - with the exception at the night time feeding sometimes. If he isn't waking, should I just let him sleep and extend this time? 2. my wake time as I said is 7. The last two mornings he has woken up before this. Yesterday he woke up at 630 and today at 6. I have been trying to adjust feedings through the day to get back on our schedule. I read that I should have fed him just enough at 6 this morning and put him back down. Can you tell me if I am doing this correct and what to do if they do get off schedule slightly? Could this just be a sign of a growth spurt?

        Shannon Ford said...

        Hi Valerie,
        I have another question. I am trying so hard to get him on a schedule with no luck. He's still having trouble napping longer then 45 mins so it's throwing off our schedule. He consistently wakes at 6:30 am and goes to bed at 8pm. We do his feeding at 8 but he is still waking in the night. Usually around 1am and again at 4am. So then when he wakes for the day at 6:30 he isn't hungry but is hungry again right before he needs to have a nap. Then to make it even more confusing he will only nap for 45-50 minutes so he's not hungry when he wakes up. Makes it difficult to follow wake eat play sleep:( when he wakes in the night for his feeding at 1ish he is starving. He eats that bottle faster then any other. Any help on how to get him on a schedule would be wonderful since I feel so lost:)

        Valerie Plowman said...

        Hi Megan--sorry I didn't see your question until now!

        At that age, it is very normal to have to wake baby for every feeding. I wouldn't extend feeding lengths yet.

        It could be a growth spurt, but hopefully by now you have read my post on early morning wakings. I outline many options of what to do there.

        Let me know if you are still having issues.

        Valerie Plowman said...

        Shannon, do you do a dreamfeed? I would do that.

        For naps, the trick is figuring out why he is waking. You can't fix the early waking without knowing why it is happening. See my napping posts for help there--especially the troubleshooting naps.

        Megan said...

        Hi again,

        Thanks for getting back to me. My baby is 6 weeks old now and I'm trying to figure out if we are doing the right thing or on the right track to STTN. I am formula feeding due to some issues we had with breastfeeding and latching. I started out giving him 3 ounces every 3 hours and that wasn't holding him. We increased to 4 ounces every 4 hours and seemed to be doing better. I wake him at those times during the day and after the 11:00 feeding, we let him sleep until he wakes up. My wake time is 7. So we feed at 7,11, 3, 7, and 11 at night. He is usually up for about an hour and a half and then sleeps for 2 and a half. One thing is he is still sleeping in our room so I don't really have a bedtime routine and am not sure if I would do that after the 7 feeding or after the 11? He will usually wake up around 3:30-3:45 in the middle of the night. I get up, change him, feed him, and he goes back to sleep if he stays swaddled with no problem. He will wake up between 6:30-7:00 am. I have tried giving him the pacifier in the middle of the night to get him to drop that feeding but he doesn't take it. I'm not sure when he wakes up if he is just waking up because that's what we do during the day or if he is actually hungry. In the baby wise book, it says he should be sleeping 3.5-4 hours at 3-6 weeks. I feel like he should be starting to stretch that now that he is getting bigger and on formula. Do you have any suggestions?



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